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Accused of posting on someone's LinkedIn...

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Bearyhumcrack · 14/05/2021 06:58

I work in a public sector organisation and have been called in by my line manager to say that I have posted something offensive on someone's LinkedIn page and of causing offensive comments on twitter. Confused

I have a LinkedIn account but don't use it much, I do remember following and unfollowing this person a few months ago but no recollection of posting on their page. Is there a way I can check whether I commented without looking at their profile? I know they can see if I have looked at them and I don't want them to make any more allegations about me.

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Bearyhumcrack · 10/09/2021 23:17

@greyinganddecaying it was about this issue. Not much detail but very clear that it was about me (my name and role) and that I'm under investigation.

He's so utterly incompetent but he just doubles down, absolutely determined that he can't ever be wrong.

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greyinganddecaying · 10/09/2021 23:21

That is dreadful. I hope they throw the book at him.

OrtolanVeil · 11/09/2021 00:01

OMG, this is baffling, frustrating and horrible for you OP.

Let him (metaphorically) hang himself with his own rope.

Justilou1 · 11/09/2021 00:02

Oh my god! What a fool of a man!!!

LarsErickssong · 11/09/2021 04:57

Oh wow it gets worse! What a complete idiot I hope they throw the book at him.

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Bearyhumcrack · 11/09/2021 07:50

There were some comments about my mental health in there, I don't know how he knows that I have anxiety but he said "it's only anxiety, it's not like she's self harming". I'm not quite sure what to do with this though.

I'm really disappointed that he's minimising it like this but not surprised. I am absolutely going to go after him because he is totally failing. Rep is good though and has been on to the right people so will try to press it home next week.

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Magenta82 · 11/09/2021 07:55

@Bearyhumcrack

There were some comments about my mental health in there, I don't know how he knows that I have anxiety but he said "it's only anxiety, it's not like she's self harming". I'm not quite sure what to do with this though.

I'm really disappointed that he's minimising it like this but not surprised. I am absolutely going to go after him because he is totally failing. Rep is good though and has been on to the right people so will try to press it home next week.

"Only anxiety"!!! That is horrible! Dismissive, rude, unprofessional and a total disregard of your privacy.

I would be taking it as far as I could, I'm glad you have some good people on your side.

Justilou1 · 11/09/2021 09:01

You know the saying, “Give them enough rope and they’ll hang themselves…”? You’re giving him the wood, the nails and the plans to make the scaffold as well!!!

greyinganddecaying · 11/09/2021 09:40

This situation would make anyone anxious, whether they had pre-existing anxiety or not.

Who was the meeting with? They may be in trouble too going by those comments for not pulling him up on it.

RandomMess · 11/09/2021 10:48

@Justilou1 😂😂😂😂 yep couldn't agree more!

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Bearyhumcrack · 11/09/2021 11:31

@greyinganddecaying that's a good question. It was with someone new to HR and a sort of colleague of mine so
I don't really know why it happened? And why I wasn't told about it, the policy (which he refers to as guidelines) says I should be invited to meetings like this...

Failure to safeguard my information will form a large part of my complaint now, along with duty of care.

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Justilou1 · 11/09/2021 12:00

Maybe your boss responds better to visual aids…

Accused of posting on someone's LinkedIn...
Accused of posting on someone's LinkedIn...
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Bearyhumcrack · 11/09/2021 13:16

Ahahahhaaa! Love it.

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Flakjacketon · 12/09/2021 19:01

The policy may 'just' be guidelines but they are there for a reason and they are there to be followed. If he is not following guidelines then he should be asked to explain why he thinks they were inappropriate in your case. Attention should be drawn to the fact that he has completely disregarded them.

Good luck 💐

Dizzybintess · 12/09/2021 21:04

The man seems to be an utter numpty!!

Justilou1 · 13/09/2021 02:00

I think policy means “Policy” if he is applying it to other people, but “Guidelines” if applied to him.

daretodenim · 13/09/2021 09:55

Bearyhumcrack I'm so sorry to see this situation is carrying on. I read your thread first in May when I was in bed ill. I had to reread some posts at the time because I wasn't sure if I'd misunderstood due to foggy brain - but I never had. It is awful that this isn't resolved. However, I'm pleased that at least as time goes on, he just exposes himself more. I hope he gets what's coming to him in full.

And well done for not firing anything off in anger, but biding your time. I think I'd have had to saw my fingers off at some point if I was you!!

QuimReaper · 13/09/2021 13:30

I hope you have screenshots of the meeting notes OP!

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Bearyhumcrack · 13/09/2021 21:12

I have copious contemporaneous notes. I love a bit of record keeping Smile thanks @QuimReaper and arf at your name Grin

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Hugoslavia · 14/09/2021 22:23

it's only anxiety, it's not like she's self harming".

That is actually brilliant!! I mean, of all the stupid ignorant idiotic things to say and you have it in writing! He really is an incompetent twat!

Hugoslavia · 14/09/2021 22:27

Anyway, when he is hopefully hauled over the coals for all of this, and his job is on the line, at least he can't complain about the stress of it all? 😉

Row1n · 14/09/2021 22:58

Just a thought, could someone at work, or this man's wife have found this thread and thats how they know about the anxiety? Unless someone at work knew?

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Bearyhumcrack · 14/09/2021 23:15

@Row1n I have thought about the thread, thank you. If that's the case then it's just as unprofessional IMO.

I think it's unlikely, he's just out of his depth and trying to minimise the effect his behaviour is having on me. (Is my bet)

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Row1n · 14/09/2021 23:25

Either way he is an absolute tool and so unprofessional on so many levels it is unbelievable he still has a job

HollowTalk · 14/09/2021 23:35

I've just caught up with this thread and I'm horrified.

I assumed there was a fake account in your name and that your photo had been used for the account. Does it sound like that's what's happened? I assumed that he would say that that had to be your account because it was your photo and how else would anyone get hold of it? But if you had that photo on Facebook than anyone in the world could've got hold of it. Can you remember if it was there?