What now makes you uncomfortable that didn't at the time

[drinkingwineoutofamug]

As a teenager I like listening to a certain rock band.
Just found their album on iTunes, downloaded and listened.
I was shocked. One of the songs - sung by grown men - ' she's a 13 yr tease , with bleach blonde hair. Let me eat your cookies , let me see your cookies '
Sat in the bath gob smacked. When I was 15 , this never made me question.

Has anyone else come across something that as a younger person it never crossed your mind but now it's a wtf moment

I went to a Catholic school and we had the black baby card thing. When we brought our pennies into school, the teacher would bring out an old clockwork toy which when wound up would open its mouth wide and swallow the penny. The toy was a hideous caricature of a black child. This was in the early 60s.

Black and white cowboy films in the late 50’s/early 60’s inevitably involved our hero attacking some unfortunate young woman (often in a barn) by holding her down and passionately kissing her. She’d struggle to no avail before capitulating and responding to his advances.

Being just a girl, it obviously took her a few moments to realise it was what she wanted.

In fairness, Poitier's tirade is because they're burning used sanitary towels in the classroom fire. It's maybe not slutty behaviour, but it's pretty rank.
But then, I'll defend that film with my dying breath. I wanted to be Judy Geeson more than anything in the world, and I wasn't even born until the 80s.

Yes but he has a further rant to the girls about their futures encouraging them to "be pretty" and saying things like "any old slut can do that!"

I very much agree with you about the film overall though and about SP himself.

In the 80's still doing PE in your underwear if you had forgotten your kit.
I had a hard time as was wearing a bar by aged 9.
Teachers wouldn't let me change in the toilets 😒

Bra not bar 🙄

@CarmelBeach

Can't you tell us the band?

Rock Queen by Love/Hate

Agree about Big, I watched it again recently and thought the same thing.

The first episode of Father Ted where Father Jack fantasises about being in a classroom and he tells the Nun to tell the classroom of girls its warm outside today so there's no need for them to wear jumpers 🤮🤮

16 year old girls on page 3 - countdowns to their 16th birthdays before they were pictured topless for men to leer at them

Bill Wyman and Mandy Smith

Paedophilia was effectively normalised. Vile vile vile

Also racist television shows. Alf Garnett etc

@sar302

PE knickers. Big up and over ones that you wore with nothing but a gym T-shirt. In the winter. For cross country. Funnily enough the boys got to wear proper shorts 🤔

When we were in yr 9 they had a shake up of the pe staff and two younger female staff joined. They immediately added shorts to the girls PE uniform.

I was a bit "whatever" about it at the time. I was a "good girl" and just did and wore what I was told. But thinking now about how many women my age were put off exercise in their teens - well of course they bloody were. They were made to run around in a pair of knickers, at the start of puberty and periods, in front of hundreds of boys and male PE staff.

Why? Why on earth where those sodding knickers even considered an item of external clothing?

TBH I never found them acceptable. I was incredulous that I was allowed to wear more for PE at primary school Y6 (tracky bottoms) than at secondary school Y7 (gym knickers). It made no sense to me at the time and I felt really self-conscious as I was tall and well into puberty when others weren't, yet.

@PivotPivotPivottt

Agree about Big, I watched it again recently and thought the same thing.

The first episode of Father Ted where Father Jack fantasises about being in a classroom and he tells the Nun to tell the classroom of girls its warm outside today so there's no need for them to wear jumpers 🤮🤮

Agree on both, I love FT but this episode and the wet t shirt one have not aged well.

Haven’t RTFT but fatal attraction. He treats her fucking appallingly.

Fucks her, treats her like shit then tries to force her to have an abortion.

The term bunny boiler. Effectively allowing men to behave like cunts then when women react to it they get painted as mad. Fuck that.

Naked women in art. The National Gallery has hundreds of years of nicely painted tits. But hey it's okay because it's art.

Girls in my year at school who used to have 18 year old boyfriends when they were 13/14

I thought it was cool and was a bit jealous, now I know that there’s no way an 18 year old guy was not having sex with his girlfriend. Rank.

Also the lyrics to 24 hours from Tulsa and I drove all night

Give me the boak now

I love it too I used to watch it all the time but I watched that episode a couple of weeks ago for the first time in years and as a 30 year old I was shocked. I can't remember the wet t-shirt episode but just remembered the episode with the lovely bottom contest which I imagine wouldn't go down well nowadays. Also Mary and Jim who knock lumps out of each other. I'm not really offended by these last 2 but I understand why some people would be. The school girl episode does make me very uncomfortable though.

Size 8 jeans.

Mary and Jim remind me of 2 neighbours we had when I was growing up. Hated each other and were full on screaming and fisticuffs but were sweetness and light when Father called round.

@TotoAnnihiliation

Size 8 jeans.

😂I can relate to this and 10 and 12....

It’s possibly my parents views that had more influence over me than my friends as there was an awful lot that made me cringe. Now I’m actually glad to hear others views. However it doesn’t mean I didn’t sing many of the pop songs not realising what I was actually singing because of the beat and rhythm - so many make me cringe now along with lots of films. I have noticed that disclaimers are used on an awful lot of the old movies now so that they can still broadcast them! I saw the first few episodes of Doc Martin a few months ago and was shocked as that wasn’t actually very long ago.

Smoking

I’ve never smoked but my dad smoked like a chimney. No one went outside to have a fag back in the 70s, our house and me and my sister must have been absolutely stinking. I love my dad and he was an amazing parent in every way except this but I’d totally judge someone now who smoked like he did round kids. Thankfully he stopped over 20 years ago before I had my own kids.

When I was 16 (30 years ago) I got a summer job in an office. One of the old blokes who worked there was a creep, he had his own office and I had to take him cups of tea or papers to sign. He would be forever touching me, asking me to kiss him on the cheek, and occasionally pulled me on to his knee for "a cuddle".

Eventually I plucked up the courage to tell another female member of staff that I wasnt happy about it and got a right dressing down, he does it to everyone she said, if you make a fuss you will make trouble for us all and probably get sacked.

Even though I didnt like it I accepted it, and thankfully I didnt stay there for long. It really affected me and afterwards I used to think about other young girls working there and him doing the same to them.

I bet this kind of thing went on a lot, thank goodness times have changed.

Piers Anthony

Not awfully long ago but I cringe at 'The Inbetweeners' not envy

We're rewatching Monty Python's Flying Circus and the peripheral treatment of women is a little bit uncomfortable and the (fortunately quite rare) moments of people in blackface is really uncomfortable.