What's been "mansplained" to you recently?

[askingrandomsonlinemighthelp]

My DP is a mansplainer extraordinaire. We were walking along the coast toward a famous (in these parts) lighthouse.

He told me what a lighthouse was.

@Orphlids

I’m a photographer. I estimate that if I’m doing a family shoot, in approximately 60% of cases, the man will offer me advice on using my camera. Never once has a woman done this.

My Dad used to do this. Almost every holiday snap we have of him shows him with a particular look of concentration on his face and clearly in the middle of some sort of speech or instruction.

He would always sit or stand there instructing whoever was behind the camera exactly how to take the shot. How to angle the camera, what to include in the foreground and background etc. Endlessly. It was a standing joke in our family whenever the holiday photos came back and we would see it.

I don't think he ever behaved in the same way to a professional photographer, just to us.

@CoelacanthSharpener

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that's a good sketch!
the very topic has popped up in a few shows, I think Key & Peele did a similar one.
spot on

@bluechameleon

I stopped for petrol and the door to the petrol cap wouldn't open. Man in the queue behind got out to tell me I needed to press a button inside the car to open it. I said there wasn't a button, it was just stuck. He insisted I had to press the button. I've had this car for 3 years, there's never been a button before now, it seems unlikely one has suddenly appeared.

"Do show me where it is!"

My husband has started mansplaining my job to me since I've been working g from home.

A lot of ' knob' mutterings under my breath

what I find interesting is that while my older sons (19, 17 & 16) occasionally try to sonsplain things they are able to apologise when I point out that I actually know some things.
They don't insist they know better, they don't mind saying "you are right".
they are of a generation that seems more easily able to admit they made a mistake or misjudged a situation, even to their mother!

so there's hope yet!😉

Here are some..
https://www.thepoke.co.uk/2021/05/20/simply-13-very-confident-men-supremely-confused-about-womens-bodies/?fbclid=IwAR3uPjVrTH7nligLNDhBKYNMomVNewdamHbBM75G2tlx97LVwD8O4FCUA

@JennysWell

On a walk a strange man passing the other way said "you can tell there are cows here". I replied "yes over there" pointing the the huge beasts 20m behind me, oh no he said "look!" Pointing at a cow pat.

And to make it clearer, here is a photo of the cows.

That actually made me laugh out loud! Thank you!

@QueenPaw

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uncle Bob, the scientist

When DH and I cycled together with the DC, he used to shout instructions to me a lot, about intersections coming up, the need to signal, etc. I actually run cycle proficiency training courses for year 6 kids at the local primary school. So I do know the rules of safe cycling . He's stopped doing it now because I went into a rage and told him that if I did have a cycling accident while we were out together, it would be because his 'helpful' advice was distracting me so much.

He's also tried multiple times to tell me about the radio programme known as Woman's Hour. Explaining to me what it is. When pushed as to why he thinks I wouldn't have heard of Woman's Hour, he says it's because I'm not originally from the UK, and I don't listen to the radio much. Well, he's not originally from the UK either. We met in this UK 30 years ago and have lived here most of the time since. I read the Guardian, I'm embarrassingly addicted to social media, I'm an academic who works on gender. Honestly in order not to be familiar with Woman's Hour, I would have had to be living under a rock.

He's a good man but I'm sure in a few months' time he will start telling me again that there's this really interesting programme on Radio 4 called Woman's Hour. I give up

@TheSongOfTheSea

I experience a variant of mansplaining on a daily basis. Isn't 'the classic' but it's definitely related.

Me: 'what do you think of this layout, ignore the colours for now. This is just a mock up and those colours are the ones the software automatically puts in...'

Man: 'yeah those colours need to change...'

Or

Me: 'I think this is a great opportunity, I just need to check whether we will be eligible under Section B'

Man: 'yeah you might need to check our eligibility'.

Like, he's not repeating what I'm saying, for clarity. Hes deafing out what I'm saying and just looking straight at the problems, even though I've already flagged them up.

Really pisses me off.

“That’s what I just said.”

Pause until acknowledged.

What amazes me is the confidence that these guys deliver it with. No self-consciousness - or even self-awareness - whatsoever

Yes this. They really are fucking unreal.

I get this on a regular basis. Mostly men explaining COVID-19 to me, who’s got it, how and where it came from etc. I’m a public health specialist!

Unfortunately my dh does this alot, the best one was explaining my job to me, despite a degree and years of experience in my profession. WTF.

My DH has just explained to me how to draw the fucking curtains in DS1s room.

