What now makes you uncomfortable that didn't at the time

[drinkingwineoutofamug]

As a teenager I like listening to a certain rock band.
Just found their album on iTunes, downloaded and listened.
I was shocked. One of the songs - sung by grown men - ' she's a 13 yr tease , with bleach blonde hair. Let me eat your cookies , let me see your cookies '
Sat in the bath gob smacked. When I was 15 , this never made me question.

Has anyone else come across something that as a younger person it never crossed your mind but now it's a wtf moment

Ally Macbeal - I used to love its quirkiness and humour but watched it the other day and found her incredibly irritating and an awful portrayal of a female lawyer - teeny skirts, pining for a man, having neurotic meltdowns every five minutes. Sheesh!

The first Rocky movie when Adrian keeps saying she wants to go home and he blocks the door.

This thread has really stirred up some memories.
I was a teenager in the late 60's.
I've just remembered a reggae-style song called "Wet Dream".
I've just Googled it and it was by Max Romeo, released in 1968 but didn't hit the big time till 1969. Then it was banned, at least by the BBC....
I remember being in the CATHOLIC youth club I went to (!), and this being played. I was deeply uncomfortable with it, but some of the sexually experienced girls thought it was so cool to sing along loudly to the lyrics, as in "lie down girl let me push it up, push it up, lie down......" So others seemingly WERE comfortable with it.
I wish I'd made a stand against it then, but you want to fit in as a teen don't you, and get scared to speak out? But I found it distressing and it would now be misogynist and sexist at the very least.
Does anyone else remember it?

@TipseyTorvey

I read an article today about girl gymnasts wanting to wear full length costumes and it blew my mind that of course it's horrendous that young girls are made to wear what is essentially sparkling swimsuits and do cutesy moves in what is actually an incredibly robust athletic sport. There's been so many exposes lately about paedophile gymnast trainers but it only occurred to me today that girls should absolutely not be wearing tiny swimsuits whilst they split their legs in the air. I did gymnastics for ages and didn't even question it.

I have no connection with gymnastics and have thought this for decades. I felt like a voice in the wilderness.

Also Saved by the bell, I loved that show but cringe now at the sexism and stereotyping. Hate the way the ‘feminist’ character is seen as annoying and whining.

Mandy Smith being in a relationship with Bill Wyman when she was 13.

Well no that’s not true - it did make me feel uncomfortable I wondered how the hell Bill was getting away with it and wtf her mother was thinking. (Of the money I think).

But he wasn’t arrested so...

Communal showers after PE in the 80s with battleaxe teachers standing watching!! allegedly to ensure people showered. I hope there are lots of retired PE teachers ashamed of this gross invasion of privacy.

Jerry lee Lewis apparently married his 13 yr old cousin .

I liked heavy metal. Most of it is dodgy.

There was a white snake album of a naked woman astride a snake. Hideous. As a teen never occurred to me it was wrong.

@Nishky

I think a lot of sings from the past were pretty dubious

Happy Birthday sweet sixteen
Centrefold
Does your mother know that you’re out

Although none that I can think off reach the depths of that revolting blurred lines

Nishky - Does Your Mother Know That You’re Out is actually a song about a girl being too young, so the ABBA boys tell her they won’t get it on with her and tell her to go home instead. It’s probably the only song from that era that points out that adult men shouldn’t be taking advantage of little girls.

I can see what you want
But you seem pretty young to be searching for that kind of fun
So maybe I'm not the one
Now you're so cute, I like your style
And I know what you mean when you
Give me a flash of that smile (Smile)
But girl you're only a child

A few weeks ago, Easter time, a friend told me about a teacher at her primary school. Everyone loved him and at Easter he'd bring in chocolate nest cakes for the children and they'd all have to sit on his knee and kiss his cheek to get one. The children saw nothing wrong with it at all. She was reminded of it because her niece brought her some chocolate nest cakes and my friend said "Oh, paedo cakes!"

