what assumptions would you make about a family with four to six children?

[ChelseeDagger]

Not wanting to start a bun fight or being goady in the slightest. Just looking for honest opinions, whether they be positive, negative or neutral.

[quote User135792468]@nevernotstruggling I may be wrong but I don’t think benefits like universal credit, housing benefit etc. take into account the number of children a family has. If you can’t afford to put a roof over your head and pay your own bills without state help then you can’t afford a large family. There are plenty of large families who have parents who made the decision and can fully afford it.[/quote]
Yes they do. Hb is assessed on bedroom need for example. Look it up

@mathanxiety

I am wholly responsible for inviting the idiots to spill their bile.

Why anybody should feel aggreived by them spouting prejudiced shite is beyond me. They have made themselves look very silly indeed, as I suspected they would.

Reading with interest to what people think - as we have four currently. We are foster carers

[quote ChelseeDagger]@mathanxiety

I am wholly responsible for inviting the idiots to spill their bile.

Why anybody should feel aggreived by them spouting prejudiced shite is beyond me. They have made themselves look very silly indeed, as I suspected they would.[/quote]
You are lovelier wIth every post OP...

I'm not offended by people's assumption but nor do I feel the need to insult them. We all have prejudices/assumptions and you asked for assumptions. That's what you got. Most of the responses are perfectly reasonable, even if off the mark.

@nevernotstruggling Yes, I understand it goes on bedroom need. So if you have 6 children, then you need more bedrooms and more money given to you to fund your choice on family size. I’m pretty sure they don’t cap bedroom need at 2 children. Having to claim housing benefit proves that the family can’t afford to have a large family.

That they started young most likely! And are either very wealthy or living on benefits and have very little money, not in between. And maybe they are Irish (as am I).

And yes also I’d think lucky family!

It's not worth getting so upset about a random stranger's opinion on a forum. Not everyone wants a large family 🤷 some us do for various reasons though. I have enjoyed reading all the assumptions, it's been a real eye opener 👀

I think our definition of perfectly resonable may differ somewhat.

Those who have assumed that parents of larger families are variously; involved with drugs, neglectful, disproprtionately in receipt of state benefits, poorly educated, religious fanatics and irresponsible are, in my opinion willfully ignorant.

I asked for assumptions. I didn't say I'd be accepting of the more ridiculous ones.

They are assumption. By definition they are not fact or knowledge based. They are assumption.
There is nothing for you to accept or reject, they are just assumptions... I certainly don't see any reason to be bothered by them. It doesn't mean my friends think I do drugs or neglect my kids....

AssumptionS! Sorry.

I think unfortunately OP you may be confirming some of the previous posters assumptions about arrogance/thinking your children are gods gift to humanity.

It's not going great...

I am one of 4-6

So I generally think people with that many kids are a bit mad

I'm not personally bothered by them.
Apparently some people have been and as I said I don't really understand why they are.

I do think that the postets who have let their prejudices wholly inform their assumptions are ignorant at best.
Upon reading the whole thread they do seem to be a vocal minority which is interesting to say the least.

SavingsQuestions

No, they are correct. I am arrogance personified but as I said previously I'm im with that because in my case it is completely justified

Assumptions are usually based on prejudices no? It doesn't mean people actually go out and abuse people on that basis.
Given the language you used to refer to those posters I'm doubting your stance of 'not being bothered' ... :) ha well I thought the posts were interesting in event

'I'm ok with that' sorry.

Arrogance is never a good trait. Really.

Actually no, most valid assumptions are based upon experience rather than simple prejudice.

Furthermore, recognising ignorance does not automatically entail being perturbed by it. Its just how some people are and they have their reasons for it I suppose.

I’d assume they must get busybodies in their face regularly shrieking about the environment

SavingsQuestions

Nobody's perfect. Not even me.

We have 4, we are not wealthy. We've both always worked, when they were little we worked around each other to avoid childcare costs. Last two weren't exactly planned. I hope people don't make assumptions about us !!

That they don't care at all about the environment

FWIW I think that a vocal minority of people are determined to 'other' parents of larger families.
They find it difficult to accept that they may ne really rather similar to themselves in most other ways excepting number of children.

That is, I presume why their focus is on perceiving them as outliers regarding earned income, educational attainment/intellect, fervency of religious belief/ socioeconomic status etc.

It appears difficult for them to accept that other parents with resources which are more or less equitable with their own are able to adequately parent a greater number of children.

I would assume they were frazzled/ knackered.