Mum in hospital with bleed on her brain. Waiting for a phone call and can't sleep

[Elmo311]

Hi,

My lovely mum who's in her late 60's had a bad headache today, she then went to the bathroom and vomited and fell unconscious. My poor dad felt that something was up so he went to check on her and found her.

Because of Covid we can't be with her. She's been moved to another hospital. And they said they might put her on a ventilator.

Just so worried and I can't sleep :(

Sending hugs and a handhold.

Sending you love 💕 and strength
I must be so hard not be able to rush to her side. She’s in the best place for emergency care now that she has been transferred. It’s impossible to stop worrying but try to get sleep so that you are in the best shape possible to support your Dad

*It must be

Couldn’t read this and not reply. Sending you a handhold and hugs. Look after yourself and your Dad, your Mum will be getting well looked after.
Can you get up and do something practical like make some sandwiches to put in the fridge for tomorrow?
At least then you’ll have some food made if you don’t feel like preparing anything.
A close family member had a brain tumour and surgery and I remember the agonising wait for news.

Thank you everyone. It's good to know others are awake too.

Are you all ok?

My sister is currently with my dad so that's good, I'm heading over tomorrow, but I've got 2 kids under 3 so it's a bit tough at the moment and I'm going to struggle tomorrow, although their dad is awesome and hands on and will step in to take over if I'm not coping.

My sister has just received a phone call from the hospital now, so I'm waiting to hear what's been said. My heart is in my mouth

Hugs, Elmo.

We are here and listening

The waiting must be awful especially when you can’t be there. I really hope it’s good news from the hospital.

My dd is autistic and is awake so now I am 🙂

It’s probably the last thing on your mind but try to rest as much as you can tonight. It’s great that your dad isn’t on his own tonight and he’s got someone with him.

Hi again,

They basically said there's been no change since they moved her over to the 2nd hospital. That they're running loads of tests and will call us back.

She can't move her left arm and both legs (since it happened) but she can feel pain- so I dunno if that's a good sign or not?

There's no way I'll sleep.

I've got a really bad feeling that she's not coming out of this :(

@MSQuinn Does this mean a cuddle on the sofa and some TV?

I know it’s not the same but my grandma suffered a really awful stroke and we think she was on her floor for about a day. To be honest we didn’t think she’d make it given her age (she’s was in her 80s) but she didn’t pass until she was 98. She had mobility issues with her arm and her speech could be poor but considering the issues she went into hospital with at first we were all amazed. I hope it’ll be similar for your mum.

She’s in her room on her iPad. Thankfully no one else has woken up. Her sibling is also autistic and sleeps in with me so I’m very glad she’s not woken her as she gets very cranky without any sleep. Predictably my husband has slept through her waking up.

Maybe put on some rubbish TV, anything to fill the space. Sometimes the quiet is the worst as your mind goes into overdrive.

I know this is much easier said than done but try and get some rest tonight if you possibly can.
If you can’t sleep have you got catch up tv or Netflix to watch something easy like reruns of Friends.
If it wouldn’t disturb the house too much get yourself a little bag together with water bottle, snacks, phone charger, face mask for if you can go to hospital.

Sending hugs

Hope you manage to get some rest and that you hear some good news soon

sorry to hear this op.

Hey, we've just heard news that mums gone into surgery.
My sister didn't ask any questions...so I have no answers at all about prognosis, risk of surgery, where the bleed is etc.
Just feeling a bit lost.

How scary. I think I'd see that as a good sign though that they are able to operate.

Sending you a hand hold, such a scary time for all your family

Sorry to hear about your dear mum OP. I hope you get some good news very soon xx

Your mum has age on her side. Hope her surgery goes well and that you have some more answers tomorrow.

Sending a handhold

Thank you for all the hand holds and cuddles.
I have a video of her playing with the kids and she's running up and down the living room and they're grabbing onto her dress and laughing as they chase her.

The thought that she might never do that with them again kills me.

Keeping everything crossed for you and your family. I know it’s difficult but I’d try and watch something lighthearted that requires no mental thought. I know the first thought would be to Google but try a stay away from it as it can make things worse. Big hugs.

I hope your Mother is okay Op. Sending you all my love.

I’m sorry to hear about your mum, sending you a handhold and a big hug. I hope you get some news about her surgery soon