At my secondary school, a convent school, the school priest was quite old and used to let us into his office and try to chase us around and touch us. We'd call him a dirty old man but thought he was harmless because he was so ancient. Looking back although he may have been harmless enough by the time he was trying to touch us up he almost certainly wasn't when he was younger and probably doing the same and worse.

@JaniieJones

Communal showers after PE in the 80s with battleaxe teachers standing watching!! allegedly to ensure people showered. I hope there are lots of retired PE teachers ashamed of this gross invasion of privacy.

Yep why Couldn't they just invest in some shower curtain,s?

@Gobbeldegook

I used to be a massive lost prophets fan. The fact I ever spent any money funding the bastard makes me wretch. Sick fucker 😡

Same! Me and my 14 year old friends used to really fancy him, and the guy from Fall Out Boy who we later found out sent dick pics to underage girls. Horrifying.

@Thants1

I’ve never mentioned this to anyone before but recently started thinking about it and realised that it might not have been what it seemed. When I was a teenager I was sexually active from around 14 and went to the GP to get the pill thinking that would be sensible. He advised that I went on the contraceptive injection so every 3 months I went to see him to get it and he would make me undress my top half so he could feel my breasts to check for lumps. I’ve never heard of anyone having to do this. Would be Interested to hear if anyone has any opinions on it?

Yes that your GP was a pervert. I’m so sorry xx

Queen's song lyrics: -

Hey!
I was just a skinny lad
Never knew no good from bad
But I knew life before I left my nursery (huh)
Left alone with big fat Fanny
She was such a naughty nanny
Heap big woman, you made a bad boy out of me
Hey hey!

Horrid.

Love Lessons by Jacqueline Wilson. A pupil-teacher relationship storyline. The pupil is asked to leave the school. This was published in 2005.

On the Buses is horrible to watch now too.

were you at YDH?

The lyrics to Whitney Houston’s Saving All My Love For You. Horrendous on all levels.

sorry, that was meant for @Aroundtheworldin80moves - were you at YDH?

'Yep why Couldn't they just invest in some shower curtain,s?'

I know! Teenage girls all obviously excrutiatingly body conscious made to queue up naked, one teacher stood at the start of the showers the other stood at the exit. I do wonder how many pervs were PE teachers in those days. We had a male teacher who used to make girls climb up those ridiculous wall ladder things (wtf was the point in those) and blatantly stand underneath looking up skirts.

People complain about the snowflake generation nowadays but they certainly would not put up with that crap.

Seconding school showers after PE and teacher stood watching.

We also had a very leery male PE teacher who for some mad reason was made a 6th form tutor. He only had girls in his group and would regularly take them out for meals/team building days off school. He got at least 1 girl pregnant, and left his wife for her. We also had a teacher who used to hit pupils with a dap he kept in his desk...... there was one boy in my class that he really really picked on, which now looking back on was horrendous bullying. He threw a board eraser at him once and nearly knocked him out I feel so so bad that none of us ever reported him.

@StevieNix

I used to watch benny hill, the carry on films and the two Ronnies with my dad as a kid, totally didn’t see how revolting and misogynistic they are as a kid obviously but my god

Oh dear. I still enjoy watching all these.

@PoppyWoods

Easy by the Commodores

I used to think it was a love song....

I thought this is about a relationship break up and the man feeling chilled about it?

PE lessons seem to bring out quite a few of these!!

I started school in the late 1990s and the rumours in primary were that in secondary everyone had to shower, even if they were on their period, in front of everyone else, and the teachers watched to make sure. Thankfully this wasn’t the case at my school but I think it was in others at that time. Utter madness. Im a teacher and I cannot imagine forcing girls to strip off in front of me and shower - when they change for PE (underwear on!) I make sure I’m looking at some books or my computer screen!!

My school also had PE knickers, cycling shorts optional. Thankfully my mum bought the shorts but there were some girls doing gym and athletics in actual pants. Absolutely bizarre.