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askingrandomsonlinemighthelp · 2021-05-19T22:05:59+00:00

My DP is a mansplainer extraordinaire. We were walking along the coast toward a famous (in these parts) lighthouse. He told me what a lighthouse was.

Sickoffamilydrama · 21/05/2021 19:24

OMG we had this recently with window sales.
I had to really keep my shit together. And stro fly insist that we didn't need my DH to talk about the finances nearly said my DH doesn't have a fucking clue about finances I sort all that out and this house we've just moved into all the finances were sorted by me mate not DH. But didn't want to be rude about my DH.
I've always been the driving force behind any financial thing 😒

My face must have been a picture though as DH knows I can be assertive and he keeps joking and reminding me to check with him before I spend any money.

Snaketime · 21/05/2021 19:25

There is an online game I play on my phone and I was just generally chatting in the group chat and then one guy decided to mansplain the game to me, I wouldn't have minded as much if I had asked for help but I hadn't and it was all the basic stuff you learn to do in the first hour of playing

godmum56 · 21/05/2021 19:25

@Wearywithteens

Twice, while I’ve been reversing a car, random men have taken upon themselves to start guiding me out. Both times I’ve wound down the window and said ‘it’s ok mate, I’ve been driving over 30 years, I know how to manoeuvre a car..’ both times they walked off with a face like thunder all hurt as if I was the dick in the situation!

oh yeah...that one. I drive a 4wd and have for years. I lost track of the number of time when i was times at my car in carparks and some bloke would stop and say "Tell your husband his car has a radiator leak" I would say "its my car and that's the frost driping off the air conditioning unit" oh and a few days ago a couple of strangers knocked my door. I peered out the window, didn't know them so assumed it was JW's and waved them away through the window. They knocked again so I stomped to the door and opened it. Man "we have come for the chair love" Me "I have no idea what you are talking about" Man (doing the who is this idiot face) "the chair...freecycle...." Me "Nope not me" Man (doing that inflate with irritation thing and pulling paper out of his pocket) "I've got it written down here, number xx".....(looks at my door number which is NOT xx) "oh ah umm" At which point I catch his wife's eye and we both collapse laughing. He stomps away.

godmum56 · 21/05/2021 19:26

@BikeRunSki

The young, make doctor who visited me when I was in hospital for the 3rd week with hyperemisis so debilitating I could not get out of bed without throwing up - in my second hyperemetic pregnancy - kindly explained to me that it was thought to be to do with pregnancy hormones, but actually, not everyone got it, so he believed it was probably actually psychosomatic. I threw up on his notes.

oh excellent aim :)

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 21/05/2021 19:27

doctor friend had her mail delivered.
postman handed over a packaging with the comment "this is for your husband".
she glanced at address, saw her title and replied "no, that's for me".
guy then pointed at the title and said "look here, it says doctor. it's for your husband"

perfectstorm · 21/05/2021 19:27

@BikeRunSki

The young, make doctor who visited me when I was in hospital for the 3rd week with hyperemisis so debilitating I could not get out of bed without throwing up - in my second hyperemetic pregnancy - kindly explained to me that it was thought to be to do with pregnancy hormones, but actually, not everyone got it, so he believed it was probably actually psychosomatic. I threw up on his notes.

A doctor told me that about Symphis Pubis Dysfunction. I wish I'd had a witty riposte (I definitely count the vomit as such - best ever!) but I was too angry, and in too much pain, to think of one.

The weird thing is that SPD shows up on scans. They can literally see the gap. It's not even like there's not visual evidence for its existence. But no: a man knew better than a woman barely able to walk because of the condition he didn't believe existed.

Sickoffamilydrama · 21/05/2021 19:30

@GrumpyHoonMain

A salesman at a well known alarm company demanded my husband be present during his sales pitch. That was his loss. I already knew what I wanted and was ready to buy. DH is a faffer and can’t make decisions. So I left him to manage this company and I got a quote from another one and signed up.

That would have made sense if the quote had stuck and my phone hadn't changed window salesman to something else! But had this recently too he was going to leave and come back when he was home 🤣

overwork · 21/05/2021 19:35

I'm having an IT issue at work. I have now called IT 3 times, as it hasn't been resolved via the online queries I have posted over a 3 week period. Each time, my call happened to have been answered by the bloke. Each time, I have politely explained that yes, I have done what they advised me to do in the guide attached to my online query. Each time, I have had to sit there patiently whilst they condescendingly tell me not to worry, they will show me how to do it. Each time, they have found the exact same issue which I had already told them about. Even worse, each one has said, don't worry, it's because so and so wasn't done, it will work in 24 hours. It doesn't, and I have to go through the whole sorry saga again. I'm seriously contemplating putting my fella on the phone to them as I honestly can't see how they are going to take me seriously if I don't, I'm so bloody annoyed. But atleast it isn't a serious health issue like some of you on here

BillMasheen · 21/05/2021 19:36

My husband will walk into the kitchen and tell me I've got the job on too high. All the time

My imovable rule on this (learned it on MN) State loudly:

You interfere, you volunteer

And walk away from the task and sit down.

BlueLobelia · 21/05/2021 19:37

@ErrolTheDragon

I think the word "mansplaining" is another example of names being used to silence people.

If that actually was the intent, it's been singularly ineffectual.

to be honest I did use the word mainsplaining as a tool to silence DH yesterday when he explained how to draw the fucking curtains.

I said 'Halt right there Oh Beloved one. I just need to reply to this apropos MN thread about mansplaining'.

[types furiously roughly this time 24 hours ago]

DH waited until i had finished and then continued.

I am 40-fucking-8 years old. I know how to draw fucking curtains.

[you like, pull them, right?]

