What's been "mansplained" to you recently?

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My DP is a mansplainer extraordinaire. We were walking along the coast toward a famous (in these parts) lighthouse.

He told me what a lighthouse was.

@ErrolTheDragon.

@Reiningitin

My boyfriend felt the need to explain that if the bubble in the spirit level sits perfectly in the middle, it's straight. 🙄

Wow, thats why all my shelves are crooked - genius.

A friend & I were out walking a month ago and bumped into a couple who were her friends, though I had never met them before. Within 90 seconds of our being introduced, the husband decided to mansplain to me that I was wearing the "wrong" shoes for hiking (we weren't hiking, just out for a short walk to the coffee shop) and then advised what shoes I should be wearing. I just gazed at him without answering - his wife looked hugely embarrassed but he did not. Mansplainers are incorrigible.

A new person on my team who's a bit shit decided to explain some very basic science to me. I'm his boss and several grades above him and we're both scientists so he should know that I would know more than the basics. I'd assume it was my own fault for saying 'I'm not an expert' (scientist code for 'I know more about this than 99% of the population but my mate owns the patent and I know slightly less than her') except he then tried to tell me how to use a piece of kit that he knows I'm an expert in and he isn't.

A man at church who works as a general mechanic explained flu transmission to me. I am in infectious diseases doctor with 25 years of experience. He was, not surprisingly, quite wrong.

That goods should be receipted against a delivery note before invoices are paid. Took him 45 minutes. He is my direct report. I determine his pay increases.

@HettieHelvetica

Period pain

My male PT recently did a Facebook live explaining to his (all female bar 1) clients about periods. I watched out of morbid curiosity but had to turn off when he went on to explain why we were a 'bit fatter' around our 'time of the month' and to try to eat more protein rather than junk food.

A salesman at a well known alarm company demanded my husband be present during his sales pitch. That was his loss. I already knew what I wanted and was ready to buy. DH is a faffer and can’t make decisions. So I left him to manage this company and I got a quote from another one and signed up.

So much I would need to write a book - a really bigly book, bigger than war and peace

Why my back is hurting so much during pregnancy. I think I’m aware of the reason thanks 🙄

Women do this sometimes as well. When my husband had cancer his nutritionist gave him a leaflet explaining which food substitute drinks were suitable for him. She put a tick and a cross next to the relevant drinks, then wrote on the front: tick=ok to have, cross=not ok.
I was livid that she assumed an Oxford educated man - or indeed any sentient adult - was so thick he needed ticks and crosses explaining to him, as if the fact he had cancer meant she should treat him as an imbecile. I know she would have to deal with a range of understanding but anyone who has been to primary school would understand ticks and crosses. Not a cultural thing either as she was well aware he was British - and if someone didn't speak English they wouldn't have understood her explanation. This was three years ago and it still makes my blood boil when I think of it!

Long ago I bought a popular car with a defective 2nd gear. On the third return for service, the Manager said your husband probably crawled under the car and tried to fix it himself. I replied, you are lucky to be talking to me, HONEY! The husband isn't aware that you have to put gas in this dream car! Finally it was fixed.

@Libertybells1

Again, not recently but a couple of years ago I met a man on a train who I had seen earlier that day in the waiting area for an interview we had both attended. This is relevant because I wasn't in the habit of talking about my PhD qualification with strangers generally (I'm not a complete knob), but in this case he started asking about my work background as we traded stories about the interview and our careers. And I am not joking, once he heard what the topic of my thesis had been, he spent the next hour mansplaining the subject to me! I wouldn't have minded so much if my research had been in a field related to our jobs and he had experience in it too, but I ended up working in an entirely different discipline and he clearly had no clue what he was talking about.

What amazes me is the confidence that these guys deliver it with. No self-consciousness - or even self-awareness - whatsoever

Please tell me you got the job and he didn't?!!

And I thought it was just me - thank goodness I'm not alone in this.

I was informed in a chocolate shop the difference between milk and dark chocolate. Yes really.

As a bloke who believes it’s not for us to have a debate with women about the rights and wrongs of abortion, i point out the absurdity of men commenting on social media posts about the issue. I am then lectured about trimesters, heartbeats, cell divisions, blah blah blah, by men.

Soap. I was buying it in tk maxx and bearded one SNIFFED it. Then went on to tell me how he makes his own, and I shouldn’t use anything with palm oil in. So after pointing out the NoPalm Oil sticker on it to him he was still wittering. So I said “do you want to explain to your manager how you talked me out of a sale?”

Another good one... my ex and I went to see a computer guy with my laptop. He saw a photo of a plane as the screen saver. He told my ex he was a private pilot and started getting all excited. I explained that I'd just left my job, but that I'd spent ten years teaching pilots and air traffic controllers. It just wouldn't compute. He kept talking to my ex about flying. My ex knew nothing about it. But my ex didn't correct him. The whole thing was so weird.

I recently had an academic paper I had written mansplained to me.

Pointing out that I had, in fact, written said paper did not stop the mansplainer. Sigh.

I have one!

I've set up a spreadsheet and loaded the data onto Google maps of all the low emission zones in the UK. Sent it out to colleagues who I am actually senior too one of my co workers proceeded to explain one of the zones to me and tell everyone about it even putting a fucking link to it exactly the same as one on the map. Oh and then said there wasn't an exclusion zone in that city...the city I grow up near that I visited last weekend that definitely doesn't allow certain vehicles into the centre.

Nearly said try fucking driving down their dick head, enjoy your fine.

This is the same person who hasn't ensured his team know what euro 6 is.

Did use it as an example with the CEO as to why people get so pissed off with him.

Nothing. i don't allow it.

@GrumpyHoonMain

A salesman at a well known alarm company demanded my husband be present during his sales pitch. That was his loss. I already knew what I wanted and was ready to buy. DH is a faffer and can’t make decisions. So I left him to manage this company and I got a quote from another one and signed up.

This used to be because if the wife alone signed up for something, the husband could repudiate the contract as it was assumed that he would be paying for it. It hasn't been so for years but some salesmen still believe it.

@Waspie I love your son! There is hope yet.

The young, make doctor who visited me when I was in hospital for the 3rd week with hyperemisis so debilitating I could not get out of bed without throwing up - in my second hyperemetic pregnancy - kindly explained to me that it was thought to be to do with pregnancy hormones, but actually, not everyone got it, so he believed it was probably actually psychosomatic. I threw up on his notes.