Things you do that your Mother doesn't approve of/thinks are unladylike

[noirchatsdeux]

Lighthearted!

My mother thinks it's terrible that I drink beer. Ladies don't drink beer. I'm 52 and she still pouts when she knows I've had some!

Any other unladylike ladies on here?

@IAmJackieWeaver My mother 'made' me have a perm when I was 15 (okay it was 1984, but still) because she'd always had a perm from that age...oh God, it was awful! I'd had lovely straight one length hair - layers were put in and it wasn't a tight old lady perm but it wasn't loose waves, either. I remember being the bus on the way home, feeling so upset. I hated the way it looked. If I'd had the guts I would have put my head under a tap the minute we got home...

Stupidly I then had perms on/off until 1993...the last one was so badly done the next day I could feel the breakage all over my scalp. I went back to the hairdresser and made them cut my hair to about half an inch all over...never again!

Another weird one...wearing a leather jacket!

Before my 18th birthday I really wanted one...bloody hell, you would have sworn I'd said I wanted to join ISIS! Ladies don't wear leather, apparently...

A local shop got a really pretty pink one in. My mother finally relented and let me get it. My father was never happy about me having it...

@noirchatsdeux my mum thought curly hair was the pinnacle of femininity.

I think she wanted a little girly girl from
1950, but instead got a dungaree wearing, car loving tomboy from
1972

tattoos - what will my work think (they don't care - or if they do haven't ever ever mentioned them);
hanging bras and pants on the washing line - what if the neighbours see...?
someone above mentioned cake forks - she's adamant we need these. as well as grape scissors.
dsis drinks pints. d has a fit every time she orders one and also if dsis drinks beer from a can. it is not ladylike.
the dc have learned to say fart. and to laugh at farts (oldest is 3). farts are a part of life and they are funny. dm doesn't think so.
ds (3) pointed out my boobies the other day whilst dm was with us. "look grandma mummy's got boobies" again vulgar.
i have long hair. ladies of a certain age and mothers should have short hair. because babies and small children will pull on long hair.
the fact i have long hair but don't wash it every day
the fact i wash my hair once a week (maybe).

are you sure you're not my sister....?!?!?!

Long hair once over 30 and a mother. I should have a nice sensible short haircut and bubble perm. - DM WOULD AGREE WITH THIS

Making an effort to stay slim now I'm not "a girl" any more. It's vain - apparently. YEP - YOU'RE MARRIED NOW YOU DONT NEED TO STAY SLIM.

Clothes too sexy. Ditto black underwear (only worn by women of ill repute). - OH YES!

Wear jeans (only suitable for manual labourers).

Wear bikinis on holiday. Unsuitable for mothers to show so much flesh. (I actually have a nice figure.) - AS A MOTHER I SHOULD BE WEARING A ONE PIECE. OTHERWISE MY KIDS WILL BE EMBARRASSED AS WILL DH.

Too much make up. A nice Yardley lipstick is plenty. NO MAKE UP - ITS VAIN. AND YOU'RE MARRIED NOW.

Have a credit card (a slippery slope apparently even though I pay it off every month).

Have my own hobbies/interests/friends/leisure time. A woman should be too busy serving her husband and family to find time for "all that". - YEP. THE FACT I HAVE TIME TO MYSELF IS ALMOST UNHEARD OF. ITS SHAMEFUL THAT I WOULDNT WANT TO BE SPENDING ALL MY TIME WITH DH AND THE DC.

Let my children choose their own clothes (within reason). Dreadful that my daughter prefers leggings to pretty dresses. - I REGULARLY LET DS (3) CHOOSE HIS OWN CLOTHES. THIS IS HOW HE WENT TO NURSERY IN SHORTS WITH A HUGE JUMPER AND WELLIES IN JANUARY. I PICK MY BATTLES.

Let my son have his hair long if he wants. (Looks so uncared for.) NOT GETTING DS A HAIRCUT BECAUSE LOCKDOWN WAS THE CRIME OF THE CENTURY.

Drink more than two alcoholic drinks in an evening (another slippery slope). NOPE. DM LIKES A WINE. DRINKING BY MYSELF THOUGH....

Wear tracksuit bottoms around the house. My poor husband! - NO JOGGERS ALLOWED.

Don't wait on or pander to my husband (we both work FT and all chores are shared fairly). She's astounded that he's "put up with that" for 25 years. AGREE. POOR DH HAVING TO COOK DINNER AGAIN - HES BETTER AT IT THAN ME AND ENJOYS IT.

Don't make my children write long painstaking thank you letters for each and every gift. I do insist they say thank you but I don't mind how they do it: in person, call, text, email or a letter/card. YEP. APPARENTLY UNTIL THEY ARE CAPABLE OF WRITING LONG ARDUOUS THANK YOU LETTERS, I HAVE TO DO IT FOR THEM. NOPE. WE SEE MOST PEOPLE THEY RECEIVE GIFTS FROM SO WE SAY THANK YOU WHEN THEY GET THEM.

