What's been "mansplained" to you recently?

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My DP is a mansplainer extraordinaire. We were walking along the coast toward a famous (in these parts) lighthouse.

He told me what a lighthouse was.

I work in PR. Lots of experience in large corporates. Sent out a press release while working for a very large, global, blue chip organisation, about something that was genuinely a big deal. The kind that results in loads of coverage simply because we issued the release (like if the government put out a press release tomorrow morning saying that UC is being doubled or something - BIG news).

I got a call from a junior reporter from a fairly important publication. He was working on the story and wanted, naturally, to put his own spin on it. Absolutely fine and I was happy to answer his questions. He then spent 5 minutes lecturing telling me how as a PR, it would would be better if I came up with lots of different angles and sent them to reporters, because I'd get more coverage that way because they don't all want to write the same story.

Mostly I just found it hilarious. But I've never been able to take him seriously as a reporter ever since! I especially loved how he missed the irony of the fact that he was writing the story, even though my approach was supposedly so boring and limiting....

I think a lot of men mansplain pregnancy and childbirth. BIL explained to me at length why SIL shouldn't have an epidural....

He also has form for attempting to tell me how to parent, but to be fair, I don't think that's a uniquely man thing. Just a generally annoying thing from a certain type of person!

Where my own holiday home was. Even though I know where my holiday home is. Even though that person had never been to it, and had actually only just found out about it in that conversation. “Oh so you’ll drive via x to get to it.” No, you go to y and take the ferry. “No, you can’t get to it that way.” Okay then Then he eventually agreed I was right but was convinced it’d take 2 hours from where we live. No, about 1 hour. “No it isn’t.” We left the conversation there.

DH mansplained a particular type of insurance to me. I had worked not just in the particular type of insurance he was telling me about but for the very company the policy was with. Needless to say he has never worked in any insurance role.

@PieonaBarm you might appreciate the time a manager confidently asserted that he couldn't find a problem that his employee had failed to fix and I was wrong to complain. It turned out neither of them knew their offside from their nearside and they had spent several hours looking at the wrong half of the car. Quite why my idiot ex had thought that was a good place to take his car was a whole other question.

A male supply teacher once explained to me the structure of the school day. I had worked at that school for about 5 years and as a teacher for about 15.

Twat.

That some plants are tender and you can't plant them out when it's cold.
I used to be a gardener for work....

I also want to point out that there's such a thing as MILsplaining
There's a long list of offences, but my favourite one is when she tried to tell me how to peel a boiled egg
I don't know why she thought I didn't know

Oh, yes! This could be a whole thread in itself. Yesterday MIL milsplained how thermostats work and today explained to me what gilets are all about.

My son mansplained the weather to me yesterday 😂
My reply: thanks darling for explaining how the weather works you'd think after 50 years of being on this planet I'd understand it by now!

He looked a bit sheepish and laughed

He realised he was mansplaing 😅

Epic mansplain today on a Facebook group I’m a member of it’s about Families and I’d say that 90%+ members are female. This morning a bloke took the time to type up a very long post about.... menstruation. How he’d explained it all to his daughter. He included cycle length, bleeding time it was THOROUGH. I think the idea was that he showed how much he knew??

I studied XYZ. I work in XYZ.

Went to reunion drinks with fellows of XYZ course at uni (yes, pre covid). Guy explained to me how XYZ works. The way you would explain it to a total newbie.

I had to remind him I graduated from the same course he did and still practised.

When I told a male friend I had period pains he gave me some revelatory information about how a hot water bottle can help. No shit, Sherlock!

I’m a consultant psychiatrist. A man once tried to explain to me the difference between capsules and dissolvable tablets. He’s not a man I particularly like anyway, so I took great pleasure in explaining to him that I held a medical degree, a BSc in medical sciences, membership of the royal college of psychiatrists, a diploma in clinical pharmacology, a certificate in psychopharmacology and a certificate in neuropharmacology, and then I asked him to reflect on whether or not I would need a man with no medical or scientific qualifications to explain something about pharmacology to me. He was suitably sheepish about it.

Someone start a MILsplaining thread please

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go for it.
but tag me!!

I’m a photographer. I estimate that if I’m doing a family shoot, in approximately 60% of cases, the man will offer me advice on using my camera. Never once has a woman done this.

@TheSongOfTheSea

I experience a variant of mansplaining on a daily basis. Isn't 'the classic' but it's definitely related.

Me: 'what do you think of this layout, ignore the colours for now. This is just a mock up and those colours are the ones the software automatically puts in...'

Man: 'yeah those colours need to change...'

Or

Me: 'I think this is a great opportunity, I just need to check whether we will be eligible under Section B'

Man: 'yeah you might need to check our eligibility'.

Like, he's not repeating what I'm saying, for clarity. Hes deafing out what I'm saying and just looking straight at the problems, even though I've already flagged them up.

Really pisses me off.

Like this, you mean?

I thought of it as soon as I saw this thread/

Male teaching colleague with two years experience, trying to explain to me the Montgomery Bus Boycott. I've been teaching it for at least 35 years.

@Orphlids

I’m a photographer. I estimate that if I’m doing a family shoot, in approximately 60% of cases, the man will offer me advice on using my camera. Never once has a woman done this.

Why does this not surprise me.

FIL mansplained sexual assault to me over Christmas dinner. He nearly ended up wearing the bloody turkey.

I'm a lawyer working in a specific area. A first date tried to tell me all about this specific area of law.
I said to him twice. Yes I know how to do my
Job thanks. I've been doing this for 15 years.
He carried on.
There was no second date

I stopped for petrol and the door to the petrol cap wouldn't open. Man in the queue behind got out to tell me I needed to press a button inside the car to open it. I said there wasn't a button, it was just stuck. He insisted I had to press the button. I've had this car for 3 years, there's never been a button before now, it seems unlikely one has suddenly appeared.

I've been a teacher for 20 years. Was musing to dp (not a teacher) that an essay was hard to mark because it was excellent but didn't fit the criteria. He then spent 20 mins telling me how I should do it. 🙄

This isn't recent but it still annoys me.

A male student asked me what subject I was studying for my MA. Ibsaud 'economic history'. He then proceeded to explain to me exactly what that means.

He was correct but I told him he was wrong. I couldn't help it.

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I said

Garage. Me "could you order and fit an accelerator cable for me please"

Garage man " it's very unlikely to need a cable if it's not moving forward have you checked that the mats not under the pedal or are you wearing different shoes? "
Me " I really need a cable the car broke down and ...... "
Garage Man " why not leave it to us to tell you what you need love"
Me " THE CABLE IS IN TWO PIECES ON THE SEAT WHERE THE AA MAN PUT IT, IT'S CURRENTLY GOT A BIT OF WIRE TO REPLACE IT CAN YOU ORDER AND FIT A NEW ONE PLEASE? "