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I think harry is really brave

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ssd · 21/05/2021 09:18

Talking about his mental health. Starting talking is the hardest bit. I have to start the conversation and i cant. And i can usually talk for Britain.
I admire him.

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NellWilsonsWhiteHair · 21/05/2021 10:28

OP, in kindness, I'm not sure this thread will be much good for you. I wish you much strength in getting your own mental health to a better place, and in talking about it with the people around you, and if Prince Harry's media appearances help you with that then more power to you, genuinely. Flowers

I feel mixed about what he's doing - I empathise with the pain he's carrying but it looks more like lashing out than anything admirable from my perspective. God knows how much truth we ever get by the time its all filtered through the press, though.

DelilahDingleberry · 21/05/2021 10:30

I am appalled at the way people are talking about mental health on this site today. Absolutely appalled.

70smillie · 21/05/2021 10:30

The arrested development theory is very interesting. He does sound just extremely immature. I can actually imagine my 13 year old displaying the same feelings without any wisdom or life experience.

He hasn't realised that a lot of people's lives are extremely complex and riddled with bereavement, divorce and trauma, often with crippling poverty and abuse thrown in. It's not as much a USP as he thinks and what people are paying him millions for is the gossipy details he thinks he despises. He is literally feeding the machine.

Pyewackect · 21/05/2021 10:30

@parsnipsnotsprouts

Really? I think he’s making a career out of whining
Me too.
Summercocktailsinthesnow · 21/05/2021 10:31

There is nothing brave about selling your trauma to the highest bidder, at the expense of your own family and children.

EvenRosesHaveThorns · 21/05/2021 10:32

The queen is old and her husband just died. Is this the time and the place? He should wait and reflect and adjust to life outside the royals before unleashing 'facts' such as Diana died because she was with someone who wasn't white.. the media hounded her whatever she was doing

52andblue · 21/05/2021 10:32

@cooperage

It's brave to ask for help when you're suffering inside.

It's brave to approach the people you believe had a role in your suffering and address it with them in private.

It's not brave to get paid to slag off your family to Oprah and the world's media. That's very cowardly.

Points 1 & 2, yes I agree.

3: perhaps he's tried to speak to his family over the years to no avail? I suspect we will never know but it seems not unlikely to me?

If what PH says about PC comments: 'well it was that way for me so you'll have to just get on with it' is true then I have no sympathy for PC. He carried on an affair whilst his children were being born and when they were very young. Admittedly, PDi later behaved selfishly too. All details (remember the 'Tampax King') luridly splashed all over the papers when the boys still at School. The kids MH was collateral damage. PH then lost his mother in the most shocking way at the age of 12 and was made to follow her coffin through London whilst strangers sobbed. Charles may have had a lonely childhood but it wasn't like PH's. I think a lot of his Trauma got very stuck and is being triggered by media attention with his marriage, becoming a Father, PP funeral etc. The fact that PH is becoming caught up in a media swirl whilst he decries the media shows how traumatised his I think, if he feels this is the only way to get his truth out?
PW will consolidate as the golden child & PC playing the victim as per. I do feel rather sorry for the Queen, but then I'd like to see the Monarchy disbanded after her demise as I think she was the last of a generation to put Duty first.

Mulletsaremisunderstood · 21/05/2021 10:32

Yes, it's pretty distasteful to regurgitate all this for his own gain. Of course he has trauma, like many others have, as I'm sure his own brother has.

If he wanted to go away and #livehisbestlife then he should do so, without all the fanfare. They could forgo their titles and live a more private life, which they claim to want.

But of course, that wouldn't allow them to profit, and wouldn't give her the validation she craves. Without the titles, nobody would be interested in them. And they need a selling point to 'build their brand'.
She seems to have an agenda, and he doesn't notice or care that she is dragging him down with her.

Both of them levelled lots of accusations against his family which they know the RF will not really be able to respond to. Not to mention the distorted tales (lies?!) that were told and easily refuted (the early wedding, the title for archie debacle, not being able to get therapy).

If you want to proffer yourself as some sort of role model, or thought leader, which it seems they are doing - then your words and actions matter. 'One act of compassion at a time'....and then they go on tv and trash their family.
There's an incongruence between what they say and what are doing. They want privacy, but they move to LA and do a round of very revealing interviews. They bang on about equality, but don't forget to call him Prince and her Duchess.

Thankfully people in the UK and the US can see through their act, and will tire of them pretty quickly.

Stressedtoddlermum · 21/05/2021 10:33

If this way your family member would you think it’s brave?

