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Accused of posting on someone's LinkedIn...

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Bearyhumcrack · 14/05/2021 06:58

I work in a public sector organisation and have been called in by my line manager to say that I have posted something offensive on someone's LinkedIn page and of causing offensive comments on twitter.

I have a LinkedIn account but don't use it much, I do remember following and unfollowing this person a few months ago but no recollection of posting on their page. Is there a way I can check whether I commented without looking at their profile? I know they can see if I have looked at them and I don't want them to make any more allegations about me.

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Bearyhumcrack · 14/09/2021 23:38

Thanks @HollowTalk, the picture is one that my family have used for stuff like 18th birthday etc as I have about 4 teeth and a massive scab on my nose so it's very likely that if I haven't posted it, one of them has. I know mum had a Facebook account as the security was dreadful and it got hacked shortly after she died so it's almost certainly "out there".

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ImNotDancing · 15/09/2021 00:02

Sweet Jesus he sounds bonkers!! Hope you get a resolution soon!!

Well done for seeking help for your anxiety, I know first hand how hard that can be x

Monestera · 19/09/2021 15:22

How are you doing OP? I would feel awful about something like this hanging over me.

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Bearyhumcrack · 19/09/2021 15:28

@Monestera I do feel awful tbh. Got a Dr review on Tuesday. I'm hoping for an update soon as some senior people are taking an interest now. The man is so insanely unpredictable I have no idea what he's doing!!

Trying to look at the positives though, I'm hoping to reflect on this one day!!

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charmingthebirds · 19/09/2021 16:47

I've been lurking in the background, hoping things would work out for you, but had to drop in to say how much I liked this:

Trying to look at the positives though, I'm hoping to reflect on this one day!!

Once the dust has settled, I can just hear you recounting it all and saying ' . . . and then you'll never guess what he did next?!'

Monestera · 19/09/2021 18:42

Take care of yourself OP.

Twitchynose · 19/09/2021 20:35

I can’t believe that this is still rumbling on. I’m amazed, no in awe of your resilience OP. I hope as others have said that you have photos or screenshots of the totally inappropriate meeting notes.

Sending you very unmumsnetty hugs and strength to get through this.

Justkeepleft · 20/09/2021 19:57

That is great that his festering lies are getting the attention from higher ups.
Hang in there.

ncmcr · 22/09/2021 13:40

Good grief. Can't believe this is still ongoing.

Sending you all the luck in the world.

Iris2020 · 22/09/2021 14:55

I'm sorry you're going through this. I would go straight to HR, immediately, and explain that your line manager is leveraging unfounded accusations against you.
You can explain that there appears to be no digital trace of what you're accused of and you have absolutely no recollection of what they might be talking about - and since it's incredibly difficult to defend yourself against abstract accusations you'd like to make a formal complaint against your line manager.

What you're going through is completely bizarre and not on.

Iris2020 · 22/09/2021 15:03

^^Sorry for some reason I'd only got the first page of the thread and thought it was new. What an unbelievably crazy story and hope this manager does get sanctioned for his actions.

CloseYourEyesAndSee · 22/09/2021 19:44

Just found this thread again and was looking eagerly for an update - I cannot believe you're still waiting!!

Allmyarseandpeggymartin · 22/09/2021 21:00

I hear grievances and misconduct cases as part of my job and I’d throw the book at him op.
Obviously that would depend on either you lodging a grievance or the internal powers that be launching an investigation into his behaviour/record keeping practices/if he’s followed appropriate procedures.

Make sure you keep notes/screenshots, although he sounds so inept (internally they will know this also) that as other posters are saying he’s hanging himself with his own rope.

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Bearyhumcrack · 22/09/2021 22:01

@Iris2020 we've moved on... but not very far!!

@CloseYourEyesAndSee yep, no update I'm afraid!

@Allmyarseandpeggymartin my grievance is almost ready to go. Some related stuff has happened this week that has pleased me, I won't go into detail but it seems this isn't the only area he's deficient in. My grievance is a work of art and just needs a bit more plus some evidence... he can't even be civil in an email so I have plenty.

Will update soon I promise.

I'm at the stage where I'm doubting myself and thinking maybe I did post something! But I just tried to and couldn't work out how to do it so it's unlikely IMO... anxiety is killing me but a positive is that I've completely cut out alcohol which is having other benefits.

Sorry for waffle. This is a bit of release!

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Justilou1 · 23/09/2021 00:09

Can’t wait to hear the rest! I imagine he’ll be announcing an early retirement any second!

Allmyarseandpeggymartin · 23/09/2021 17:44

@Bearyhumcrack Well even if you had posted something dodge (which we know you haven’t) he should have provided you with the screenshots of what you’re supposed to have done by now.

Mans an idiot pure and simple.

RandomMess · 23/09/2021 18:59

Don't doubt yourself!!! All that work you've put in, you have to see it through.

He won't be so smug after all that...

CrikeyPeg · 26/09/2021 19:54

@Bearyhumcrack - def don't doubt yourself, that's what he wants. The guy is not that bright and his efforts are going to ricochet right back.

thecatsthecats · 26/09/2021 20:39

Is his new manager in role yet?

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Bearyhumcrack · 27/09/2021 06:35

@CrikeyPeg thank you. Had my medication increased so hopefully that will help the self doubt! I'm expecting to hear something this week.

@thecatsthecats he is yes, I'm debating whether to submit my formal complaint directly to him or to the central complaints department.

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JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 27/09/2021 06:53

I can't believe this is still rumbling on. Have you been given any indication of when things will be resolved?

thecatsthecats · 27/09/2021 09:59

At this stage, I would definitely submit to both. With a statement that if you don't have a response within 48h and an immediate action plan within one week, you will escalate it further - to dickhead's new boss's boss.

Imagine you're new in post, and you find that a subordinate has been fucking around. Remember, this is the man to whom your grievance is most relevant. You don't want dickhead getting his side of the story in first - my guess is that he's trying to shove this under the carpet and hasn't made him aware yet.

Justilou1 · 27/09/2021 10:33

Absolutely both. Don’t trust that anyone within the company will have YOUR best interests at heart. (Or follow due process.) They will be all about arse covering.

GoIntoTheLight · 27/09/2021 10:53

This is 😮😮 you’re doing well though OP, keeping your chin up in the midst of this nonsense.

Sending a fist bump of solidarity and I hope this incompetent bozo gets what’s coming and that he’ll be outed with a tweet on LinkedIn (🙄)
cos that would be poetic.

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