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Mum in hospital with bleed on her brain. Waiting for a phone call and can't sleep

147 replies

Elmo311 · 05/04/2021 02:20

Hi,

My lovely mum who's in her late 60's had a bad headache today, she then went to the bathroom and vomited and fell unconscious. My poor dad felt that something was up so he went to check on her and found her.

Because of Covid we can't be with her. She's been moved to another hospital. And they said they might put her on a ventilator.

Just so worried and I can't sleep :(

OP posts:
2018SoFarSoGreat · 05/04/2021 05:56

How scary for you all, but surgery is a good sign I think. They must think it will help and be worth it.

Sending strength and hope to you.

Blurpblorp · 05/04/2021 05:59

Sending you a handhold and a big hug OP xxx really hope your mum's alright. Stay strong xxx

Goleor · 05/04/2021 06:12

💐💐💐 sending strength. Xx

Stillfunny · 05/04/2021 06:31

Thinking of you and said a little prayer. Flowers

Elderflower14 · 05/04/2021 06:36

Sending love hugs and prayers xxx

Shelby10 · 05/04/2021 06:40

Hello. I really hope your mum recovers well. Different but similar. My mum had blood clots on her brain the year before last at the age of 59. She basically had a burst appendix that the doctors missed when she went in agony to a walk in centre and sent her home. 2 weeks later she lost the ability to feed herself and talk. BUT as I spotted the rapid down hill quickly, I rushed her to hospital where the clots were found and treated and now she is her old self again. Doctors and medicine really are amazing. They will do everything they can. Thinking of you at this worrying time

rainbowstardrops · 05/04/2021 06:40

Sending you a hug and a handhold. I hope your mum will be ok Thanks

thelegohooverer · 05/04/2021 06:42

Just seeing this now and sending you a hug.

It’s so, so hard not being able to sit by a hospital bed and hold her hand. My dad is in hospital too, and it’s breaking my heart.

I hope there’s good news about your mum today. Flowers

Cantchooseaname · 05/04/2021 06:44

What a hard situation. Really hope cx everything works out for you.

Blyatiful · 05/04/2021 06:48

Sending you love and a hand hold.

ElephantsNest · 05/04/2021 06:53

She sounds in good hands, I hope you were able to get some sleep and that there is more news soon. Flowers

ginoclocksomewhere · 05/04/2021 06:53

All the best, please look after yourself though- it must be the last thing on your mind. Drink some water, try and get some Zzz. She wouldn't want you to make yourself ill x

WorriedMillie · 05/04/2021 07:12

If it helps to hear my story, OP...
A family member had a “catastrophic” bleed 5 years ago. At first she was totally uncommunicative and unresponsive, then (a few days on) all she could do was wriggle a little toe. We were told to “prepare for the worst”
Gradually, and it did take time, she began her recovery. She was in hospital for three months, but lots of this was neurorehab.
Now, 5 years on, she still has a degree of disability, but with help, she leads a full life. She has Botox and physio regularly and various aids to support her “bad” side, I’m really impressed by the options available

I can only imagine how hard it must be not being able to be with your mum, please reach out for support when you need it and take care of yourself. The Stroke Association and Headway both have helplines that offer emotional (and practical) support. And maybe email support too, IIRC
Sending love

WorriedMillie · 05/04/2021 07:16

ETA sorry, tired morning eyes, I missed post re surgery. She’ll be in the best of hands, the waiting is horrible, I know Flowers

TheSockMonster · 05/04/2021 07:17

I hope you get good news soon

sandgrown · 05/04/2021 07:17

Thinking of you . Hope your mum is out of surgery and on the road to recovery x

CockapooMum · 05/04/2021 07:20

Hope all goes well with your mum. It's so hard not being able to visit especially when they're so poorly.

My dad had a cardiac arrest on Thursday afternoon, thankfully the ambulance were already with him and even tho he arrested they managed to bring him back. He arrested again once at A&E and again they bought him back. I felt we were put under pressure by the ICU consultant to do a DNR but altho my dad is 80 he is normally very active. He was put onto a ventilator and were told they would give him up to 24 hours to recover before removing the ventilator but if his heart stopped or he was unable to breathe for himself they wouldn't bring him back. Friday was very worrying waiting for news. Then we got a call from the nurse to FaceTime with my dad. We were over the moon and altho he looked terrible he was alert, breathing for himself with just nasal oxygen. He's shocked us and the doctors and I'm so relieved he's still here. He's now been moved into coronary care and having stents on Tuesday all being well.

I know it's hard but I found keeping busy helped during the unknown and stopped my mind wandering to the worst case scenario. Pack a bag with some bits for her. We've been able to drop a bag off at reception for my dad and made sure his phone and tablet were fully charged.

Also remember to look after yourself too. I couldn't eat or sleep those first 24 hours and am only just getting back to it now as have been so worried but he sounded much better when I spoke to him yesterday despite 3 broken ribs from the compressions. A worthy price to have him here still.

All the best Thanks

mommybear1 · 05/04/2021 07:28

Thinking of you OP hope you're Mum is out of surgery now and you have had an update Thanks

Fieldsofstars · 05/04/2021 07:34

I hope all went well with the surgery. Look after yourself op.

Mummyoflittledragon · 05/04/2021 07:45

I hope the surgery went well and that your mum is in recovery. Flowers

Original poster
Elmo311 · 05/04/2021 07:49

Thank you everyone for your kind words and prayers.
Thanks also to the posters who have told me positive life stories about their relatives, it's really helped.

We still haven't heard anything back about how the surgery went and how she is now. I will update once I know more.

OP posts:
TheSockMonster · 05/04/2021 08:03

One of DH’s best friends is a brain surgeon and sometimes he’ll chat about operations and patients (in a completely anonymous way of course). He is one of the loveliest, cleverest, most competent people I know and really cares about each and every one of his patients.

If your Mum is being looked after by someone like him she really will be in the very best of hands Flowers

Theoscargoesto · 05/04/2021 08:20

@Elmo311 wishing you all the very best and hoping for a positive outcome for you and your family, especially your mum.

Mydogisagentleman · 05/04/2021 08:27

I had an aneurysm 25 years ago, initially diagnosed as a migraine.
Luckily my DH is very tenacious and on my 3rd A&E visit refused to take me home.
I had surgery lasting 8 hours and stayed in hospital for about a month.
I was fortunate enough to be able to not be left with any deficits.
I doubt the hospital would consider surgery for your mum if there was no chance of a good outcome.
Very best wishes to you and your family

YogaLite · 05/04/2021 08:33

Yes, they are very very clever!

My oh had a bleed discovered SIX weeks post an accident. Didn't collapse, just was progressively wobbly on his feet and had progressively worse headaches.
I saw a bag of blood they drained from his head.
He made a complete recovery and after 6 months was allowed to drive.

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