What now makes you uncomfortable that didn't at the time

[drinkingwineoutofamug]

As a teenager I like listening to a certain rock band.
Just found their album on iTunes, downloaded and listened.
I was shocked. One of the songs - sung by grown men - ' she's a 13 yr tease , with bleach blonde hair. Let me eat your cookies , let me see your cookies '
Sat in the bath gob smacked. When I was 15 , this never made me question.

Has anyone else come across something that as a younger person it never crossed your mind but now it's a wtf moment

On the buses
Love thy neighbour
Black & White minstrel show
Benny hill
Dick Emery
Bless this house
Robins Nest
Beauty contests eg miss world

I watched Grease when it was released in 1978 and I still love the film but a lot of the sexual promiscuity went over my head first time around

They all make me squirm now.

It's 'a six inch valley through the middle of my skull'. Rhymes with 'dull'.

@MagicSummer - Why can't you say 'fun', pray? That's never been an alternative term for homosexual.
As for 'gay' - precisely no-one is bemoaning the loss of 'gay' to describe something happy or joyful because no-one has used it is that sense for about fifty years. I think I last saw it in a Louisa May Alcott novel.

@LadyCatLover2

I agree totally. My problem is, I rarely understand a bloody word that’s being ‘sung’ in these songs. I can’t understand what they’re mumbling and grumping about. I might know the tune/ melody but rarely pay enough attention to understand what they’re actually singing about. I guess I use WAP as an example due to its notoriety recently and bringing of attention to the lyrics.

What was wrong with Chris Evans & Billie Piper ?
Big age gap but weren’t they both adults ?

Gossip Girl/One Tree Hill/all American teen dramas where they act like grown ups and their parents are never around.

Some Girls sung by Rachel Stevens which was a bloody charity single (comic/sports relief??) I think if I remember correctly it’s about a girl giving brow jobs to climb the ladder???

And forgot the Carry on films!

@Gladimnotcampinginthisweather

Babysitting circles. Very popular in the 70s and 80s. A group of friends would set up a babysitting circle. You could ask anyone in the circle to babysit and payment was in tokens so no money changed hands. When you ran out of tokens you had to babysit to build up credit. Sounds ok, but you had to be introduced by a member of the group to join. This meant that other members of the group, other than your friend, might not know you, and yet you would be babysitting their children for hours at a time. Mostly the women did the sitting, but sometimes the men did. There was no DBS then, and quite often the members of the group just knew each other from the school gate and weren't friends as such. It seemed like a good idea at the time, but in hindsight I can't imagine doing it now.

Yes, my parents were in one of these in the 1990s. To be fair, you could choose who you asked to babysit so I guess you might only choose people you know. I can only remember about 5 or 6 different people babysitting (most of whom I also saw outside of babysitting as they were my mums friends) but the list of names was over a side of a4. I actually wish something like this existed now, though I’d only have people I know look after my daughter.

Grease. I hate it with a passion.

@SocraticJunkieWannabe

The film Almost Famous - 14/15 year old groupies with men in their 30s at least.

Omg, yes! I had the same experience rewatching it about 3 years ago. I thought nothing of it when that film first came out.

My contribution is pretty much every song by The Cartoons. They were big in the 90s and played at school discos and children's parties. I recently looked them up on Spotify whilst reminiscing with DH and we realised that almost every song on that album is about oral sex

I am in my fifties and I still use both gay and queer in their original senses, and also use gay to mean a homosexual man.

Lots of things on this thread did make me think ugggh at the time, but were clearly socially acceptable. Eg the song “Young Girl” , heard that as a teenager and felt horrible, the sense of not being allowed to be a child anymore, that adult men were looking at us in a sexual way, it made me anxious and very uncomfortable.

@Gothichouse40

The song 'Summer of 69' is about Bryan Adams getting his first guitar. "I got my first real six string, over at the five and dime.' That is what the song is about. He even gave an interview on it.

I'm glad someone said this. I was reading the thread last night and wondering WTF people were on about, even pointing out he was 9 years old in 1969. Thought the world had gone mad.

Gladimnotcampinginthisweather
Babysitting circles. Very popular in the 70s and 80s. A group of friends would set up a babysitting circle. You could ask anyone in the circle to babysit and payment was in tokens so no money changed hands. When you ran out of tokens you had to babysit to build up credit.
Sounds ok, but you had to be introduced by a member of the group to join. This meant that other members of the group, other than your friend, might not know you, and yet you would be babysitting their children for hours at a time. Mostly the women did the sitting, but sometimes the men did.
There was no DBS then, and quite often the members of the group just knew each other from the school gate and weren't friends as such.
It seemed like a good idea at the time, but in hindsight I can't imagine doing it now.

