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Rude parents

94 replies

Rahil · 18/04/2021 19:26

I had a conftontation with an extremely rude couple at school drop off back in November. It was a case of a road rage which was unbelievably harsh given the fact that they knew our children were from the same school. The incident hsppened outside the gate. I have felt traumatized since and feel unsafe whenever I see them at school. The school head teacher apologized to me but never the couple.
What if another incident happens? What if they are attacking and aggressive again?

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HercwasanEnemyofEducation · 18/04/2021 20:48

It's been months. Why do you need calming down now?

Hoppinggreen · 18/04/2021 20:49

I’m sure lots of us have had very minor confrontations in a carpark where nothing really happened
We all survived and moved on

TheOneWithTheBigNose · 18/04/2021 20:49

But ok... yes, I was angry about something a few months ago. I’m over it now.
Does that help?

AccidentallyOnPurpose · 18/04/2021 20:49

[quote Rahil]@HercwasanEnemyofEducation I was hoping someone who might have gone through something similar could say something to help me calm down...[/quote]
Here it is...

Get over it and over yourself! Literally, it happened, now it doesn't matter and you don't give it the head space anymore.

UhtredRagnarson · 18/04/2021 20:50

Have you considered getting over it?

Original poster
Rahil · 18/04/2021 20:50

@TheWaif No need to be rude. I have shared my experience and I don’t think I made a huge mistake worth people shouting snd swearing and I apologized too.
I’m starting to feel more aggressive people are out there.

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TheWaif · 18/04/2021 20:50

It was 100% your fault. Learn from your mistakes, drive safely, don't go out of your way to piss off people you've already
massively pissed off, problem solved.

AccidentallyOnPurpose · 18/04/2021 20:51

[quote Rahil]@TheWaif No need to be rude. I have shared my experience and I don’t think I made a huge mistake worth people shouting snd swearing and I apologized too.
I’m starting to feel more aggressive people are out there.[/quote]
Careful you don't get traumatised again...

HercwasanEnemyofEducation · 18/04/2021 20:51

You don't think it's a huge mistake but everyone here is telling you it is. A car crash is an absolute ballache to deal with even if the damage is minor.

Accept responsibility for your mistake and move on.

TheWaif · 18/04/2021 20:52

After nearly hitting their car you have them some kind of misplaced, pious social lecture. You definitely deserved it.

UhtredRagnarson · 18/04/2021 20:52

[quote Rahil]@HercwasanEnemyofEducation I was hoping someone who might have gone through something similar could say something to help me calm down...[/quote]
Gone through something similar? Yes, countless people have minor unpleasant interactions on a daily basis. It’s not a big deal. As for calming down? It’s April. It’s been 5 months. If you haven’t calmed down yet then you are the one with the anger issues and they will definitely avoid you. So problem solved.

GintyMcGinty · 18/04/2021 20:52

You nearly caused an accident in your car.
You apologized.
They were upset/angry and shouted and swore at you. That can happen when the adrenalin is pumping in an accident situation. Its not ideal and its a shame they haven't apologized since then.

But 6 months have passed.

Time to move on. You are blowing this out of all proportion.

Original poster
Rahil · 18/04/2021 20:52

@HercwasanEnemyofEducation well I feel bad that they made me cry in front of the school while other parents were around. It was a horrible experience.

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HercwasanEnemyofEducation · 18/04/2021 20:54

So you were shocked too, probably because of the near crash and your adrenaline. But now it's time to move on.

UhtredRagnarson · 18/04/2021 20:54

@Rahil

I moved out of the parking place without looking in the mirror and we were close to crashing. But we were both on very low speed so it wasnt really that bad. It definitely not a situation where they would yell and swear!
I’m guessing you were reversing Out of a parking space in a school car park. You didn’t look and almost hit their car. Which could have been a child! Yeah, I’d be angry with you too. In future reverse into parking spaces so you can drive out and see what’s coming.
saraclara · 18/04/2021 20:56

It was your fault.

In their shock they were rude to you.

None of what happened has anything to do with the school staff, so I'm bemused as to why you think they should have got involved. It wasn't even in school grounds.

It's five months later.

What if another incident happens? What if they are attacking and aggressive again?

Why would another incident happen? Presumably you're careful now when you reverse. And why should they attack you or be aggressive again? They probably forgot about it within 24 hours.

TheOneWithTheBigNose · 18/04/2021 20:57

[quote Rahil]@HercwasanEnemyofEducation well I feel bad that they made me cry in front of the school while other parents were around. It was a horrible experience.[/quote]
I imagine it was stressful... 5 months ago.

Veryverycalmnow · 18/04/2021 20:57

I definitely think they were wrong to shout and swear in front of children. It was most likely due to the near collision and not how they would normally speak. This sort of thing can build up in your head over time, especially if it was upsetting, but try not to expect it to happen again. Hope you can feel calm soon.

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Rahil · 18/04/2021 20:59

I think the problem is I have never sworn at people when they’ve made mistakes. So it was strange and unacceptable when they did. Maybe if I was a mouthy person who eould right out shout snd swear at people, I wouldn’t have been here.

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Bluntness100 · 18/04/2021 20:59

Wow. Ok. Confused

Monsterjam · 18/04/2021 21:00

As much as I agree with all previous posters, you drove badly, then got out your car and went to confront them and feel traumatised by this and IMO this is all on you and fucking stupid. To avoid in future, drive carefully, if you make a mistake don’t compound it my confronting people and people probably won’t act like this towards you!

Lou98 · 18/04/2021 21:00

Sorry but this was your fault, you should have been paying attention, especially with it being a a school car park, that could have easily been a child behind your car, yet you seem to be minimising that by saying it was a "small" mistake.

Yes the swearing from the other driver was unnecessary but they probably got a fright with nearly being hit in to and lashed out in the heat of the moment. Did they have their child in the car that you nearly hit?

Fwiw, I wouldn't have been apologising to you either and I find it ridiculous that you reported it to the head teacher expecting them to make the other driver apologise when the whole thing was your fault.

AccidentallyOnPurpose · 18/04/2021 21:01

@saraclara

It was your fault.

In their shock they were rude to you.

None of what happened has anything to do with the school staff, so I'm bemused as to why you think they should have got involved. It wasn't even in school grounds.

It's five months later.

What if another incident happens? What if they are attacking and aggressive again?

Why would another incident happen? Presumably you're careful now when you reverse. And why should they attack you or be aggressive again? They probably forgot about it within 24 hours.

The didn't attack or were really aggressive the first time either, definitely not enough to be a worry for the future.

She nearly crashed into them, they swore at her, she got out of the car and went to them, apparently apologised and the woman said "apology accepted".

Where's the attack? I don't really find that that aggressive either.

AccidentallyOnPurpose · 18/04/2021 21:02

@Rahil

I think the problem is I have never sworn at people when they’ve made mistakes. So it was strange and unacceptable when they did. Maybe if I was a mouthy person who eould right out shout snd swear at people, I wouldn’t have been here.
Of course not. You're always the traumatised victim.Hmm
TheOneWithTheBigNose · 18/04/2021 21:02

You haven’t explained why you’re so wound up now, 5 months later?