Trapped toddler parents:"Where else can you post tuff tray pictures and moan about your husband?"

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Following on from the previous thread. Thanks @footprintsintheslow for the thread title inspiration 😁

@squishymamma, hotel bed, hotel sheets, sleep all night sounds fantastic right now!

@PinkDaydreams, sorry you were on the receiving end of rudeness previously when you needed help. No idea what possesses people to be rude and nasty when you are looking for support. Glad you feel supported now. I really wish I had this thread back in the very first lockdown.

Hope everyone has a decent sleep tonight x

@MonkeyPuddle, tin foil robots surprisingly entertaining, hope your DS likes it too!

Thanks for your thoughts too. DH is fab around the house especially as he's working from home now and does lots of the house stuff. Its just the night time that has no balance. I think I was just wondering whether those with older babies/toddlers, as opposed to breastfed younger babies if their partners got up to do the settling.

I am self-employed ( less than part-time hours at the moment) and do my work as and when so I guess with the night get ups I never feel off duty but who does?

Your day tomorrow sounds lovely. Hope you have a good day x

Right best get to bed!

Morning all. 4am again today. I'm currently wrapped up in my duvet on the couch and have resorted to TV as otherwise DS wanted me to actually be active and do stuff with him. And I thought 5am was bad...

@MonkeyPuddle sounds like a lovely day! Enjoy

I think I'm going to have to take a day off work and keep DS off nursery, he had a fever last night and I don't think it's completely gone today. Not totally unexpected with his vaccine last week, and it seems he's getting yet another molar (this teething process is never ending!!). We drugged him up on Calpol last night and he didn't wake up once! Silver lining I guess.

Hope everyone had a good night.

@squishymamma, sending you sympathy and hope DS feels better and you get through the day.

We've been up most of the night. Both boys now full of a cold and sniffles and DS2 has been sick.

A quiet indoor day here today is on the cards.

Oh no sorry theres lots of early waking and sickness. Teething is definitely never ending.

DD seems to be cluster feeding again at night, it's constant. I'm going to try and sleep Train again this week as it's half term and just deal with DS waking up. I really want to stop breastfeeding altogether, could I do this in a week?

@Chocolatetrifle sorry to hear you have two sick DC. Hoping you all get some rest today.

@Motherofmonsters I've heard that it is possible but it might be rougher on both of you than doing it gradually - engorgement and the sudden drop in oxytonin for you, and the "cold turkey" (almost) adjustment for DD. But obviously if it'll save your sanity it'll be worth it! Never done it but am one of those nerds who reads up on these things, so they suggest dropping one feed and then waiting a few days before dropping the next - so maybe drop 1-2 a day, depending on how much you feed? Sending support.

I've already been shouty mum even though I'm fully aware DS is sick he's emptied a whole pack of biscuits on the floor and crushed them up, and then grabbed a load of his poo when I was changing him. Oh and of course he loves yanking on my hair. Going to need a ton of caffeine and grace for myself to get through today I think

Oh god the early starts! DS was up at 6 which is fine, DP is being a pissy little bitch this morning and ‘helping’ with the kids but is actually just being short and grumpy with them and then wonders why the 3 year old doesn’t respond well to him.
I’ve told him to piss off upstairs to his office/shit hole and just let us get on. He martyrs himself sometimes, well tries to.

Lots of lovely healing for the poorly wee ones.

@Motherofmonsters I’m no BF expert but I’d be inclined to drop a feed during the evening (cluster feeding is pure torture) and replace with formula and then replace the night feeds, gradually with a bit of hand expression if you need to relieve the pressure.

Thank you, maybe I won't just stop, I don't think she'll let me anyway. She'll just be shouting milk at me constantly. I'm just so fed up with it all, DS would take a bottle then I went away for a weekend without him so it was much easier.

Sorry partners and kids have been hard work today. Ds is acting like he's been eating sugar in his sleep, so naturally we've made cupcakes with fluorescent pink icing.

Well I’ve fed DD as much as I can and have skipped out the house to do a clinic session. I’ll be missing tea time and bath time. WOOOOOOOOOPPPPPP!!!!!!

@Motherofmonsters will DD take a bottle at all? I’d be inclined just to shove some formula under her nose when you/your boobs/your sanity needs it, nothing wrong with a bellyful of formula if it means you get chance to have a rest/cry/several wines/not be bloody touched all the time.

@MonkeyPuddle THIS. I spent so much time thinking formula was the worst thing ever because I'd magically lose all my milk and DS would never want to nurse again...so stupid. If I was redoing it I'd totally supplement every now and again, the beginning of our breastfeeding journey was literal hell and my relationship with DS really suffered because of it. But if your DD won't take a bottle @Chocolatetrifle then that's really hard - I'm in the same boat as DS.

We went to buy blackout curtains, I don't think I can handle more 4am wakeups especially when doing it solo next week...

No she won't take a bottle, she's actually 20months so doesn't need anything. She will take cow's milk from a cup but won't at night! I don't know why she wants to drink so much.