My MIL thinks we have failed at life because we don’t have a set up like this. 😂

Love Actually.

I thought it was pretty shit when it came out. I rewatched half of it before last Christmas before turning in it off in disgust. Such a load of sexist bollocks. Strangely, achieved the double whammy of being derogatory to both sexes. The woman just wait around to be accepted or rejected by men. The men were arseholes. I really couldn’t believe what I was watching.

@AnxiousWeirdo

Grease. I hate it with a passion.

Yes! All other girls my age were obsessed with it. I thought it was dire.

@pennylane83

I heard Spice Girls 2 Become 1. It is absolute filth with really obvious sex references. I felt so horrible that this was aimed at teens / tweens!

But at least it sort of had a safe sex message:

Be a little bit wiser, baby
Put it on, put it on

I agree, there's nothing wrong with singing about safe, consensual sex between adults.

And love actually, a pp is icked out about the simulated sex scenes, but apparently not bothered by the romanticized stalker behaviour of the bloke that fancies Keira Knightley?

'Delilah' by Tom Jones is mine. Catchy tune about a man murdering his partner. I can't believe it took me so long to notice!

Also 'Where do you go my lovely' by Peter Sarstedt. What a creep! He obsesses over this woman, and thinks he can see inside her head ("when she's alone in her bed") because he knew her years ago. I have known too many men like this who think they own a woman forever just because they used to know you or something. Ugh.

@catsareme14

Gilbert o Sullivan singing Claire

My mum loves that song as a teenager and called me Claire. When I finally heard the song I found it really weird too

Chris Evans was in his mid 30s and she was a teenager. People look past that because he's a likeable guy, but there was a smaller age gap between Charles and Diana, and yet people on this thread have said that was creepy.

Seems it's only icky if the man is unlikeable....

Thongs !.

Yep. Chris 'Likeable Guy' Evans. Sure.

Most people I know think he's a tit. I think on balance they probably prefer Charles . . .

To those asking wondering if inappropriate GPs still practice, sadly yes. My family member (who is a police officer) was sexually assaulted by hers THIS YEAR but it was her word against his and not really investigated beyond that. She and we were told if we named him to anyone else we would be breaking the law ourselves and he would also start a civil case which he would likely win (I work in the field so I know it's true), and that we should just change practices. Powerless.

Bill Wyman marrying Mandy Smith. He was 52 she was 18 and it had been going on for years (rumoured from when she was 13). I was 22 at the time and I remember my mum and I having a conversation about how disgusting it all was. Even in 1989 it was definitely 'off'.

I thought it was a bit rum that he bought her a Jag filled with roses and sent it to her house when she hadn't even passed her test. One of those grand romantic gestures that comes across as a bit creepy, really.
I suppose the fact is, she speaks well of him and they're still on very good terms. I don't think she's hesitate to speak out if she felt she'd been exploited.

@LadyCatLover2 teenager as in 18 though not 13, so an adult.
She’s got a piece in today’s papers about how much he saved her from a really bad time in her life, and they split on good terms.
I still don’t see the issue

@AnxiousWeirdo

Grease. I hate it with a passion.

omg.I thought it was just me.awful film

@Gladimnotcampinginthisweather

Babysitting circles. Very popular in the 70s and 80s. A group of friends would set up a babysitting circle. You could ask anyone in the circle to babysit and payment was in tokens so no money changed hands. When you ran out of tokens you had to babysit to build up credit. Sounds ok, but you had to be introduced by a member of the group to join. This meant that other members of the group, other than your friend, might not know you, and yet you would be babysitting their children for hours at a time. Mostly the women did the sitting, but sometimes the men did. There was no DBS then, and quite often the members of the group just knew each other from the school gate and weren't friends as such. It seemed like a good idea at the time, but in hindsight I can't imagine doing it now.

Yes, We were in one and it worked very well. Many of us are still friends and recently there was a birthday party which many of the group attended. The women stood together for a photo in front of a whiteboard where “Baby Sitting Circle’ was written. Then the men stood in front changing the sign to “The REAL Babysitting Circle. No one bothered whether a man or a woman turned up to look after the kids.