Women who use 'she/her' ??

[WineGetsMeThroughIt]

I've noticed this in many social media profiles, but I also saw it used today in an email signature from someone in a professional agency I'm working with. Why do women (who are very clearly women from their Instagram pictures or their own names) use '(she/her)' in their bio / signature after their name? Am I missing something here? Isn't it obvious? What is the point of this? Just really seems stupid to me, but then perhaps I've completely missed something...? 🤷‍♀️

Example of the signature:

Isabelle Winter (she/her) • Senior Account Executive

@Smallkeys

I can’t believe the NHS are insisting it should be voluntary if folk want to use it as they are transgender and other people want to use it support them or some other reason great bit it shouldn’t be compulsory. I like the fact that most people assume I’m a man as they definitely often treat you differently as a woman.

The NHS isn't insisting on it.

@RosesAndHellebores

I have added Mrs to my email signature (just in case my first name is not feminine enough).

My industry will likely introduce this. I am coming to the end of my career and shall be tempted to put "I/me" or simply "I'm not the cat's mother, just use my name please".

I was thinking about putting something like this too :)

@Frazzledfranny

Some companies are insisting on it. Like the NHS

The “NHS” doesn’t insist on it. The NHS is made up of many many organisations, some of which may be asking staff to do this. Ftr my own position is that I would assume that someone who declares their pronouns is trans.

@SionnachRua

I used to have pronouns in my signature when I worked abroad. My name is an 'ethnic' name and so anyone not from my country won't necessarily know it's a female name. I found it helpful. Now that I live at home, I don't need to do that, so I haven't set it up. I'd have no issues with having she/her in there again though.

But why does the recipient of an email need to know your pronouns and your gender/sex? What relevance does it have to your job? You're not going to reply to an email from someone and use their pronouns in the email are you - that would be rude.

But why does the recipient of an email need to know your pronouns and your gender/sex? What relevance does it have to your job? You're not going to reply to an email from someone and use their pronouns in the email are you - that would be rude

Because I invariably got mails back addressing me as a man, which annoyed me. The pronouns sorted that. I could have used my title I suppose but I was never mad about Miss/Ms, so went with pronouns for preference. I also had a pronunciation guide in my signature which got rid of the "ooh unusual, how do you pronounce it?" queries as well. Mostly.

It made my life easier (or at least created less annoyances) and was no hindrance to people receiving my emails.

@justanotherneighinparadise - I'm not sure if this makes me sexist, as I'm referring to more that one identifying group, but I was struck that, in that video, ALL the people asking for points of privilege were men. Originally, or still. I find that fascinating.

Some people are forced to do it because they want to keep their jobs and don't want to fall out over it. No judgement on them. I do however judge women (and it's nearly ALWAYS women) who do this on their social media. Makes me think they're a bit dim.

Some people are forced to do it because they want to keep their jobs and don't want to fall out over it.

It's quite ironic, isn't it, that something supposedly intended to celebrate diversity and promote tolerance and understanding of those who are not like you is administered in such a bullying, intolerant way.

Also, nobody is going to think or care anything about a female-identifying biological female sticking 'she/her' at the end of her emails because she's been ordered to by bigoted, intolerant bosses; same with male-identifying males putting 'he/him' - but the ones who are supposedly being helped by this are the very same people who might struggle with their identities and want to disclose only as much as they want to at the time they feel is right for them; however, they are denied this privacy and basic personal dignity because some demanding tick-box 'diversity-aware' boss is determined to out them in public.

I would say that I'm not comfortable stating my gender at this point.

The other thing is. If I put they/ them. No way would all my colleagues start doing that esp when I wasn't there! I mean. They just wouldn't and I mean who would even know

I set my automated email signature today with pronouns 'Ha/Ha'.

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@latxhingones

I set my automated email signature today with pronouns 'Ha/Ha'.

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Oh goodness - that’s brave - but I like it!

I set my automated email signature today with pronouns 'Ha/Ha'.

Brilliant!

@TeddingtonTrashbag

It is incredibly rude to refer to a person by a pronoun! If they are on the room, use their name. If they aren’t there doesn’t matter what pronoun you use.

Agree with this. It's all insane!