What now makes you uncomfortable that didn't at the time

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As a teenager I like listening to a certain rock band.
Just found their album on iTunes, downloaded and listened.
I was shocked. One of the songs - sung by grown men - ' she's a 13 yr tease , with bleach blonde hair. Let me eat your cookies , let me see your cookies '
Sat in the bath gob smacked. When I was 15 , this never made me question.

Has anyone else come across something that as a younger person it never crossed your mind but now it's a wtf moment

@Standrewsschool

Is it Seven Brides or another musical whereby a trader sells/auctions his wife?

Are you thinking of the 19C novel The Mayor of Casterbridge? It doesn't promote wife selling though.

Went to Miami Seaquarium when I was 12 or so and watched captive orca and dolphin shows, not knowing what I do now about just how wrong this is. Would NEVER do this now. Watch Blackfish if you can’t work out why this is so wrong.

@WhatTimeDoYouCallThis

Naked women in art. The National Gallery has hundreds of years of nicely painted tits. But hey it's okay because it's art.

What is actually wrong with that though? They have naked men as well and it's not porn.

Big Bang Theory.

I've been rewatching some episodes and there seem to be a few in which Raj ends up excluded for no obvious reason.

There have also been jokes about harming oneself which have shocked me this time around.

Not to mention Howard being creepy.

Given this is a relatively recent show I'm surprised at how uncomfortable some of the stuff in it makes me feel these days, yet when it first went out I loved it.

Are you thinking of the 19C novel The Mayor of Casterbridge? It doesn't promote wife selling though

Oddly enough, there is a musical based on the novel - had its own Instagram account etc.

www.broadwayworld.com/off-off-broadway/article/THE-MAYOR-OF-CASTERBRIDGE-Musical-to-Play-TNC-64-19-20150505

Uncle Ernie in the film "Tommy" with Roger Daltrey as Tommy.
We laughed at the time as kids but uncle Ernie was a paedophile. Poor Tommy, no wonder he was so traumatised.

@Cocolapew

My Sharona and Brown Sugar's lyrics. I listened to Brown Sugar for years before I realised what they lyrics were.

Talking of the Rolling Stones and horrible lyrics, there's also Stray Cat Blues and Under My Thumb. Grim!

Lad mags like Nuts

@JaniieJones

Communal showers after PE in the 80s with battleaxe teachers standing watching!! allegedly to ensure people showered. I hope there are lots of retired PE teachers ashamed of this gross invasion of privacy.

We refused to use them. However, I don't think communal showers are wrong for those who want them (single sex of course). All men's sports teams shower like that, don't they? Or has it changed now?

When I was 15 in 1998, I worked Saturdays in a gift shop which sold Golliwogs. The local paper came to write an article on the sale of them and they wanted a member of staff to sit in amongst the soft toys. As the lowliest member of staff I was told it would be me. It's literally just my face popping out surrounded by Golliwog soft toys. Makes me cringe just thinking about it!

@HowBest2Invest

Thongs.

Used to be my go-to undergarment of choice. Now I find them incredibly uncomfortable and I'm pretty sure they give me thrush.

Yeah, I don't really get why women wear them except for a hot date or something. I know they say to avoid VPL, but there must be other ways and I don't see VPL as the end of the world anyway.

thinking of films, the scene in the original Bladerunner where Deckard stops Rachel from leaving his home, shoves her really hard into the window then demands that she says kiss me. I loved that film when it came out and the romance between the characters but seeing it again recently I was taken aback by how aggressive that part of the scene was and uncomfortable watching.

Some PP mentioned The Beatles song Run for Your Life. Interestingly John Lennon talked in later interviews about how he regretted writing that song and had grown and changed since. And in the song “Getting Better”, he writes about the person he used to be: “I used to be cruel to my woman, I beat her and kept her apart from the things that she loved, man I was mean but I’m changing my scene and I’m doing the best that I can”. Actually quite refreshingly self-aware for the time.

Lennon could be a dick but Yoko Ono made him more of a feminist in the end. Actually Yoko Ono is relevant to this thread for me - I used to agree with the whole “Yoko Ono broke up the Beatles” thing but now I’m like WTF! Their breakup was nothing to do with her, she’s just a cool feminist artist who was living her own life. And still is. But obviously it's always the woman's fault...

