How would you feel to realise that the person you just had a chat with or posted on their thread is the person you can't stand on another thread?

[ThePosterYouHate]

(Lighthearted, hopefully)
I love mumsnet namechange feature and one of the reason is this. I personally don't care if I've disagreed with someone on another issue before - if we're agreeing on a different thread and having a nice time, it's fine by me. People are complex and there's usually something to agree/disagree on.

I know not everyone thinks this way and if not for the namechange option, half of mumsnet will probably stop talking to the other half of mumsnet and threads will deliberately go unanswered based on who posted. So how would you feel if you suddenly realised the person you just replied or posted on their thread is that same poster you hate?

I wouldn’t care, I also never notice names

Oh m8. Life. Get. A

What the what now?

I’d think even a broken clock is right twice a day.

I know what you mean.
There have been people I’ve really fallen out with on some threads but really agreed with on others.
I don’t really care that long.

Back in the day this was perhaps more of a ‘thing’.
Now, I change names all the time and don’t recognise 99.5% of others names either.
It’s just not like that anymore, too vast and too many to track whose who!

I rarely notice names, I only know s few of the long time posters.

By the way, this is a hypothetical question because of something I read - I'm genuinely not talking about any poster or thread. So please don't go abusing that report button. If you don't want to post, it's fine. Just scroll on

I was slightly taken aback when I noticed some I usually have a lot of respect for being quite nasty on a particular thread. It was strange seeing another side of them.

@ThePosterYouHate

By the way, this is a hypothetical question because of something I read - I'm genuinely not talking about any poster or thread. So please don't go abusing that report button. If you don't want to post, it's fine. Just scroll on

Why do you think anyone will report this thread?

I wouldn't care, and it can be quite funny. There's a poster on here who I strongly disagree with on a few topics, but we agreed on one thread recently.

Anything other than that feels close to refusing to acknowledge when you agree with a public figure purely because they've said something you dislike on another issue.

Yes I find it funny too, like a social experiment.

Online, I tend to take things on a thread by thread basis and am quite happy to get along with someone on one thread who I disagreed with in on another, the same way we can actually get on IRL with people with disagree with on some things.

It has literally only happened to me once.

There was/is this poster who used to post quite a lot but less so now, so I saw her name a lot.

We agreed on so much, but I could never get over a horrific post she made about a disabled child that broke Talk Guidelines and got deleted.

I could never reconcile the two.

I honestly don't look at names, well certainly don't remember them anyway. Unless they'd been really vile I guess.

I used to strongly suspect there were only about ten individual users on MN.

I'm delighted whenever I recognise a poster's name on here- whether I argued with them in a previous incarnation or not. Not so much the Mumsnet celebrities who are on every thread though.

Everyone has something in common and everyone has a bad day.

It's like RL. You don't agree with 100% of what your friends and family say or do. But you still manage to get along.

Think it depends what you disagreed about. A poster once strongly took me to task for my views of a particular profession inc "ffs-ing" me, eyeroll emojis etc. Thought she was a bit of a dick but subsequently see her around and agree with her on a lot. Shrug

However eg another poster once repeatedly and viciously posted on a thread I created when I was a mum of very small twins and had been upset by a comment made by someone at a baby clinic, calling me smug, delusional, just keeping on and on. Someone like that I think I'd steer clear of long-term.

I have had the experience both ways.

It's always very odd.

But I know I'm mostly nice on here, and then sometimes I'm drunk or upset about something or just a cunt and then I can be awful. We're all different versions of ourselves sometimes.

It's less common now people regularly nc.

There's a poster on here I love. We once had fun on a thread and I see her name all the time. But I'm a regular nc-er so she wouldn't recognise me if she even remembered me, which she probably doesn't.
But I'd love to share a bit of fry's chocolate cream with her one day.

I've been here years and only know about 4 names. Not interested.

I've often found that I will agree with a posters on women's rights on one thread but butt heads about step parenting on another - to find they're the same person.

There is one poster I keep accidentally disagreeing with lately (you know who you are if you're reading ) but we enjoy one another's posts even if we don't agree

I think i understand what you mean @JohnnyMcGrathSaysFuckOff There's probably a line someone would cross and you wouldn't wish to engage with them anymore just based on who you believe they are as a person. This makes sense to me but for some people, it's disagree on one little thing, then malice. No more talking to you if they ever come across you even when they agree, except you namechange.

Then when I see the same person responding to me not knowing it's me (the other username they wouldn't respond to), I can't help but laugh and shake my head because I'll bet they believe they'll never agree with me.

@RogueMNerKnowsNoShame Could it be me?

Unless they are trying to justify child abuse or animal cruelty then all opinions are valid. I would just be an adult and move on.
New thread = slate wiped clean otherwise it's just too playground. I have enough self esteem and confidence not to be hurt by oppositional arguments on mn.