QueenPaw · 21/05/2021 19:39

I can't find the tweet I was looking for
It's the one where a man tries to explain fighting at war to a woman and she's "I think I'll be ok" with a pic of all her medals

TableDesk · 21/05/2021 19:41

@HettieHelvetica Im with you!

I was mansplained period pain and endometriosis. I've had both severely for over 2 decades I think I know how it feels!

My condition was mansplained to be by the man to me on the opposite fuel pump when I was filling my car up whilst holding a hot water bottle to my stomach, trying not to vomit and also be on time for my gynae appointment

Just fuck off...

BlueLobelia · 21/05/2021 19:42

The above exhange is the god honest truth by the way.

(DH is pretty okay and feminist to be honest, but yes, the how to draw the curtains was a bit - well)

BikeRunSki · 21/05/2021 19:44

@perfectstorm 🤬

QueenPaw · 21/05/2021 19:45

Found it

What's been "mansplained" to you recently?

Pet8 · 21/05/2021 19:49

"Spooky fucker" made me laugh. Young adult ds is one of these! However, he's not been well for a couple of weeks so hasn't been eating much interfering.
He's had abdominal cramps all week and he has been vomiting and in a lot of pain. He nearly got the back of my hand before though because I don't understand this pain.
I told him that apart from my colonic problems, I've been having periods for 40 years; had 3 babies; and although I'm peri menopausal, and going through that shit, I'm still (today) suffering with period cramps.
Without raising as much as an eyebrow, he said, "yeah but that's natural for a woman. You can cope!"

QueenPaw · 21/05/2021 19:50

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MamaKatja · 21/05/2021 19:50

@Lumene

My 5 year old nephew when I explained the earth is round: “It’s not actually, it’s flat.”

secretburper · 21/05/2021 19:51

I had a gut full of mansplaining one day last week all in less than an hour.
I had to collect a parcel from the sorting office so as I parked my car and was walking towards the office door a car screeched up and the man jumped out and ran past me into the sorting office , I collected my parcel and went to towards home calling into a supermarket enroute , I was looking into a chiller cabinet no-one else in sight when a woman came around a corner and literally pushed her trolly into me to push me out the way , I said excuse me do you mind keeping your distance , she completely ignored me and lent on her trolly looking into the cabinet where I was previously , honestly bloody rude , then I called into my local post office and as I pushed the door open a man barged through the gap into the office ahead of me
No excuses for this bad behaviour , I wasn't dawdling I was actually hurrying because I had a busy day . Just plain bloody rude people .

chorleycake · 21/05/2021 19:52

This morning my husband explained to me what a roundabout is....

wellbehavedwomen · 21/05/2021 19:55

I loved the one where a man mansplained what a vagina was, and then when corrected, mansplained what mansplaining is. There was more of it - he was the Duracell Bunny of making himself look ever more ridiculous - but the first two comments really precis the rest nicely.

The Rhona Hotchkiss smackdown was also golden.

BillMasen · 21/05/2021 19:58

@Sickoffamilydrama

OMG we had this recently with window sales. I had to really keep my shit together. And stro fly insist that we didn't need my DH to talk about the finances nearly said my DH doesn't have a fucking clue about finances I sort all that out and this house we've just moved into all the finances were sorted by me mate not DH. But didn't want to be rude about my DH. I've always been the driving force behind any financial thing 😒

My face must have been a picture though as DH knows I can be assertive and he keeps joking and reminding me to check with him before I spend any money.

that’s not mansplaining. It happens both ways round, they want both decision makers present.

Even if it was only happening to women, still not mansplaining. Sexist yes though

BillMasen · 21/05/2021 19:59

@secretburper

I had a gut full of mansplaining one day last week all in less than an hour. I had to collect a parcel from the sorting office so as I parked my car and was walking towards the office door a car screeched up and the man jumped out and ran past me into the sorting office , I collected my parcel and went to towards home calling into a supermarket enroute , I was looking into a chiller cabinet no-one else in sight when a woman came around a corner and literally pushed her trolly into me to push me out the way , I said excuse me do you mind keeping your distance , she completely ignored me and lent on her trolly looking into the cabinet where I was previously , honestly bloody rude , then I called into my local post office and as I pushed the door open a man barged through the gap into the office ahead of me No excuses for this bad behaviour , I wasn't dawdling I was actually hurrying because I had a busy day . Just plain bloody rude people .

None of these are even remotely mansplaining...

whataballbag · 21/05/2021 20:01

I work in construction, so you can only imagine the shit I get to listen to on a daily basis.

Especially when someone new arrives and doesn't realise who I am, 'oh I'm x trade, so that means I do x y z' - Yes I know love, I'm your boss.

The rest of the lads just usually stand there and cringe

JoBrodie · 21/05/2021 20:10

I like aircraft so would generally expect to get a lot more mansplaining than I actually get but the one that resulted in muting a couple of people on Twitter was when I shared a post about the APU (auxiliary power unit) which is an engine, of sorts (well it definitely is but not used for flight power), that generally supports main engine start-up and provides the pressure for air conditioning. Large two-engine aircraft will likely have a third engine, four-engine aircraft have a 5th engine. I didn't know this before reading a pilot's interesting blog post on the topic twitter.com/JoBrodie/status/1104297204393627648

My absolute favourite though is the pedantic minutiae of this Wikipedia discussion relating to a sound file, of Greenwich Pier, that I'd added years previously. It was removed, as being unencylopaedic, and I put it back again - some to-ing and fro-ing happened another couple of times before the other editor left a rather high-handed note on the article's discussion page en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Talk:Greenwich_Pier, though the fight really began on the page's editing history en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Greenwich_Pier&action=history

Every so often I go back and read it and giggle :)

Jo