Earn more than my husband as it must humiliate him. He certainly doesn't seem bothered. THIS WAS TRUE A FEW YEARS AGO BUT NOW DH EARNS MORE THAN ME SO THE BALANCE IS RESTORED AND THE UNIVERSE WONT EXPLODE.

sorry for the caps, i couldnt be bothered to change my font each time!

Eating in the street
Putting sauce bottles on the table instead of decanting into dishes
Putting “good” cutlery in the dishwasher
Drinking out of mugs that aren’t bone China
Shopping in charity shops
Staying in pjs all day
Not having a landline
Texting instead of phoning

• I often don't cook my family a hot meal in the evening and I rarely bother to make a proper Sunday lunch. Not being a kitchen slave is a cardinal sin. I hate cooking.
• I only iron cotton pillowcases and blouses.
• I drink cups of coffee IN THE STREET.
• You can sometimes see my bra straps.
• I chew gum.
• I used to have seven ear piercings and one navel piercing, but I let most of them close up (according to my DM, I 'saw sense').
• I sometimes wear big hoop earrings.

Many of the above are 'tarty'. The fact that I've never cared has always irritated her a great deal

@ememem84

I do have a sister! Hello Jennifer if that's you!

Matching socks!!! Think black socks which have a different sole or the ribbing on the elastic is different. Even that's a big no no

Unless you are ill then you must be dressed in jeans at the very least. Unless exercise has recently been participated in. Dm has worn jeans / belted trousers everyday since last March

Precise amount hasn't been mentioned but not too many deliveries from Amazon etc. None of this prime business and lots of parcels arriving at once unless it's your birthday/ Christmas

Eating in the street
Eating big portions of food anywhere
Public displays of physical affection
Sleeveless tops on anyone over the age of 21 or a size 8
Leggings worn by anyone over a size 8
No alcohol at all - I once laughed after a glass of alcohol free wine at Christmas, she poured the rest of the bottle down the sink.
Any nail varnish other than clear
Any skirts above midi length
Doc Martens
Loud voices
Both short and long hair - there is a middle length haircut that's acceptable.

Oh god. I have too many:
Not wearing makeup all the time
Drinking pints
My tattoos and piercings
Not ironing (I have an ironing complex now after a good bollocking when I was a teenager for going to bed in creased pyjamas)
Not having DHs dinner on the table when he gets home (he's home an hour earlier than me, so unless she's got a tardis I'm not sure how that'd work!)
And the list goes on...

Eating in the street. Still have never managed to bring myself to do this.

Unironed tea towels
Milk from the bottle not a jug.

Mil and late mum:

Smoking (as a teen)
Smoking in the street
Wearing ripped jeans
Getting pissed
Saying 'cunt'
Weeing with the door open

In fact, looking at the above, maybe I am a bit rough 😬

getting drunk!

She 'just doesnt see the need'

oh but there really is so much need Mum

Knackered' has nothing whatsoever to do with sex or post-coital tiredness

It did in 1998. Our English teacher berated a girl using the term incorrectly and showed us the dictionary definition, which stated sexually exhausted.

Me. Everything about me is "wrong"! I can't go into details because I can't think one thing she thinks is positive about me.

One of my greatest sins is that I am not her and not anything like her. She takes that as a massive affront. I have a career and she doesn't think that is ladylike because she never had one.

Shave my hair
Drink lager
Get tattoos
Don't do my oh's ironing 😂

@noirchatsdeux Yep, my mother thought I'd be carbon copy of her (also a product of the 50s)

If you're wearing work trousers, if it doesn't have a nicely ironed line directly down the middle of the trouser leg then you may as well be wandering about in your knickers it's so atrocious!

By the way I'm awful at ironing and even after hours of being taught how to do this stupid crease I would always successfully do it wonky or end up with 2 lines.

Absolute nightmare.

Any ironing in my house now is done by my husband!!!!

My mother doesnt grasp that the things she disapproves of are her values. Ive explained many times that for me, swearing is no big deal, but the silent treatment is unacceptable.

I don't really understand why anyone would swear around their mother. Other than 'bloody' or damn why would you? I think its just rude.

Ooh that's reminded me:

Saying " Shut up," is swearing

[quote noirchatsdeux]@noirchatsdeux Yep, my mother thought I'd be carbon copy of her (also a product of the 50s)[/quote]
That's interesting! I'm fascinated to know there are other Mother's who take umbrage about their daughter being a separate entity!
I wonder why they even think this way. If I had a daughter I'd encourage her to be herself.

Yes, i cant even say damn or shit around my mum. If my kids swear she tuts me like ive failed and should be ashamed. I am not that bothered about a bit of swearing. I do hate when people just pepper their sentences with swear words though.