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This is really bad isn't it?

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Getafuckinggripman · 30/04/2021 15:36

I drink prosecco at the weekend. Probably 3 or 4 bottles spread out from Friday afternoon to Sunday. I don't touch alcohol during the week, never hungover for work, drink loads of water during the week etc. Don't really think about alcohol as I'm in routine etc. It's just a weekend thing. However... I've been off this week and other than one night I've been on it every day. Probably 15/20 units each day. It'll stop when I'm back to normal next week, I don't get the shakes or wake up needing a drink or anything but it'll get to 5pm today and I'll think about cracking one open to take the edge off. If I couldn't physically get any wine I would be a bit pissed off but I wouldn't be licking yesterday's wine glass or anything. I was the same during Christmas week and it stopped as soon as I went back to work. Am I an alcoholic or something?!

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Mammyloveswine · 30/04/2021 16:01

I think the fact you are questioning it means that you know you are drinking more than you should, I was the same over the Easter holidays!

Maybe on a weekend have a drink but then do something else in between each glass for example have a nice meal with a glass then wash up and have a nice bath, wash your hair etc then have another glass if you fancy..this works for me as it breaks the "habit" of drinking if that makes sense and I don't mindlessly drink for the sake of it.

I can easily drink a bottle of wine in a night, even an extra glass and it's scary how easily! But I've come to realise it is habit ie I'll hold my glass and constantly sip instead of enjoying it slowly when I put it on the table.

Lockdown definitely meant I drank a lot more too!

PurpleFadesToGreen · 30/04/2021 16:02

You say boring...

(I'm not a drinker, don't see the point)

But, what difference is it to watch a film/read a book sober than drunk??
How is it boring?

TTCat39 · 30/04/2021 16:04

@Getafuckinggripman

It was alright, I just read a book for a bit and watched a couple of films (I listen to music if I'm on the wine). I gave Dry January a go but cracked after 2 weeks. I wasn't shaking or sweating or anything but I admit I was a bit bored. I do enjoy it, reading these comments I think I'll give it a miss tonight and just go for a long drive or something. Yes I admit I am definitely a binger.
Are you drinking and listening to music alone, or is this with company?
Jesusmaryjosephandthecamel · 30/04/2021 16:04

Classic binge drinker. Very unhealthy.

romdowa · 30/04/2021 16:05

If you need a drink to have fun/relax etc and if you're pissed off because the alcohol is all gone then you sound like you have a problem. Problem drinking isn't the same for everyone

Aposterhasnoname · 30/04/2021 16:07

I used to drink that much so I know where you’re coming from. You should cut back really. I’ve found that I need a drink of something that’s not tea or water to keep me off it. I’ve developed a taste for mocktails (Aldi do ready mixed ones for 35p a bottle (4 glasses in a bottle) 3 cals a glass!!!! That is not a typo. And they are lush. I go the full monty with umbrellas and sparklers and shit.

The other helpful thing is organising something for the following day. I never ever drive the day after drinking so booking a restaurant for lunch or tickets for an outside attraction some distance away keeps me off it.

LubaLuca · 30/04/2021 16:07

Are you genuinely unable to occupy yourself with a book or whatever, or is the boredom more a lack of focus because you're thinking about wine? Did you used to be able to enjoy a film or a series on TV?

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Getafuckinggripman · 30/04/2021 16:08

Are you drinking and listening to music alone, or is this with company?

Both. If I'm with my boyfriend we'll have music on in the background and chat away. If I'm alone I'll browse YouTube and watch things I find interesting or stick Friends on or music videos or whatever. A bit of Queen! I'm not drinking alone because I'm depressed... I just like my own company and don't always want anyone else's.

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oneglassandpuzzled · 30/04/2021 16:09

@Packitupwillya

As long as you don’t make a habit of it I wouldn’t worry.
It already is a habit. Every weekend.
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Getafuckinggripman · 30/04/2021 16:09

I do lots of things for fun it's not all alcohol related!

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GreyhoundG1rl · 30/04/2021 16:09

Of course it's too much. Your other healthy habits don't cancel this out.

TTCat39 · 30/04/2021 16:09

@Aposterhasnoname That's a bargain and a great tip! I was going to suggest alcohol free beers, as there are loads of really good ones now, whereas alcohol free wine is awful, in my opinion!

MindGrapes · 30/04/2021 16:11

Not trying to be goady but is this just you on your own? I can imagine a couple of people having more of a laugh drunk than sober but drinking on my own just gets me depressed, tired, and unable to actually do anything I usually enjoy like reading/watching tv. Are you texting or calling people? What are you doing when you drink?

MissMaple82 · 30/04/2021 16:12

Sounds pretty bad to me

MindGrapes · 30/04/2021 16:12

sorry cross-posted. Some of that would be fun a bit tipsy but not as drunk as I would be on that much alcohol... sorry sounds like it is a problem...

Bluntness100 · 30/04/2021 16:13

Well the safe limit is 14. You do about 30/40 a week on average rhen what about 140 a week when you’re off? Honestly that’s a shit ton.

Flobbertybillop · 30/04/2021 16:15

That’s a huge amount of alcohol, which is very bad for you, but also, binge drinking at the weekend is just as bad as drinking every day, if not more, as you’re taking in larger amounts on your binge days.

SueSaid · 30/04/2021 16:15

At least you know you have a problem, many heavy drinkers won't admit it. What do your bf, family and friends say or do they all binge drink? You need to cut down, I think calling sober 'boring' is a typical enabling/excusing comment . It is actually healthy and very normal. I know saying to anyone who takes massive health risks 'just don't do it' doesn't help but take this thread as your first step to changing your behaviour. There must be online support and forums for addicts.

Whitchurch · 30/04/2021 16:15

@Bluntness100

Well the safe limit is 14. You do about 30/40 a week on average rhen what about 140 a week when you’re off? Honestly that’s a shit ton.
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Lesemeraudes · 30/04/2021 16:16

Do you have to drink so much? I mean, what would happen if you just had a glass? Or couldn't you just have one.

OhToBeASeahorse · 30/04/2021 16:16

I think the fact you seem to have to take your mind off it when you're not drinking suggests you have a problem.

Rubyrecka · 30/04/2021 16:17

@DinosaurDiana

Alcoholics can go without when it suits them.

That's completely incorrect.

Floralnomad · 30/04/2021 16:18

If you’ve reached the point where a life without alcohol is ‘fucking boring’ then you’ve reached the point where you need to address your relationship with alcohol .

Pumperthepumper · 30/04/2021 16:18

You’re not going to get balanced advice from strangers because people who drink often will encourage you and people who don’t drink at all will guilt-trip you.

I think you’re the only person who can judge your own relationship with alcohol, and you’ll know how honest you’re being with yourself.

Hollyhobbi · 30/04/2021 16:21

Have you done one of those online quiz things where you answer questions about your drinking habits to see if you have a problem with drink?

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