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Are all 17 year olds awful.

37 replies

Paranoidandroidmarvin1350 · 14/04/2021 21:15

Okay. Covid and the last year Aside. Is your 17 year old hard to get on with. Sullen. Moany and know everything. And everyone else knows nothing. And college is awful. And teachers are awful. And will only be happy when they are on the computer.

When he doesn’t leave his room. He is sometimes happy. But apparently I don’t understand ( about what I’m not sure ) and I don’t know anything.

And why does he have to do the stupid college course with teachers that know nothing. Ugh.

OP posts:
GoWalkabout · 14/04/2021 21:25

Grin Wine

GoWalkabout · 14/04/2021 21:27

[I'm going to spare you the 'mine' s lovely shtick because you really don't need to hear that]

HollysBush · 14/04/2021 21:27

Sounds about right 🙂

BarryTheChopper · 14/04/2021 21:29

Mine is, she is a total ratbag.

My 14 year old is somehow still a little ray of sunshine. I will be very sad when he turns too.

SpringItIsThen · 14/04/2021 21:30

FlowersBrew

Here you are, OP. Hang in there.

chocolatesaltyballs22 · 14/04/2021 21:32

Mine is either completely lovely or completely horrible. There's nothing in between. And yes, she absolutely does know everything ALL of the time and the teachers at her very expensive private school are apparently all idiots. Or annoying. Or both. And she eats ALL of the food. If I want treats for myself I have to hide them.

Roll on September and Uni!

IdblowJonSnow · 14/04/2021 21:32

Based on myself, yes! Tis just a phase!

Original poster
Paranoidandroidmarvin1350 · 14/04/2021 21:35

Doesn’t want to do the course anymore. But putting no effort into anything else. Trying to get him to have a shower is a battle I no longer want to do.

Why the over dramatic stuff. I’m tired of worrying about his lack of drive to do anything. I’m tired of thinking and worrying about me getting into trouble as he is no longer wanting to do his college work. Surely at the age of 17 he should be the one with the consequences not me.

He was not like this before.

OP posts:
MummyInTheNecropolis · 14/04/2021 21:36

Damn, mine is 15 and awful, I was hoping she might be nice again by 17. Not sure I can take another few years of it Shock

scrunchSE18 · 14/04/2021 21:39

Mine found sixth form really tough and was difficult to be around. Once he actually made it to uni to a course he enjoys he changed and is now great company despite COVID. Hope yours makes it out the other side too

lookdeepintotheparka · 14/04/2021 21:43

@Paranoidandroidmarvin1350 if I could only get mine out of the shower - he has a minimum of 3 showers a day!! Hmm

My son is proper Jekyll and Hyde - not a morning person at all but warms up later in the day and can be a real laugh!
It's more the insatiable appetite that is hard to deal with and the fact he has ALL the cups buried in his room. You have to choose your battles otherwise we're constantly moaning at him!

dotty12345 · 14/04/2021 21:44

Mine is 19 and still a bleeding nightmare!

sydenhamhiller · 14/04/2021 21:46

Ha ha! My oldest is 17 and really, a very lovely person - just not with me or his father. He knows everything. We -in particular, but not exclusively - know nothing.

On the whole, I manage to let it slide off me, but it is really triggering my DH. I try to remind him they have to be like this, or you’d be heartbroken when they leave home.

Of course, I am sentimentally sad that I only have another year or so with him at home - and then he says something so patronising and withering, I manage to rapidly get a grip.

Litthefirealready · 14/04/2021 21:50

Mine is pushing buttons - deep breaths, lip biting and walking away.

I’m hoping it gets better.

Megasaurus · 14/04/2021 21:52

I was a complete arse from 14-19. I think I stated getting nicer again after that.

diavlo · 14/04/2021 22:16

My eldest is 18 and is behaves like an egomaniacal psychopath! He was an absolute darling until he was 14, so I know deep down he is a nice lad.
My 16 yr old has her moments, but in comparison has been a dream.

ItWasntMyFault · 14/04/2021 22:19

Now the gyms have opened and he's allowed to meet up outside with friends he's in a pretty good mood.

He's not good when he's cooped up though so found lockdown quite hard and was down and grumpy.

LookToTreblesGoingTreblesGone · 14/04/2021 22:22

My nearly 21 year old has possibly turned the corner I'm hoping I haven't jinxed it now I've said it but he came home for 10 days over Easter, and I can honestly say that I enjoyed his company! It's the nicest he's been since he turned 14!

Aprilshowersandhail · 14/04/2021 22:27

My 17 yo ds is hideous.. And exh is fuelling him. Never paid Cms for 4 years. Suddenly buys ds a bloody decent car. Adds on the fancy wheels and tinted windows... Pays for the insurance.. Now I am being bullied to pay for lessons and take him out to practice.. He has no inclin to get a job. College is also rubbish. Thinks df will fund everything...
Urgh..

RubyFakeLips · 14/04/2021 22:35

Between GCSEs and Uni or Work is like some sort of proving drawer for adults. They think they’re adults but act like children, it’s a secondary toddler phase.

Mine have all carried on like fucking Goldilocks during that time. Nothing is right or good enough. Then comes some very specific perfect set of conditions and they are lovely for an afternoon and you think you may have successfully raised them to adulthood, then the monster returns, and it’s your fault not theirs and don’t you bloody forget it because they will remind you. Also will take the time to point out any of your other general failings.

Ride it out, let him fail and have to sort it out himself, maintain a serene and wafty distance until he turns the corner out of it.

Evasmissingletter · 14/04/2021 22:35

My 17 year old is lovely 😃😃

Chewbecca · 14/04/2021 22:36

hahaha, I had a debate with my 17 yo this morning about his teacher who definitely doesn’t know how to teach, my DS thinks his methods are all wrong. I told myself at least he has an opinion and is happy to express it, will come in handy one day.

MobyDicksTinyCanoe · 14/04/2021 22:39

My ds was lovely at that age and still is....... Thank God because he kept me going when I had to live with the she demon that was my dd. 😳

KM38 · 14/04/2021 22:52

I’m pretty sure at around 16-17 the most my Mum ever got out of me was an eye roll and a rant about how she didn’t understand ANYTHING!! I mean, how could she possibly understand what I was going through in my life...she was a MUM and I was a hard done to teenager 🙄🤣🙈 Nevermind the fact that she was only 35 and perfectly in touch with what was going on in the world 🙈😅 and I was brutal 😐 absolutely no filter whatsoever! I still think of some of the horrible comments I made to my mum and feel awful!
I’m sure by the time I hit 18 I was an absolute delight though OP 😅 hang on in there!!

Watermelon1234 · 14/04/2021 23:03

@RubyFakeLips

Between GCSEs and Uni or Work is like some sort of proving drawer for adults. They think they’re adults but act like children, it’s a secondary toddler phase.

Mine have all carried on like fucking Goldilocks during that time. Nothing is right or good enough. Then comes some very specific perfect set of conditions and they are lovely for an afternoon and you think you may have successfully raised them to adulthood, then the monster returns, and it’s your fault not theirs and don’t you bloody forget it because they will remind you. Also will take the time to point out any of your other general failings.

Ride it out, let him fail and have to sort it out himself, maintain a serene and wafty distance until he turns the corner out of it.

Love this, yes I can relate completely with my 16 year old
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