What now makes you uncomfortable that didn't at the time

[drinkingwineoutofamug]

As a teenager I like listening to a certain rock band.
Just found their album on iTunes, downloaded and listened.
I was shocked. One of the songs - sung by grown men - ' she's a 13 yr tease , with bleach blonde hair. Let me eat your cookies , let me see your cookies '
Sat in the bath gob smacked. When I was 15 , this never made me question.

Has anyone else come across something that as a younger person it never crossed your mind but now it's a wtf moment

When I was seventeen I worked in a shop with a girl the same age as me who was in a relationship with a man who was in his 40’s. They’d met when he was her school bus driver. Her parents were aware but didn’t seem to care. All I could think about at the time was how ugly and old looking he was and could never understand what she saw in him. It never occurred to me that it was wrong, now I think WTF!

Also Britney Spears Baby One More Video with her dressed as a sexy schoolgirl. She was only sixteen when it was made. Would never happen now.

@CanadianJohn

The movie "Seven brides for seven brothers" ... the brothers kidnap the girls, keep them prisoners for a winter, and all the girls naturally fall in love with their captors." Godd music and dancing, though.

Also, the Neil Diamond song: Girl, you'll be a woman soon. Come, take my hand...

Yes! I've always enjoyed old musicals but somehow hadn't seen this one until my 30s. I was a bit gobsmacked tbh!

My husband had a friend who married his teacher. This was in the mid 80s.

As far as he knows, they are still together. In a twist of fate, their son ended up working in the same place as DH did for a while.

@poppycat10

My husband had a friend who married his teacher. This was in the mid 80s.

As far as he knows, they are still together. In a twist of fate, their son ended up working in the same place as DH did for a while.

Is your husband’s friend Emmanuel Macron?

@butterpuffed

Bill Wyman [Rolling Stones] seeing Mandy Smith from when she was 13, married her at 18. And for an added twist, her mother married his son.

Uggh yes. Bill Wyman.

One of the adults at my parents' church, who was very involved with Sunday School, kids' plays etc., having an affair with a sixth former who went to the church, and eventually leaving his wife and kids and marrying her more or less as soon as she left school. Both stayed very involved with the church thereafter. This was the 80s and I was a few years younger than her and at the same school. At the time it was mildly scandalous but I look back now and think WTF?!

@Soubriquet

Mrs Doubtfire

Loved that film as a kid but as an adult I realised how toxic and immature Robin Williams was. He completely ignored the court order and did what he wanted to without thinking properly of the effect it would have on his children

Yep. I can't watch it now.

Pretty Woman is also horrible for other reasons.

Best friend in first year of high school (so 11) dating a man who could drive.
He use to be waiting for her at lunch times and we wouldn’t see her again for a few days. Her single mum drove night taxis and slept in the day, her gran next door slept all afternoon. Nobody cared

And a very handsy art teacher (late 50s, drove a sports car) who eventually shacked up with a sixth former.

I am rewatching Gossip Girl (errr as a 42 year old) and really I was too old for it the first time round...so its really not meant for me!!

It's spectatularly melodramatic and stupid but the Chuck/Blair relationship is so abusive. The things he said to her in season one would be grounds for getting locked up for coercive control not rooting for them getting together.

The film Mr and Mrs Smith - I remember loving it when it came out and I watched it recently and just thought my standards must have been so low about what was good.

The Jamie Lee Curtis interrogation scene in True Lies.

@Mammyloveswine

My first boyfriend was 25 and I was 16 when we started going out.

He was accepted into our family, his family didn't question it...

We used to go out for drinks and obviously I was underage! Split up when I was 19 when I ended it.

Honestly it creeps me out totally that nobody said how inappropriate it was!

Me too, except I was 15 when we met. I was doing my GCSEs and he'd already finished uni! Nobody seemed to mind and nobody said a word.

A girl in the year above me married a teacher at my school after leaving. He left teaching the year after she went to uni and ended up doing a Masters in the same place - no idea whether the relationship existed while she was a pupil but writing out that timeline does suggest it maybe did.

As a teenager I loved Rubber Soul by the Beatles. Listened to it recently with DH and we were both horrified by the sheer misogyny of many of the lyrics. In Norwegian Wood for example he burns her home because she refused to sleep with her.

The married 30 year old man who started to groom me at the age of 15, but waited until I was just 16 to make his move. At the time I thought it was true love now age 56 I see him for the cheating creep he was.

sleep with him.

Fresh Prince of Bel Air. Will smith being sex obsessed
All of David Williams books, very derogatory to lower classes
The film Ghost, the female spiritualist kissing Demi Moore.

The Woody Allen film 'Manhattan' in which he's in his late 30s and has a relationship with a 17 year old girl (Mariel Hemingway). When I first saw it I was only 20ish myself and thought it weird and unrealistic that a beautiful young girl would have an affair with someone like Woody Allen. Now, decades later, it gives me the creeps. Urgh.

Easy by the Commodores

I used to think it was a love song....

I used to be a massive lost prophets fan.
The fact I ever spent any money funding the bastard makes me wretch.
Sick fucker 😡

'Love, Actually'

Agree re Bill Whyman and Mandy Smith, in fact the whole 'wild child' thing of the 80s.

And smoking. My 6th form college allowed smoking in the common room. There was a permanent blue cloud at the ceiling. I had an office cleaning job in Uni holidays which involved wiping out the ashtrays.

@drinkingwineoutofamug

Bit like Rita , sue and Bob too. Not questioned at the time but now ! I've looked up this band back on YouTube and looked at comments for this song. Not one single person has pulled them up on it. I know it's 20 odd years ago but blimey

Rita Sue and Bob too - yes, BUT for me it's always tempered by the fact that the actresses playing Rita and Sue look about forty!!!

They were supposed to be teenagers/schoolgirls. I've watched this a couple of times and I just can't square it. They honestly both look middle aged. Which rather removes that ick factor and puts another one in its place!

@Soubriquet

Mrs Doubtfire

Loved that film as a kid but as an adult I realised how toxic and immature Robin Williams was. He completely ignored the court order and did what he wanted to without thinking properly of the effect it would have on his children

Yes, you look at it now and he's every gaslighting Disney Dad nightmare STBEXH from every Relationships thread going!!!

A science teacher at my high school ran a dance club and choreographed a routine in which the Year 8 boys and girls (dressed in mini skirts and crop tops) danced to Thong Song. It was performed in an assembly to us Year 10s and remember at the time feeling very uncomfortable but I think it was another year or two before he either left or got the sack (don't remember which). This was in the early 00s.

A girl in my year at school, when we were 15/16 was seeing a married man who was in his late 30’s. We all envied her and thought she was so sophisticated.

I was a teen in the late 80’s and I remember this was around the time of Mandy Smith/Bill Wyman and also the tabloids coming up with the ‘wild child’ term. Amanda de Cadenet and Emma Ridley and others who were all about the same age as me, around 15/16 going out to nightclubs and copping off with much older men. My friends and I used to really admire them and used to go out clubbing ourselves. I’m appalled now but our parents didn’t bat an eyelid!

@ProfYaffle

Agree re Bill Whyman and Mandy Smith, in fact the whole 'wild child' thing of the 80s.

And smoking. My 6th form college allowed smoking in the common room. There was a permanent blue cloud at the ceiling. I had an office cleaning job in Uni holidays which involved wiping out the ashtrays.

In my high school the (perceived) best thing about becoming a sixth former was that there was a dedicated sixth form smoking area and you didn't have to cross over the road to Kwik Save car park, like the peasants in the years below 😳

I can also think of at least two teachers who had relationships with sixth formers and in both cases, married them. Incredible.