It’s all about the money. He’s not doing it to help anyone but himself. Plus he is clearly being exploited and will no doubt regret it. I mean, I understand to some extent they need to make money now while they’ll still relevant- but they should have drawn the line at the 100m Netflix deal and not publicly trashed his entire family.

Blondiney · 21/05/2021 10:34

I suspect his openness will be something he'll look back on and regret bitterly.

CornishGem1975 · 21/05/2021 10:35

I used to like him, but I think they are quickly showing the world exactly who they are and it's not doing them any good whatsoever. They need to step back. I know he talks about mental health a lot but I am actually starting to think he's quite unwell and some time away from the media is much needed.

DelilahDingleberry · 21/05/2021 10:37

Yes if it was my family member I would think they were brave. Incredibly brave. Speaking out against an abusive and neglectful family is terrifying.

amusedtodeath1 · 21/05/2021 10:37

I have a lot of sympathy for Harry, clearly he has suffered, yes he's been brave, but he's not very astute if he thinks that he isn't being exploited just like his Mum was.

I worry that he's having a breakdown and doesn't realise it or that when he looks back on this period of his life he will wonder WTF he was thinking.

He's not coming across well in these interviews tbh, too much contradiction, too much foot in mouth.

It's all just incredibly sad IMO.

anon12345678901 · 21/05/2021 10:37

Harry has a victim mentality. He's not brave. I've suffered with poor mental health and I've also studied mental health so I do have sympathy for anyone who suffers from it. But he's not actually helping, he's simply using it to insult his family and make people feel sorry for him. If he wants to continue talking to the media he cannot complain about the media talking about him, in a way he does not want. You cannot have it both ways.

DelilahDingleberry · 21/05/2021 10:38

And all this “doing it for money”. Err. If he’d staying in The Firm and kept schtum I’m pretty sure he’d probably have a lot more money.

Turtles4543 · 21/05/2021 10:38

Brave Confused no

BetterLeague · 21/05/2021 10:40

Oh dear oh me.

History is repeating itself. Diana was exploited by the media, now Harry is.

He looks unwell.
I thought it was Meghan who had mental health problems? How come it's all about Harry's mental health now? Why is she not joining him on the therapy couch?

Super cringe. I wonder what his children will make of their mum and dad's behaviour when they are old enough to google. It's all become rather tacky.

reprehensibleme · 21/05/2021 10:41

Delilah, there has been nothing whatsoever to suggest Harry's family have been abusive and neglectful towards him. He is speaking 'his truth' which appears to be a way of being able to say anything you like without being called out on it.

Seriously think he needs to step right back, pursue therapy and stop doing interviews which will probably come back and haunt him in years to come.

dappymonster · 21/05/2021 10:41

@Bluntness100

Have you not listened to any of the interviews? Harry isn’t talking about his mental health. That’s just the platform he’s using, there is nothing being discussed about Harry’s therapy, reactions, treatments, recoveries, nothing,

Harry is purely selling the story of his up bringing, but only the juicy bad bits. There is little to nothing about his mental health in there.

This!
52andblue · 21/05/2021 10:42

I'm aware that the Queen didn't get to choose her life either and famously was forced to become Queen at a young age after the sudden death of her Father so also had a very difficult time.

I have no idea whether she has ever had or wanted any sort of therapy for the challenges she has faced whilst trying to maintain 'Duty'.
But I do feel that just because she and to some extent Charles were forced to live that way it doesn't mean that PH / descendants should.

Cakemonger · 21/05/2021 10:42

You're right op, he is Flowers

PuffItsGone · 21/05/2021 10:43

He’s a fool.

Chloemol · 21/05/2021 10:43

None is not
What’s brave is talking about mental health issues, empathising with others, using his privilege to help others

Whilst he talks about his MH he is also completely slating his family, who are unable to respond, living a me me me life, wanting his titles, security etc but not having to work for it, and selling himself to the devil with deals with Netflix etc

What would be brave is him shutting up whinging, quietly getting on with charity work he says he wants to do, and truly helping others, who like him, have suffered with their MH

SaturdayRocks · 21/05/2021 10:43

Harry needs to live a life like most people - privately, surrounded by friends and family.

He couldn’t if he wanted it. Note: he doesn’t want to.

Mumoblue · 21/05/2021 10:45

Those saying he should just talk to his family - if you believe the royal family sits down and has involved conversations about their mental health and then hugs it out I’ve got a fucking bridge to sell you.

I can’t stand the royals, personally. I usually just ignore any news about them.