What now makes you uncomfortable that didn't at the time

[drinkingwineoutofamug]

As a teenager I like listening to a certain rock band.
Just found their album on iTunes, downloaded and listened.
I was shocked. One of the songs - sung by grown men - ' she's a 13 yr tease , with bleach blonde hair. Let me eat your cookies , let me see your cookies '
Sat in the bath gob smacked. When I was 15 , this never made me question.

Has anyone else come across something that as a younger person it never crossed your mind but now it's a wtf moment

The song Eat You Alive by Limp Bizkit, loved it when I was younger but listened to it the other day and it's just creepy.

Also I love Friends but I am so uncomfortable in how Ross treats the male nanny episode, I just skip over it.

@drinkingwineoutofamug Oh no, what's wrong with 'Summer of 69'? I almost don't want to know, I love that song!

[quote Thants1]@Nonmaquillee
This was in the late 90s/2000s. Was your friend also getting contraception?[/quote]
This was late 1980s, I think she was on the pill.
The university dr was a creepy old guy.

I agree with a PP, you can still report it now.

I have a memory of being unwell on the sofa, aged around 12. The GP came round to check up on me (yes, they used to do this!). I was lying down with an open necked nightie on. He looked right down it and made a comment to my mum - I can't remember what he said but it was about how developed I was.
I felt so uncomfortable and embarrassed at the time. My mum said nothing. Now, if that happened to my DD I would be obviously report him.
Remembering this makes me feel really sad.

@Frenchdressing

I liked heavy metal. Most of it is dodgy.

There was a white snake album of a naked woman astride a snake. Hideous. As a teen never occurred to me it was wrong.

To be fair most heavy metal of that era were songs about men counting their lucky stars or actually about feelings of love. Most of them were complementary about women even if it was overly sexualised.

I cringe at the horrible lyrics in songs these days which are often boastful, entitled and make sex sound like a competitive sport.

Yes! Smoking everywhere. Including sixth form common room. We had a trip to London and there were 3 buses. One for smokers!

My DH used travel alone on a bus to school at age 7!

I briefly went out with a 28 year old when I was 17.

@JaniieJones

'Yep why Couldn't they just invest in some shower curtain,s?'

I know! Teenage girls all obviously excrutiatingly body conscious made to queue up naked, one teacher stood at the start of the showers the other stood at the exit. I do wonder how many pervs were PE teachers in those days. We had a male teacher who used to make girls climb up those ridiculous wall ladder things (wtf was the point in those) and blatantly stand underneath looking up skirts.

People complain about the snowflake generation nowadays but they certainly would not put up with that crap.

Indeed the whole experience was just excruciating tbh ,we had these ridiculously short PE skirts ,that were not flattering,and then the whole shower experience ,no wonder very few people enjoyed PE🙄

Watching Noel Clarke in Dr Who 😞

@HenryHooverIII girls weren't allowed trousers at all in my secondary school. And no tights until upper school. Freezing legs in skirts and socks. It wasn't a "traditional" private school or anything either, just Catholic. And the PE knickers. How could anyone think that was ok? I think too that people had really different attitudes to relationships between school girls and older men. A friend openly dated a teacher from another school from the age of 15. Neither her parents nor any authority objected. She is still with the guy now 30 years on so it evidently worked out but still. Inappropriate. Another friend had a "fling" with her dad's mate. There was a fuss made when her parents found out but not half as much as there would be now. And in another case a pupil and teacher had sex on a school trip. He lost his job but I'm not aware he was actually prosecuted despite her being 14 and in his care. She was partly blamed as it wasn't the first time she'd had sex so she was obviously "that sort of girl" Horrendous.

@SpringtimeSummertime

'Clockwork' I think, but there's nothing dodgy/sexual about it. It's something to do with him being late for some award ceremony or something, I can't remember what the girl is going along for but it's nothing to do with a 'relationship' between them.

The tiny PE knickers and running through the showers naked whilst the PE teachers watched us 😳
Going clubbing at 14.
Wandering about drunk late at night at 14.
Watching love thy neighbour and rising damp.

