What now makes you uncomfortable that didn't at the time

[drinkingwineoutofamug]

As a teenager I like listening to a certain rock band.
Just found their album on iTunes, downloaded and listened.
I was shocked. One of the songs - sung by grown men - ' she's a 13 yr tease , with bleach blonde hair. Let me eat your cookies , let me see your cookies '
Sat in the bath gob smacked. When I was 15 , this never made me question.

Has anyone else come across something that as a younger person it never crossed your mind but now it's a wtf moment

A boss I had in the 90s who used to come and stand behind our chairs giving us 'shoulder massages' and tell us if he liked what we were wearing that day .

In fact, no, that made me pretty uncomfortable at the time, but we just all accepted that it was the 'way things were'.

I will add John Hughes films like Sixteen Candles, Pretty in Pink, Breakfast Club.

Full of sexisms, racism, homophobia with sexual assault and rape as punchlines and achievements.

The movie "Seven brides for seven brothers" ... the brothers kidnap the girls, keep them prisoners for a winter, and all the girls naturally fall in love with their captors." Godd music and dancing, though.

Also, the Neil Diamond song: Girl, you'll be a woman soon. Come, take my hand...

Same as above, a friend of my DSis in 6th form, so around 16 to 18yr going out with Maths teacher.

just to add,early 80's

@BlueCowWonders

Diana Spencer - a 19 year old married off to a man 12 years older. Did it seem romantic then? I'm horrified as the mother of a 19 yr old

I was 18 at the time and thought it was awful. Most of the things mentioned above, Benny Hill, Carry On films, Does Your Mother Know etc made me uncomfortable at the time but if ever you mentioned it you were dismissed as not having a sense of humour.

To this day any nudity or sex scenes make me uncomfortable- I don’t see the necessity. Ag all.

Yes ! This happened not too long ago. I heard Spice Girls 2 Become 1. It is absolute filth with really obvious sex references. I felt so horrible that this was aimed at teens / tweens!

@drinkingwineoutofamug yes! I still have my original vinyl copy but bought it on cd about 10 years ago to listen to in the car. Obviously all of the songs are either about sex or ddrugs but I was quite surprised at some of the content that I hadn't considered problematic previously.

Hmm, the character of George was written as Enid Blytons objection to how society expected women to act and think.

If you reread Famous Five books her character really stands out. Especially considering the books were written in the 40s.

The thing with the song I’m on Fire is that back in the day sometimes men and women referred to each other as “daddy” and “baby girl”.... I don’t think the song was about a young girl, but a young woman and her boyfriend was her daddy in a colloquial way. Like in the 70s you would hear women refer to “my old man” and that was their boyfriend or husband.

I’m not sure that everyone was blind to these things - I think we were as teenagers, but I remember older generations objecting to song lyrics and tv shows.

My tween was singing Wrap me in Plastic with her friends.
“wrap me in plastic and make me shine
We can make a dollhouse, follow your design
Let's build a dog out of sticks and twine
I can call you master, you can call me mine”

Her friend showed her the cute anime video. She is oblivious but I’m furious that this shit goes on being marketed to yet another generation of little girls.

Agree with si much of what's been said.
Why do we see it so clearly now, can anyone tell me? Loads of this was largely unquestioned at the time (age gap relationships, teacher relationships, homophobia in comedy etc). We're a much MORE sexualised society in many ways now and yet fairly suddenly we've all realised thwse things are actually a bit off (to say the least). Why? Surely these days with the desensitisation we should be more blasé?

@Tallpaulwho

Hmm, the character of George was written as Enid Blytons objection to how society expected women to act and think. If you reread Famous Five books her character really stands out. Especially considering the books were written in the 40s.

I agree it has some good points in it. George, Jo and Harry as the 3 girls are the three names that spring to mind in the famous five of girls who didn't conform and I am sure there is a bill in malaroy (sp) towers or St claire's

However Julian and Dick can both get fucked and make their own damn tea

its the one petty thing I get angry about

The Rolling Stones "Under my Thumb".

@CanadianJohn

The movie "Seven brides for seven brothers" ... the brothers kidnap the girls, keep them prisoners for a winter, and all the girls naturally fall in love with their captors." Godd music and dancing, though.

Also, the Neil Diamond song: Girl, you'll be a woman soon. Come, take my hand...

I was quite shocked at this when I watched this recently. Got some good music in it though.

The song "young girl" by union gap..loved it when I was younger...I was singing it the other day and I suddenly did think watf?

Pretty Woman - it's ok to be a prostitute to bag a milliionaire.

The book Flowers in the Attic. My mum gave it to me to read at about 12/13yrs old and I remember it being in the “teen section” of the library. I always felt it was very adult but rereading it, holy crap is that book dark and inappropriate for young teens!

@sar302

PE knickers. Big up and over ones that you wore with nothing but a gym T-shirt. In the winter. For cross country. Funnily enough the boys got to wear proper shorts 🤔

When we were in yr 9 they had a shake up of the pe staff and two younger female staff joined. They immediately added shorts to the girls PE uniform.

I was a bit "whatever" about it at the time. I was a "good girl" and just did and wore what I was told. But thinking now about how many women my age were put off exercise in their teens - well of course they bloody were. They were made to run around in a pair of knickers, at the start of puberty and periods, in front of hundreds of boys and male PE staff.

Why? Why on earth where those sodding knickers even considered an item of external clothing?

My mum, born in 1945 told me that at 15 the girls at her school actually had to do Pe in their KNICKERS. Not only that, they had to do it in a open playground facing the street. Sickingly, she said old men would stand and watch🤢Eventually the girls complained and as a result made their own pe skirts in needlework. Shocking. That was never ok.

@goldielockdown2 Alizé! My friend and I were obsessed with that song when we were at uni. The video is pretty creepy too.

All things bright & beautiful :-

The rich man in his castle,
The poor man at his gate,
God made them, high and lowly,
And ordered their estate.

Yeah, right.

Is it Seven Brides or another musical whereby a trader sells/auctions his wife?

The film Election.

Something that makes me uncomfortable now and is still going on is children in year 5 and 6 being made to change in front of each other for PE in primary school.

Girls in my daughter's school who asked were allowed to change in the toilets or somewhere else but my daughter wasn't developed so didn't feel like she could ask but she hated it. One of the boys said "show me your boobies".

I just don't understand why this is not a bigger deal than it is. I raised it with the school and the head agreed with me and purchased screen to put up so they could do half boys and half girls but my daughter's teacher refused to use it and my daughter was terrified of her so wouldn't let me raise it.

Bill Wyman [Rolling Stones] seeing Mandy Smith from when she was 13, married her at 18. And for an added twist, her mother married his son.