Ah tagged the wrong person, blaming it on the tiredness haha

Morning all!
Cloudy day, it'll be a day of food shopping and then the park later on.
Has anyone thought about what to do for father's Day or gifts? I've booked a table for tea but am struggling with actual gift ideas for DH

Any nice plans this bank holiday weekend? Hopefully the weather stays nice for us all

Oh I spoke too soon, it's raining now!! 😩

Oh no! It's rain here to.

I've got massive cramps but not sure why as I'm not due on?? Literally feel like I'm in labour.

DS is at Preschool until lunch and I'm pottering around the house with DD. Not sure what to do this afternoon. Can't really be bothered to go out but will probably get fed up if I stay in

Morning all.

@Motherofmonsters do what’s best for you, 20m of breast milk is incredible!

Nice morning for far, the baby didn’t wake til just gone 7am, she only had me up once in the night as well.

DS is at nursery today, picking him up early to get his hair cut later though.

I’ve just had an email telling me ive won £100! It’s my mums birthday next month and I know she’s hankering after a new handbag so I’ll put it towards that and get her something a bit nicer 😊

We’re off to a Room On The Broom trail tomorrow, there’s a lake, playground and those big wooden carved statues. Weathers looking good for tomorrow, we’ll probably set of early, that way DD can nap in the car on the way there, have a picnic lunch and then come home.

@PinkDaydreams ive ordered DS’s dad some fridge magnets with DS on, not that he bloody deserves it.
I’ll be getting DP a new set of lounge pants/comfy joggers I think, he’s embraced the pandemic WFH thing and I’m sick of seeing him in his scruffy, hokey, pj bottoms 😂

Feeling a little bit deflated, preschool manager came out to say that DS's behaviour has gone bad again. He was making amazing progress but he's gone backwards. She's going to try and get the school SENCO back out before they break up for the summer. She's a little worried as the expectations at reception are much higher and she doesn't want him to struggle with the transition. This just feels never ending, I just want him to succeed, I'm not worried about the academic bit but I want him to have friends and be happy. She said she's going to work with him herself to do everything they can so they are really supportive but I just feel rubbish about it all.

Wow that's fun that you've won £100 @monkeypuddle. The trail sound ace!

Hi everyone,

I'm off to take DS2 for an assessment shortly and then a covid test as he's had high fevers all yesterday and in the night. He won't eat anything but at least he's drinking. I suspect a throat infection. Can you get a throat infection and covid at the same time? Really don't think it is covid but we are isolating until we get the test back. DS1 is still snotty and lethargic. Not fun both ill at the same time. I'll have to wake him from his nap then go to an assessment at an centre in a car park then straight to the covid test so that is not going to go down well with him. He's not had the covid swab. dS1 had one last May which was negative so guess we've been lucky not having to do one since.

DS1 has spent a lot of time this morning playing with this 'build it yourself car'. Got it out as an emergency thing to do this morning from a couple of things I have started getting for his birthday. He played with it for nearly an hour himself. It's for age 3 plus. Got it on Amazon.

@MonkeyPuddle congratulations on your win!

@PinkDaydreams, I've not even thought of Father's Day yet!

@Motherofmonsters, sorry to hear you feel down. Try not to worry. They will do all they can to help your DS before he starts in reception I'm sure, but understand why you feel like that too I would feel the same. Sending you support x

Hi everyone, I hope it's not too late to join the thread!!

Oh no @chocolatetrife hope DS2 feels better soon. How old is he? I found with my youngest the first couple of times he got covid swabbed, he was too young to be scared by it. (I think between both children we're on about 8 self isolations now )

Speaking of which....we are self isolating yet again My dad has a sore throat and keeps coughing. Fingers crossed for a negative result tomorrow morning as we are meant to be visiting the ILs for the first time in nearly 1 year.

Sending lots of good thoughts from me too @motherofmonsters the preschool sounds really supportive though which is great.

Have just got a notification/video from DS1s school - they made a baking soda volcano last week. Of course when asked DS1 does "don't remember" every day 😆

Thank you! They are very supportive, I don't think they could be doing much more.

Sorry everyone is so poorly, hope the test all go okay and isolations dont last long.

Welcome @anurulz not to late!

Thanks @Motherofmonsters.. feels like a day to reach out.. work is exhausting and home is even more exhausting lol.. rationally my issues seem trivial but I honestly feel so alone at times. DH is an absolutely amazing guy but his work is literally 24/7/365 so even though he is working from home, I have not seen him other than to hand over meals. SS is a joy but it's so tiring entertaining/looking after a 21 month old alone while managing work and home.. I have a Nanny, bless her (I could literally ask her and her family to move in at this time) but today morning I just blew up and ended with a crying jag coz DS wouldn't have breakfast, while the dishwasher didn't actually wash anything so I needed to wash utensils before making breakfast and trying to feed him.. Ended up embarrassing DH coz I shouted for him to help, while he was on phone with his colleague, and am still miserable while trying to complete my weekly admin and waiting to go into a complex meeting.. I could honestly run away from home but I miss these two idiots something terrible if I did..