I can't watch Dirty Dancing. Patrick swayze's character seems like he's in his late 30's and baby hmm is like 16?

He's 25 (not saying that makes it better though)

I also used to think that Bryan Adams Summer of 69 was an innocent song about him buying a guitar. Then I actually saw him live (not by choice - a friend wanted to go!) and he literally said the song was about sex before he played it, and then while he played the song he also played a video of a woman doing sexy posing on the big screen. So that was pretty clear that he, at the very least, is aware of the connotations of the song!

Gym knickers. Oh my god, yes.

And yes to Elf. I thought I was alone in being totally squicked out by that film

Crocodile Dundee grabbing people’s crotches to check if they’re a “sheila”

iamaperiwinkle and thants1

Exactly the same happened to me! I had gone to the GP because I kept getting glandular fever when I was about 18 and at the end of the appointment he said he need to examine my breasts for lumps.

Also sad to say that when I told some old friends of mine this a couple of years ago they just asked why I stop him. Doctors were like gods in those days, I just wouldn't have had it in me to say anything and even though I thought it was a bit strange at the time I went along with it because I thought you always had to do what a doctor said, and he would always do the right thing.

It was in SE London. Sadly it probably wasn't the same GP as others have mentioned, because I guess it wasn't rare then.

As a small child, I had no idea that golliwogs were meant to be black people. A lot of my classmates were black, and gollies looked nothing like them! Nobody used the word "wog" in front of me.

I thought vaguely that they were some made-up thing like the Clangers or the Moomins!
Bit of a shock when I found out.

@Sparklfairy

Is Stan meant to be funny?

To us teenagers, we thought Stan was funny in a dark twisted humour sort of way. I never bought an album of his though and the radio versions were heavily edited so we had no idea really.

I came across the lyrics recently and they really sickened me. 'Hey Slim, that's my girlfriend screaming in the trunk, but I didn't slit her throat, I just tied her up, see I ain't like you. Cos if she suffocates she'll suffer more and then she'll die too!'

See also, the songs 'Kim' and 'Kill You', graphic fantasising about murdering his wife, raping his own mother and choking whores 'til the vocal cords don't work in her throat no more'. Vile human being.

They're not songs that celebrate violence though. They're dark stories. I don't think there's any attempt at humour in Stan.

“Lennon could be a dick”

Well it’s well documented he beat his first wife, was a serial cheater and druggie so I am completely suprised why he is seen as some sort of saint these days. He seems like a deeply unpleasant person who wrote some nice songs.

www.vice.com/en/article/ypa9b5/you-dont-have-to-imagine-john-lennon-beat-women-and-childrenits-just-a-fact

"After being off of his face on heroin the night before, Ewan’s character woke up in the bed (of a very young Kelly McDonald) oblivious to her age and was then panicked and disgusted with himself when it became apparent."

Yes, it's not condoned at all.

In don’t think the DD thing stands - Jennifer was 27, Swayze was 35 so they were both 10 years older than their characters. See also Grease.

I failed my maths GCSE's and to get onto the college course I wanted to do I had to take a maths tuition night class and then re-take my exam. Anyway, the male tutor was lovely, very friendly, wouldn't have ever thought anything dodgy about him in a million years, just an all round nice bloke and very well liked within the college. A couple of weeks after passing my exam it was plastered all over the local papers that he'd been arrested for possession of class A child pornography on his home computer. I nearly vomited when I read it.

"I think you may be missing the point. Basil was an AWFUL human being. An utter arsehole. The show was (mostly) about him getting his comeuppance week after week. The show wouldn't have worked if he hadn't been racist, abusive, and utterly contemptible."

Yes, but I also didn't see Mrs Fawlty being abused by him. I felt she was the boss in the marriage and they both disliked each other and didn't treat each other well. Maybe I missed that though.

Chris Evans and Billie Piper. He stalked her, with her father's blessing, through national media. Then when she came 'of age' married her.

Yep, actually I felt pretty uncomfortable about that at the time, but I think was spared the worst of it as I was living overseas for most of the period 🤮