Are all 17 year olds awful.

[Paranoidandroidmarvin1350]

Okay. Covid and the last year Aside. Is your 17 year old hard to get on with. Sullen. Moany and know everything. And everyone else knows nothing. And college is awful. And teachers are awful. And will only be happy when they are on the computer.

When he doesn’t leave his room. He is sometimes happy. But apparently I don’t understand ( about what I’m not sure ) and I don’t know anything.

And why does he have to do the stupid college course with teachers that know nothing. Ugh.

After slightly tricky teenage years between 13-16, mine was an absolute delight for a year during all the lockdowns, after missing out on GCSE's and normal teenage life etc....

Now she's in sixth form and waaaaaay superior to you or I 😉. She knows everything of course and likes peace quiet from everyone and despairs at the 'tantrums' younger sibling might have as she has totally forgotten she was / is like that too 🤦‍♀️.

Now lockdown is over, she is a social butterfly - out every day for breakfast or evenings in gardens with friends. She talks on the phone with lots of laughing and a posh voice until late 😫. She has changed again and it is very much back to being all about her friends and her life now with very little consideration to anyone else.

I am very glad she has good friends and is happy, but I am finding her new ways quite tiring too!

@RubyFakeLips

Between GCSEs and Uni or Work is like some sort of proving drawer for adults. They think they’re adults but act like children, it’s a secondary toddler phase.

Mine have all carried on like fucking Goldilocks during that time. Nothing is right or good enough. Then comes some very specific perfect set of conditions and they are lovely for an afternoon and you think you may have successfully raised them to adulthood, then the monster returns, and it’s your fault not theirs and don’t you bloody forget it because they will remind you. Also will take the time to point out any of your other general failings.

Ride it out, let him fail and have to sort it out himself, maintain a serene and wafty distance until he turns the corner out of it.

This is helpful.

Now I'm worrying about Ds turning 14 in a few months, after some of the comments 🙈

Why would you get into trouble because he doesn't do his course work?
Leave him to it. Then leave him to face the consequences.

I am the survivor of four teenagers...at the same time.
I'm now grey haired and haggard
One was 'easy' two were your average hormonal, argumentative and occasionally drop dead drunk on lambrini girls... (they were both grounded quite a lot that year as a consequence and improved a lot!)
And one was the spawn of Satan. Seriously that boy was truly awful. Not justt rude, lazy and superior, but aggressive, lying, stealing, weed smoking, hole in wall thumping awful.

I am happy to report that at about 18 a magical change occurred... they are now amazingly lovely and competent young adults...and the worst, DS1 is the most chilled out man, hard working, funny and kind.

Hang in there folks!!!!

My 17 year old is either an absolute delight or a complete rat bag there is nothing in between. She knows bloody everything she’s nearly 18 you know!! Dh and I are always on her back never her 2 brothers. Yet she cooks most nights very cheerfully making a meal for dh and me getting in from work, started teaching her youngest brother Gaelic during both lockdowns. She is never just a little bit grumpy though she’s always either lovely company or yelling at everyone.
I’ve learned to just ignore and walk away, dh tends to be better at talking to her when I just want to yell right back.

Doesn't that just fall under the category of teenagers can be moany little shits lol

I made mine move out at 17, but that was following being horrid for years.
She's 19 now and absolutely lovely, though of course she doesn't live with me!

Thankyou everyone. Hearing other people are in the same boat makes me feel like I have not done too badly with him. If he flunks out of college then I do get into trouble. No idea why that is.

Nothing can compare with the absolute shit I was when I was 17, so I'm bracing myself and awaiting karma.

Currently sitting with my 2 year old who keeps randomly hugging me and saying "awww mummy" and getting so scared for teenage years.
I'm sure most of you would not swap though

I have a nearly 17 year old sone who is just great - isn't moody, comes downstairs to chat, is still happy to be seen with us and is generally a lovely kid.

I also have a nearly 14 year old who is also great and lovely but I see snippets of what life will be in a year or two and I'm not sure it will be as easy as with his brother!

They're both fab but different in their own ways 😉

This has just reminded me to message my friends 17 year old DS about university courses after a plea from her as he will talk to me more than he will them. If only my own DS did the same 😀