@LindyLou2020 No way would I want 1960s Jamaican music to be cleaned up and sterilised, sorry!

@Thants1
I had the same at a contraception clinic but I was a bit older, around 16. It’s always bothered me and I wasn’t sure. Thanks for posting.

All those 90s 00s tv shows bullying overweight people, mocking voiceovers, and mean jibes and puns.
Ace Ventura films. Crocodile Dundee.
Revenge of the Nerds. The Goonies
They all gave me some level of ick but I wasn't self aware enough to interrogate why.

Tbh a lot of "Comedy's " From the 70,s and early 80,s were overtly racist and sexist ,I remember my mum and Dad used to watch " it ain't half hot mum" some of the characters were white pretending to be Indian,etc but it was quite confusing to me as a small child because the just looked like they had makeup on which of course they did .

Daddy-Long-Legs - the novel. It’s a study of grooming a vulnerable orphan. Yuck.

Yes, it is proper creepy!

www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-europe-56858863

I always wondered why gymnasts had to wear such skimpy leotards plus in other sports.

I agree about Love Actually. I like the film but those simulated sex bits are horrible and unnecessary.

while I think about it, most of the Disney films/fairy tales

When you start agreeing more with the parents than you do the child, you realise there is a lot wrong.

Little Mermaid - change your body to get the man
Sleeping Beauty - Consent goes out the window
Beauty and the Beast - fancy a girl, lock her up and give her a library
Snow White - how to pit women against each other because of their looks
I am sure there is more

[quote FurrySlipperBoots]@SpringtimeSummertime

'Clockwork' I think, but there's nothing dodgy/sexual about it. It's something to do with him being late for some award ceremony or something, I can't remember what the girl is going along for but it's nothing to do with a 'relationship' between them.[/quote]
Well, not quite. His wife (Penelope Wilton) sees them from her car (possibly outside the station where he's missed his train; not sure) and attempts to trail them precisely because she thinks they are having an affair. The girl actually is having an affair with another teacher at the school, and he follows them for good measure. There's also a bit with a pervy travelling salesman who thinks he and Cleese are both going to have a go on the girl, and they steal his clothes or something.

Pretty fucking dodgy

I find some more recent things really uncomfortable that I used to love like the Inbetweeners and reality shows like Geordie Shore really uncomfortable, a lot of young lads only after one thing but really explicit about it, getting hammered and sleeping with multiple women. Having two daughters now I’d hate them to be referred to as ‘clunge’ etc. Also don’t like a lot of the music videos nowadays, very sexualised, lots of nearly naked women dancing around a man etc.

I went to the GP aged 17 with severe tonsillitis -it was the same GP that delivered me as a baby. He asked me if I examined my breasts -for what I asked? he told me to take my shirt off. He fondled both of my breasts for about 20 minutes including repeatedly stroking my nipples and said I should do it regularly as I would both enjoy it and it is was medical to check for lumps. He then booked me in for 3 months later and did exactly the same thing. I never told a soul but I had a nurse appointment a week or so later for some stitches and I told her I had an appointment booked for another breast exam. She asked why and how I had the first one. She then left the room and came back a little while later -and said I didn't need the next appointment and he had 'made a mistake'. I never saw him again as I went to university. But it was clearly abuse looking back. Nothing was ever said and nothing happened to him. He was my parents GP for years. He retired about 20 years ago.

@RedcurrantPuff

Also the lyrics to 24 hours from Tulsa and I drove all night

Give me the boak now

Burt Bacharach hid the creepiness with catchiness.

My mum had me at 16 and my dad was 30. I never thought anything about it growing up but now I have a 16yr old I would be horrified if she came back saying she was pregnant by a man that much older.

I used to love the Eminem song Stan but listened to it recently and I know it’s meant to be funny but it still made me feel very uncomfortable.

B-b-but I love Dusty Springfield's 24 Hours from Tulsa!

Back in early 90’s I was 20 and working in a job of predominantly men in their 40’s and 50’s and in the office one of them asked me to sit on his lap and see what comes up! They all laughed. When I look back on that now I think it’s terrible.