Mum in hospital with bleed on her brain. Waiting for a phone call and can't sleep

[Elmo311]

Hi,

My lovely mum who's in her late 60's had a bad headache today, she then went to the bathroom and vomited and fell unconscious. My poor dad felt that something was up so he went to check on her and found her.

Because of Covid we can't be with her. She's been moved to another hospital. And they said they might put her on a ventilator.

Just so worried and I can't sleep :(

@Elmo311 wishing you good vibes for your mum. Please try not to stress if coming off the sedation takes a little while and she may go back on and off it for a while.

Maybe it was stress, but did your Mum have a jab recently (or covid)? If so, might be worth mentioning to the doctors in case it's relevant.

Also, when your mum recovers, she won't remember anything, my oh didn't even remember the accident that was 6 weeks before the surgery that caused the bleed.

Sending lots of healing wishes

Also, don't worry about the scar, initially it might look quite scary, but I was surprised how quickly and well it healed on my oh.

I remember his hair was caught up in the stitches, but after they have been taken out (locally), he didn't even need a follow up. He had 18 stitches.

Just wanted to say hello OP, my mum had an almost identical experience aged 61. She was off work for 6 months but then began a phased return. We went to a patient support group and found that some people had had temporary loss of movement, others temporary loss of speech. For mum as well as being a bit frail she temporarily had quite bad short term memory and couldn’t plan tasks with more than a couple of ‘steps’ like cooking a meal. She also got quite confused if you asked her an open-ended question such as “what would you like from the shops”, so for the first couple of months we just asked her simple binary questions. She’s now back running a doctor’s surgery full time! It’s hard with brain injuries like this as they comparatively rare so it’s hard to know what to expect. Best of luck.

Just came across this and didn't want to read and forget it.
Thinking of you and your family. Get some sleep tonight if you can x

Fingers firmly crossed for you for tomorrow x

Hi just to let you know that I had a brain hemorrhage a couple of years ago.I was in hospital fr2 weeks home for one week and then back at work.All the operations I had were key home ( 2 embolizations) so never had open skull surgery.I ended up having to have Gamma knife surgery Hope you my recovers well and Al will be fine. btw I had no side effects from the bleed.

My mother had a bleed on the brain at 74, though no surgery afterwards. We thought we had lost her but she recovered- it was amazing to see her come back gradually. She did have some defecits but was still herself. She lived another 13 years.

Hope your mum is OK soon @Elmo311

@ArtfulScreamer

My dad suffered a brain bleed 4 years ago my mum found him in the bathroom not right and called an ambulance. He went to hospital and they did a CT and told mum to call me and my DB once we arrived they told us nothing they could do and Dad was moved into a side ward for us to sit with him until the inevitable which took a couple of days. So for me the fact that you've not all been gathered round for the talk and your mum's been to surgery has got to be huge positive as they really wouldn't waste their time unless they were confident of a positive outcome. Fingers crossed your mum continues to improve and I really hope I've not bummed you out with my experience.

Very similar to my dad last year. We lost him about 12 hours after we found him collapsed on the floor but they called us in (covid times, no visiting allowed) after the CT scan showed he wouldn't recover.

Quick update-

She's coming out of the sedation still, she's breathing by herself but still on the ventilator

Positive news, he thinks that she will be able to walk but have problems with orientation.
He said that she’s unlikely to be able to move her left arm again, about a 10% chance of her regaining that. (She’s right handed)
The bleed on her brain is in the area that controls her arms so that’s why she might struggle with that.

They will continue to monitor her as the sedation wears off and update us tomorrow evening.

I'm now just worrying about her speech/ memory and understanding etc but I guess we will know more tomorrow once the sedation has worn off fully.

Thanks again everyone for your kind thoughts, advice and stories - good and bad outcomes. This thread has really helped me a lot x

wishing you & your mum the best OP, my DH was admitted into hospital recently (heart) & not visiting/knowing has been awful so you have my sympathies.

Sending you all positive thoughts

@Elmo311 sending you all the best vibes possible for your Mum.

She is in the best place and they will do everything they can for her Xx

Positive thoughts sent from me

Good luck @Elmo311 - my dad had a bad bleed, it took a while, but almost recovered all faculties.He lived another 6 ish years and died of something unrelated
Positive wishes to you and your mum and family 💕

Hi Elmo it does sound as if your lovely Mum is heading in the right direction. It will take a long time until it is clear as to how well your Mum does . Hopefully she will get decent rehab and support from OT ,Physio, Speech and Language etc. Literally take one day at a time and try not to look too far ahead for now.💐

Sending you love and keeping you in my prayers.

Im glad that things sound positive. I lost a parent following a bleed to the brain last year but similar to @ArtfulScreamer the doctors called myself and all of my siblings to the hospital straight away and despite it being in the middle of the pandemic we all had access to the ICU ward to be with them and say goodbye. I would take the fact that they’re not letting any visitors in to be good news.

Wishing your mum all the best in her recovery

Keeping everything crossed for more positive news. My gran made a lot of progress after her stroke so don’t give up hope.

Sending positive thoughts and hoping that you will get good news tomorrow.

How is your Mum, Elmo. Have u been able to visit?

Hi everyone,

We have finally been told, after asking for 3 days that we are not allowed in to visit at all, unless mum was about to pass away.
So it's good to finally have an answer for that instead of being fobbed off with "we have to ask the nurse in charge and get back to you" and never getting back to us. Ha.

Mum is still under sedation, and on a ventilator. Her BP is still on the higher end and they're just doing things very slowly.

I miss her. X

Big hugs. I hope that she recovers well.