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I think harry is really brave

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ssd · 21/05/2021 09:18

Talking about his mental health. Starting talking is the hardest bit. I have to start the conversation and i cant. And i can usually talk for Britain.
I admire him.

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Summercocktailsinthesnow · 21/05/2021 10:45

When I think that his grandfather was only buried last month, Prince Philip and the mourning and sadness that must be awful for the Queen and the family, it really is beyond the pale to do this under any circumstances.

Harry launched the devastating OW interview whilst Prince Phillip lay dying hospital, and Harry did not even bother to visit him in the last weeks and days of his life, and instead he choose to attack them instead in full view of the world.

Only a few weeks later berating the kind of life he inherited from the Queen and Prince Philip.

How can anyone not see how deeply cruel this is?

I really can't believe anyone could be so unkind at a moment of such vulnerability in the midst of bereavement and loss. It is anything but brave!!! No wonder several members of the royal family turned their back on him. He is an angry outcast that will do anything to hurt them.

DelilahDingleberry · 21/05/2021 10:47

I’m a big royal fan @mumoblue but I agree with you. This all strikes me as a desperate attempt to be heard, after all else has failed.

DifferentHair · 21/05/2021 10:47

I agree, I hope he has support to deal with this bullshit people keep throwing at him.

He's a human being, he didn't chose any of this.

He is helping others when he speaks out. If you can't relate to how dysfunctional and hurtful a family of origin can be- then LUCKY YOU. Be grateful your family loved and protected you in a way that so many others- regardless of class, money, ethnicity or background- do not. People don't turn their backs on their family on a whim.

Nomorepies · 21/05/2021 10:48

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DelilahDingleberry · 21/05/2021 10:48

The whole point about mental health stigma is that people are told to go away and be quiet and all of this is just the same. Do it privately. Go away. We don’t want to hear it. We don’t want to know your experience. It’s literally stigma in action.

Myphone · 21/05/2021 10:49

@NellWilsonsWhiteHair

OP, in kindness, I'm not sure this thread will be much good for you. I wish you much strength in getting your own mental health to a better place, and in talking about it with the people around you, and if Prince Harry's media appearances help you with that then more power to you, genuinely. Flowers

I feel mixed about what he's doing - I empathise with the pain he's carrying but it looks more like lashing out than anything admirable from my perspective. God knows how much truth we ever get by the time its all filtered through the press, though.

Hi OP, sage advice from @NellWilsonsWhiteHair. I feel like PH won’t look back at these interviews with pride in later years. There are many many great advocates of mental health who have articulated their struggles when they are in a healthy place. I hope you find the help you are looking for.
Mrsjayy · 21/05/2021 10:50

I think living in the royal family would be claustrophobic and I don't dispute he was unhappy but he is now making his money talking about his "Mental health" and how terrible it all was to the media. The exact people he insisted ruined his life he isn't brave for doing this he is earning his money.

Eviebeans · 21/05/2021 10:50

The same is happening to him as happened to Diana- n terms of being exploited by press-I don't understand why he doesn't see that

RaraRachael · 21/05/2021 10:51

Sorry but I can't agree.

Summercocktailsinthesnow · 21/05/2021 10:52

Op I wish you well with your own mental health, and I hope you find a safe place and person to talk to about your feelings. I don't think selling your difficulties for money is a good example to others, personally, but I hope you feel better soon Flowers

Blondiney · 21/05/2021 10:52

@Eviebeans

The same is happening to him as happened to Diana- n terms of being exploited by press-I don't understand why he doesn't see that
He has someone extremely manipulative whispering in his ear. Probably.
Bluntness100 · 21/05/2021 10:53

@DelilahDingleberry

The whole point about mental health stigma is that people are told to go away and be quiet and all of this is just the same. Do it privately. Go away. We don’t want to hear it. We don’t want to know your experience. It’s literally stigma in action.
That’s so so not what’s happening here. If Harry was talking about his mental health, his emotions, his therapy, his treatment, his recoveries, what worked for him, what different, how he found therapy etc he would have support.

He is not. He barely gives a passing nod to mental health. It’s merely a foot note. He is simply using that platform to trash talk about his family. That’s what people are questioning.

MondayYogurt · 21/05/2021 10:53

I'm really glad my mother didn't die in a televised car crash when I was 12.

ineedaholidaynow · 21/05/2021 10:53

I'm sure a good therapist would not advise him to do all these public interviews etc to help his mental health

reprehensibleme · 21/05/2021 10:54

But it's doing no good at all, to Harry particularly. Putting himself on the world stage, trashing his family, is helping no-one with mental health issues. Raising awareness of how to access help, raising the issue of how difficult it is for MOST people to access help, raising funds to help people access help - all good. What he is actually doing is helping no-one.

DelilahDingleberry · 21/05/2021 10:55

A good therapist would support him to do what was right for him.

MyDarlingWhatIfYouFly · 21/05/2021 10:56

Just a reminder to those who think that Harry is being unfair to his family - Charles has also spoken about this. This is an extract from an authorised biography of Charles - it's a dysfunctional family and Harry is breaking the cycle. Good for him.

I think harry is really brave
ForgedInFire · 21/05/2021 10:56

Personally I'm getting tired of all the talking about mental health when professional help is so hard to access on the NHS. But that's not Harry's fault of course.

ThursdayWeld · 21/05/2021 10:57

@MondayYogurt

I'm really glad my mother didn't die in a televised car crash when I was 12.
And then you were made to walk through the streets of London behind her coffin, being televised around the world.

What Harry has been through is unimaginable. He seems to be lashing out a lot now, and I hope he doesn't regret it in the future, but I feel very sorry for him.

Pinkypink · 21/05/2021 10:57

@BrownEyedGirl80 agreed.
I am sorry they have both suffered and I believe he really thinks he is blazing a trail but his confessions are designed to make him and his sponsors relevant and richer.

70smillie · 21/05/2021 10:58

I'm horrified by what he's doing but not because I want him to go away.

He's obviously at such an early stage of dealing with all this (and if this isn't an early stage then his therapy to date has failed him), that whoever is advising/tempting him to put all this into the public arena that he says destroyed his mother should be thoroughly ashamed.

He is being as used and destroyed just as much as Diana was. We are not watching empowerment or a mental health advocation , we are watching the media (yes including Oprah) collude in yet another act of destruction.

OuiOuiKitty · 21/05/2021 10:58

He is helping others when he speaks out. If you can't relate to how dysfunctional and hurtful a family of origin can be- then LUCKY YOU. Be grateful your family loved and protected you in a way that so many others- regardless of class, money, ethnicity or background- do not. People don't turn their backs on their family on a whim.

My family were appalling but I still think Prince Harry is only doing all of these interviews for the money and the back pats. What are endless Oprah interviews actually going to do to help people who have had traumatic childhoods and who now suffer from mental health issues? I can't afford therapy, I doubt Oprah wants to sit down and chat to me, what am I supposed to be learning from him talking about how awful his life is? How is he helping people?

KFleming · 21/05/2021 10:59

I thought it was Meghan who had mental health problems? How come it's all about Harry's mental health now? Why is she not joining him on the therapy couch

Maybe she just doesn’t want to? That seems perfectly reasonable.

Sirzy · 21/05/2021 10:59

70smillie - spot on, that’s what I was thinking but couldn’t verbalise

MrPickles73 · 21/05/2021 10:59

It's good to talk but talking on TV and being paid millions doesn't strike me as helpful or brave.

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