What's been "mansplained" to you recently?

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My DP is a mansplainer extraordinaire. We were walking along the coast toward a famous (in these parts) lighthouse.

He told me what a lighthouse was.

@NeverDropYourMoonCup Please please tell me you told him it was you! And that he fled in embarrassment!

I once got a taxi from the airport to the flat I had just moved to with my boyfriend, 15 min away. Admittedly I didn't drive and wouldn't have known how to get there by car from the airport, but assumed the taxi driver would.

The taxi driver told me that street didn't exist. I said it definitely did, because I lived there. He insisted that it didn't, and that it must be [insert street with vaguely similar name]. I asked if he didn't have a GPS. He did, under the seat in an ice-cream tub. Last updated c.1998. Obviously, it agreed with him that my flat, built a few years ago, didn't exist.

He took me to vaguely-similar-name street and only made an effort to find mine when I refused to pay and threatened to call the police.

My builders keep helpfully guiding me out of my drive.
Like I never managed without them!

@Orphlids

I’m a photographer. I estimate that if I’m doing a family shoot, in approximately 60% of cases, the man will offer me advice on using my camera. Never once has a woman done this.

You should quote an extra tenner, then knock it off at the end of the session if there hasn't been any mansplaining. That's what my dog groomer does the first time she gets a new dog in, if the dog doesn't bite the owner pays €10 less.

I’m a photographer. I estimate that if I’m doing a family shoot, in approximately 60% of cases, the man will offer me advice on using my camera. Never once has a woman done this

Recently a female professional photographer posted on our village FB page about a community project she was running, promoting it with a lovely photo of a village scene.

The first comment was some twit mansplaining how to zoom and crop the photo and suggesting that she might like to experiment with black and white, as it can produce some good effects.

Yesterday I commented to DH that the Covid figures for Argentina are really bad, even worse than India. He blathered on at me about statistics and how India’s vast total population made their Covid figures seem less bad than they are. Or something.

Today he announced “Have you seen the Covid figures for Argentina? It’s really bad! The worst in the world!”

Yes Dh. I have. I told you yesterday. 🙄

In Turkey, on holiday, visiting a Mosque.

Danish tourist, mansplaining to the (admittedly also male) Muslim guide how he was wrong about certain aspects of Muslim faith.

(Some of them there mansplainers are so convinced of their unique and accurate opinions they will even lecture other men)

@Veuvelily

My builders keep helpfully guiding me out of my drive. Like I never managed without them!

Clearly you wait helplessly every day for some helpful chap to come and assist?!!

I was reversing a big trailer into my narrow driveway, same as I frequently do. Neighbour drives past, and then, after I'd reversed, parked up etc, came back to say he had come to help me reverse...

Ex was rather patronising about me being able to tow big trailers and caravans. I swear he thought it was something only men could do (though he couldn't do it and I had to correct his bodged reversing.... ).

In a similar vein, it is quite common to hear a man quoting something l have said, verbatim, as if it is his own original thought. No reference along the lines of “as Violinist said...,” which is what any woman would do.

Not mansplaining as such but today I used a public toilet.
I didn’t see the donation box as I went in, but I did see the big notice on the back of the toilet door. This is what it said;

“We need your 20p to keep these toilets clean, surprisingly the guys donate more than you so dig deep in those purses and donate your 20p”.

Really pissed me off until I saw the additional extra that a woman had written on biro “men earn more than women, fuck the patriarchy, piss is free”.

Male MD... having caught a podcast on menopause. 'Did you know Geller, that oestrogen doesn't just affect the reproductive system?' I'm late forties MD. Despite the brain fog it's not something I was unaware of, thanks.

I went back to work as a temp for a company I used to work for to help them out while someone was on maternity leave.

There was a man in the team in a junior position who kept trying to explain the various processes and tasks to me.

I had to keep reminding him that I knew all of this because my name was on all of the departments procedures as doc author from when I wrote them when I set the department up 10 years ago

Colleague explained what to expect in a mammogram

I told a friend that I had found out that comprehensive car insurance was the same price (or even cheaper) as third party, fire and theft ins when I checked online for my teenage daughter. He spent 10 mins mansplaining the difference between the two and telling me I was wrong.

Just remembered another one.
Gardener arrived early the other day , l backed the car into the drive and he said oh you have just made me think about all those times l thought women can't drive, you did that really well!
So glad l got his approval.

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@Stompythedinosaur

Depression - I am a mental health nurse. Also (apparently) people just need to exercise and get in contact with nature then they won't need medication. Total BS.

Every male psychiatric consultant has told me precisely this!

There is a beautiful mansplain on twitter.

It's a discussion on Severus Snape and a woman says Snape is all grey, no black and white at all.

A man mansplains to her how wrong she is and why

Another man helpfully points out that the female is JK Rowling

I seem to have developed a fierce resting face as I age, no-one mansplains any more, not for decades. They just back away!

For someone to mansplain to you you first must look approachable. Maybe it's a weird compliment of sorts....

I am guilty of mumsplaining as all my older teens and young adults point out. I now leave the kitchen and support by text only.

I quite enjoying messing with mansplainers when it comes to my area of expertise.

I'm old and sometimes look like a bag lady but I'm at the zenith of my career. A couple of times I was being mansplained in a shop while waiting for my name to be called. My name was called and the young lad standing next to the other lad who was explaining how easy it was to get online with a certain computer. The young lad looked at me and said you're RantyAnty? I said yes. You wrote blah blah blah books? I said yes. The mansplainer was still talking and the lad kind of punched him in the shoulder and told him to stop explaining x to me. It was so funny. He looked so sheepish. I wanted to laugh but I didn't.

My boyfriend felt the need to explain that if the bubble in the spirit level sits perfectly in the middle, it's straight. 🙄

Me. I've literally had men mansplain me to them.

Most recently, tried a relationship a couple of years ago and, after a few months initiated a "where are we going?" type conversation in which I asked him what he wanted.

His response was, "Well, you are really busy at work and you have [daughter]. She doesn't need a step dad or to be disrupted by living with me..." etc etc.

Yeah, I know that. I've literally just said the same thing. I want to know what you want not what my daughter or I need.

Anyway, I dumped him for his poor communication and he was upset telling me, "I'm a professional communicator." That might be the case but, in this instance, you have failed.

@TheYellowOfTheEgg

I know "mansplaining" originally meant a man explaining something to a more knowledgable woman, but its use has become more widespread and is now used if a man offers any opinion or explanation.

I think the word "mansplaining" is another example of names being used to silence people. Other examples are "Karen", "Boomer", "Snowflake", "Gammon", "Woke", "TERF".

Dingdingding! We have a winner!

@Forgothowmuchlhatehomeschoolin

Just remembered another one. Gardener arrived early the other day , l backed the car into the drive and he said oh you have just made me think about all those times l thought women can't drive, you did that really well! So glad l got his approval.

A man literally applauded me when I reverse parked perfectly first time.

I had another who stopped moving the trolleys in supermarket car park, leaving them in a dangerous spot and inconvenient for me and then proceeded to dance around the car. I think he was trying to guide me into the parking space but he made himself and the trolleys an extra hazard and nothing else.

I've feelings on it clear when I got out of the car and he looked very wounded. Why do they do it?

When I told people at the time, I was told I'd been unkind and should just have appreciated his help.

Times when I did appreciate a man's help? When I was entering a carpark with a roof box under a low barrier carefully because I wasn't sure of the height. A passing man realised, looked and gave me a smile and a thumbs up.i responded similarly. That was helpful.

Poster on here saying 'no one needs sex' ,or words to that effect, when commenting about a man's desire for sex with his partner.