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Rude parents

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Rahil · 18/04/2021 19:26

I had a conftontation with an extremely rude couple at school drop off back in November. It was a case of a road rage which was unbelievably harsh given the fact that they knew our children were from the same school. The incident hsppened outside the gate. I have felt traumatized since and feel unsafe whenever I see them at school. The school head teacher apologized to me but never the couple.
What if another incident happens? What if they are attacking and aggressive again?

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MotherOfGodWeeFella · 18/04/2021 19:31

Well you're going to have to provide more info then you're more likely to get appropriate strategies to help you deal with this.

UCOinanOCG · 18/04/2021 19:51

It's been a while since the original incident so I would just act like it never happened and ignore the couple should your paths cross. I am assuming it was a car issue so if you I won't here car avoid it where possible. Keep them as far away from you as possible.

FionnulaTheCooler · 18/04/2021 19:53

Get a dash cam if you don't already have one in case of another incident, but given it happened in November hopefully there won't be a repeat.

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Rahil · 18/04/2021 20:30

Thanks all, I was in the car and they started swearing. I moved but on the next stop got out of the car to simoly tell them Im sorry this happened but we should be more civil when in this community. That’s where they got quite rude and aggressive. They accused me that Im intimidating them and when I said «I apologized», the woman snapped : apology accepted! I was in tears of anger! Never in my life had I confronted such rude people particularly in a school environment.
I feel I have been traumatized. Sadly the school did nothing. When I told them the story, I expected them to facilitate an apology from their side but I believe they knew that couple and didn’t care about me...

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HerMammy · 18/04/2021 20:32

What actually happened that you apologised?

NerrSnerr · 18/04/2021 20:33

The school can't make grown adults apologise to you- that's not their job.

What was the actual incident? Could it have shaken them up (like an accident near miss?)

TheOneWithTheBigNose · 18/04/2021 20:33

But what actually happened to make them swear at you in the first place?

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Rahil · 18/04/2021 20:34

I moved out of the parking place without looking in the mirror and we were close to crashing. But we were both on very low speed so it wasnt really that bad. It definitely not a situation where they would yell and swear!

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WeAllHaveWings · 18/04/2021 20:35

Your explaining of what happened is incoherent, so I imagine you were the same when dealing with them so it was likely all down to flared tempers on both sides at the time.

Move on, forget it happened and either ignore them and/or be civil if you see them.

3Britnee · 18/04/2021 20:35

@Rahil

Thanks all, I was in the car and they started swearing. I moved but on the next stop got out of the car to simoly tell them Im sorry this happened but we should be more civil when in this community. That’s where they got quite rude and aggressive. They accused me that Im intimidating them and when I said «I apologized», the woman snapped : apology accepted! I was in tears of anger! Never in my life had I confronted such rude people particularly in a school environment. I feel I have been traumatized. Sadly the school did nothing. When I told them the story, I expected them to facilitate an apology from their side but I believe they knew that couple and didn’t care about me...

Jesus christ 🙄 don't ever get in a real fight, ay op.

AccidentallyOnPurpose · 18/04/2021 20:36

@Rahil

Thanks all, I was in the car and they started swearing. I moved but on the next stop got out of the car to simoly tell them Im sorry this happened but we should be more civil when in this community. That’s where they got quite rude and aggressive. They accused me that Im intimidating them and when I said «I apologized», the woman snapped : apology accepted! I was in tears of anger! Never in my life had I confronted such rude people particularly in a school environment. I feel I have been traumatized. Sadly the school did nothing. When I told them the story, I expected them to facilitate an apology from their side but I believe they knew that couple and didn’t care about me...

Seriously grow up. Was it seriously the first time someone was a dick to you?

They were twats, it was months ago,nothing else happened. Why are you still agonising over this?

You're traumatising yourself for making it bigger than it was, giving them more power and wondering about what ifs.

AccidentallyOnPurpose · 18/04/2021 20:37

By not for.

NerrSnerr · 18/04/2021 20:38

You made a mistake, they shouldn't have shouted and sworn but you also should have been far more careful outside a school.

Another incident won't happen because surely you're being more careful? If they're aggressive again call the police- it's not the school's place to deal with these issues between parents.

HerMammy · 18/04/2021 20:40

So you were driving like a twat, the couple were pissed off with you and swore at you and you expected apologies, school intervention and now are traumatised??
Sit down and calm yourself, what a ridiculous overreaction!
Be glad that’s all you have to worry about!

HercwasanEnemyofEducation · 18/04/2021 20:42

What's the point of this thread?

You should have been looking before reversing. They will have been shocked to nearly crash and perhaps not thinking calmly.

It happened months ago, move on.

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Rahil · 18/04/2021 20:43

True, That’s why I apologized and I think civil people should be polite enough to also apologize for swearing rather than snapping: apology accepted! I almost regretted apologizing to such rude people.

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Rahil · 18/04/2021 20:45

@HerMammy sorry but a mistake and not even a huge one doesnt make me a twat... and I apologized for it. Does this give people the right to be rude?...

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AccidentallyOnPurpose · 18/04/2021 20:46

@Rahil

So you're not traumatised you're offended and pissed off?

Hoppinggreen · 18/04/2021 20:46

When people have had a shock they can over react but they hardly punched you did they?
It shouldn’t still be causing you this level of anxiety by now

TheWaif · 18/04/2021 20:46

You nearly hit their car then got out to make a condescending comment to them?

I'd have told you to fuck right off too. Honestly, who on earth are you?!

HercwasanEnemyofEducation · 18/04/2021 20:47

It's a pretty huge mistake to reverse into someone. They swore when you were about to hit them and apologised after.

TheOneWithTheBigNose · 18/04/2021 20:47

So some people were a bit rude after getting a fright when someone nearly crashed into them 5 months ago.
Hold the front page.

Hoppinggreen · 18/04/2021 20:47

And look up traumatised in the dictionary - what happened to you wasn’t a trauma, it was mildly upsetting

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Rahil · 18/04/2021 20:47

@HercwasanEnemyofEducation I was hoping someone who might have gone through something similar could say something to help me calm down...

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TheOneWithTheBigNose · 18/04/2021 20:48

Why are you so angry about it now, 5 months later?

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