I am not even joking.

I have a long standing female client and we have, together , started working with 2 men who are part of the global organisation she is part of. This sort of thing happens all the time and her and I are totally bemused.

Me: We are fully aware that this project might intersect with other projects from different business lines so we wanted to give you a heads up and get your feedback and check there aren't any concerns at the corporate level.

Man 1: as a global corporate there is a lot going on you won't be aware of at the business level so it's very important that you run everything past us.

Client: absolutely, as Space said, can we talk you through this current plan?

Man 2: there may be issues at a corporate level and we are concerned that you are going ahead with a project that might have a negative impact. We want you to contact us before you launch anything new.

Client: [bemused] absolutely. Which is why we asked for this call and sent over the details. Space, can you outline the project please so everyone is on the same page.

Me: outlines project, objectives etc.

Man 1 : I don't see anything here that is a concern but we will need to take it under advisement and get back to you. Because its possible that there is a corporate angle you are missing.

Its relentless and exhausting.

Senior police officer: I have implented this amazing new approach.
Me: Good to know that someone is implenting your decade old policy
Senior police officer: Oh its not our policy
Me: Yes it is
Senior police officer: Have you even seen - let alone read - our policy on this issue?
Me: Yes. I wrote it.

Not recently, but my all time favourite was Judaism by a man who is not Jewish. I am. Even so, he did not like me correcting him and has not spoken to me since!

In a previous life, one carefully and lengthily critiqued my performance of a particular piece of music, told me about the composer's motivations and intentions and suggested I listened more carefully to what he was doing on the original recording and considered buying an alternative instrument as it was clearly nothing like the quality of the original one he had used, albeit an instrument that was 'alright for amateurs and women'.

I wrote that piece of music. It was me playing on the recording. Using exactly the same instrument as I held in front of me trying desperately to resist the temptation to wrap it around the mainsplaining twat's head.

An ex tried to explain rhythm and drumming to me. Having never drummed anything more complex than his fingers on a table and still managed to be out of time on every hit, coming in early which also extended to other activities that required a sense of rhythm and timing.

Other than that, the mansplaining level seems to have reduced outside Covid conspiracies recently. I must have perfected my 'If you continue talking at me I shall not be held responsible for my actions' gaze after all these years.

[quote QueenPaw]Here are some..
https://www.thepoke.co.uk/2021/05/20/simply-13-very-confident-men-supremely-confused-about-womens-bodies/?fbclid=IwAR3uPjVrTH7nligLNDhBKYNMomVNewdamHbBM75G2tlx97LVwD8O4FCUA[/quote]
One of the examples in there is after a mainsplainer award...

www.insider.com/mansplain-vulva-gynecologist-twitter-2019-3

My DP mansplained "mansplaining" to me when I told him he'd misused the term...he actually meant "manspreading"

Think he felt like a bit of a dick! Haha!

While on holiday with my then bf a man we met asked about the Uk educational system and specifically university, how to get in, what it was like. He directed all his questions to my bf who happily answered. Both of them completely ignored me.
My boyfriend had left school at 16, 20 years earlier, with a handful of cses.

I was at Oxford.

I was mansplained to this morning by a very junior member of staff whom I was training, on a platform which I helped develop and build, for a project that I am in charge of.

I shut him down with "if you could just listen and let me explain to you what I need". I'm afraid the mum voice was used.

Lots of men mansplain my own name to me.

"Hi, I'm Senseless."
"Oh - you mean Seenseless?"

@Janaih

My brother recently mansplained mansplaining on a Facebook article of women who had experienced mansplaining. Its just men saying things apparently. Dick.

This wins the thread 😂

I was mansplained at,not once,but twice in the same situation.
I needed a new headlight bulb,so I went to a well known car/bike chain store. The computer system didn't recognise my vehicle,so I had to queue at a till to ask for the right bulb.
Me: Could I have a driver's side headlight bulb for an 07 Kia Sorrento please?
Male cashier: I'll just look it up and fetch you one. Will you want it fitting?
Me: No thank you,I can do it myself.
Cashier disappears into stockroom.
Male customer behind me: Oh,you'd better let them fit it love. It's a really fiddly job. You'll have to take the entire headlight unit out to change it.
Me: Yes,I know,I've already done it before now.
Male customer: Looks horrified.
Cashier: Here you go,you might want us to fit it,it isn't easy. You have to take the whole headlight out to change it.
Me: Yes,I know,I've done it before,it really isn't that difficult.
I'm then left,before my head exploded.