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Rude parents

94 replies

Rahil · 18/04/2021 19:26

I had a conftontation with an extremely rude couple at school drop off back in November. It was a case of a road rage which was unbelievably harsh given the fact that they knew our children were from the same school. The incident hsppened outside the gate. I have felt traumatized since and feel unsafe whenever I see them at school. The school head teacher apologized to me but never the couple.
What if another incident happens? What if they are attacking and aggressive again?

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PatrickBatemann · 18/04/2021 21:02

So they swore at you? Jesus. Get over it.

saraclara · 18/04/2021 21:03

@Rahil

I think the problem is I have never sworn at people when they’ve made mistakes. So it was strange and unacceptable when they did. Maybe if I was a mouthy person who eould right out shout snd swear at people, I wouldn’t have been here.
People do this when they feel endangered suddenly. They got a fright. Their response would have lasted a minute or two at most. They'll have forgotten about it, ooh...about 4.9 months ago. I suggest you forget it too.
HerMammy · 18/04/2021 21:03

Avoid the Sistine Chapel OP 🤣

saraclara · 18/04/2021 21:05

@Rahil

True, That’s why I apologized and I think civil people should be polite enough to also apologize for swearing rather than snapping: apology accepted! I almost regretted apologizing to such rude people.
I missed this. No, they don't have to apologise for swearing. It's a very natural reaction (and I very rarely swear) to a scary moment that YOU caused.
PatrickBatemann · 18/04/2021 21:05

@Rahil

I think the problem is I have never sworn at people when they’ve made mistakes. So it was strange and unacceptable when they did. Maybe if I was a mouthy person who eould right out shout snd swear at people, I wouldn’t have been here.
You weren't looking where you were going and nearly hit them, so no, I don't think it's all that unacceptable that they swore I would have too
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Rahil · 18/04/2021 21:07

Thanks all.
@AccidentallyOnPurpose how did you make this judgement?
Isn’t this a constructive forum or are we here to lash at eachother?

I supposedly need to change my way of thinking.

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Monsterjam · 18/04/2021 21:08

@Rahil yes you do need to change your thinking. You can’t Confront people and expect them to be polite to you, that’s stupid

MorgeMooney · 18/04/2021 21:09

OP, if it's been 5 months I think you need to just let it go.

I think many people if someone nearly reversed into them would shout/swear out of shock or anger. Especially if they had kids with them. It's a scary thing to happen. And insurance claims/car repairs are a bloody pain in the arse.

Just do pick ups and drop off as normal.

HercwasanEnemyofEducation · 18/04/2021 21:10

You do need to change your way of thinking. It's not normal to be this wound up so many months later about something, never mind something that you were in the wrong for.

LudoBear · 18/04/2021 21:13

I genuinely don't understand this. Are you a pupil at the school? 6th form? Because if not, why on earth would the school facilitate an apology? It has absolutely nothing to do with the school. Why are you so worried 5 months on? Perhaps in the last 5 months, instead of worrying about this, you could have spent the time learning to drive properly.

AccidentallyOnPurpose · 18/04/2021 21:15

@Rahil

Thanks all. *@AccidentallyOnPurpose* how did you make this judgement? Isn’t this a constructive forum or are we here to lash at eachother?

I supposedly need to change my way of thinking.

Because most normal, well adjusted people would've been over it by now , even if they weren't in the wrong.

The fact that you aren't indicates it's either your Usual MO or you have an ulterior motive to cling on to this particular incident and fret about future what ifs. Since ulterior motive doesn't really make sense( while possible it's improbable) that leaves usual MO.

Did a recent real life conversation spark this thread?

dun1urkin · 18/04/2021 21:15

@HercwasanEnemyofEducation

You do need to change your way of thinking. It's not normal to be this wound up so many months later about something, never mind something that you were in the wrong for.
This. Exactly this.
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Rahil · 18/04/2021 21:16

Its interesting that everyone agrees they had all the right to be rude...
Thanks to those of you who didnt call me a twat and tried to understand my situation.
It might be worth mentioning that I do have anxiety and stress. I came here as a friend told me this forum is quite understanding and supportive.
This is the first time I posted something here.
Thanks

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PatrickBatemann · 18/04/2021 21:20

@Rahil

Its interesting that everyone agrees they had all the right to be rude... Thanks to those of you who didnt call me a twat and tried to understand my situation. It might be worth mentioning that I do have anxiety and stress. I came here as a friend told me this forum is quite understanding and supportive. This is the first time I posted something here. Thanks
It is supportive when people have actual issues. What advice are you expecting with this situation, honestly?
HercwasanEnemyofEducation · 18/04/2021 21:21

We all agree because your reaction is OTT.

Are you receiving help for your MH?

JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows · 18/04/2021 21:24

OP I don't think your prolonged fears for a fairly non-event are normal at all. Are you usually an anxious person?

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Rahil · 18/04/2021 21:25

@HercwasanEnemyofEducation I agree with you. I’m also surprised why this keeps bothering me after such a long time. I see the couple and feel very stressed and intimidated and I know this is unnormal.

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Brieminewine · 18/04/2021 21:34

1- Get a grip

2- Learn how to reverse park

Hope that helps

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Rahil · 18/04/2021 21:47

@PatrickBatemann probably at least not mote people swearing??

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savethewales · 18/04/2021 21:57

I’d be amused if a headteacher asked me to apologise to a woman I somehow made cry by saying ‘apology accepted’ after they blindly reversed in a school car park, nearly crashing into my car and giving me enough of a fright to beep/swear...before then pulling over and telling me not to react in that way to their cock up. Sweet Jesus.

CorianderBee · 18/04/2021 22:03

Both sides of this situation were in the wrong, but 'apology accepted' even when said viciously is hardly traumatising. Nor something for the school to deal with - what can they do? They can't punish them?

You just need to accept that you were wrong and that they behaved in a way that wasn't kind, but is over. They swore at you and made you uncomfortable, that's never nice, but it isn't beyond the realms when maybe you scared the crap out of them, made them slam on or gave them a fright.

They shouldn't have sworn, but they did and you can't change that. I doubt they even think about it anymore. So you really need to work to get past your anxiety and live life as normal again bc clearly you're fixating on this in a way that people without anxiety wouldn't.

TheOneWithTheBigNose · 18/04/2021 22:05

I’m not a swearer but if someone had almost crashed into me on the school run and I’d muttered a profanity in the heat of the moment I wouldn’t be going out of my way to apologise for it.

TheWaif · 18/04/2021 22:05

@Rahil

Its interesting that everyone agrees they had all the right to be rude... Thanks to those of you who didnt call me a twat and tried to understand my situation. It might be worth mentioning that I do have anxiety and stress. I came here as a friend told me this forum is quite understanding and supportive. This is the first time I posted something here. Thanks
People are understanding and supportive here when it's due. Not for nonsense like this.
Bluntness100 · 18/04/2021 22:11

Op when you say you have anxiety and stress is that clinically diagnosed and are you receiving help for your mental illnesses?

WhySoSensitive · 18/04/2021 22:14

Sorry OP but I don’t understand?
You nearly crashed into them because you weren’t looking, then you told them to be civil because you were near a school?
They were snappy with accepting your apology?

When did they swear at you?

You need to let this drop after so long, it really is a none issue.