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My mum died today

86 replies

tigerbread20 · 26/02/2021 23:49

Unexpectedly, at 52. I came home from work to find multiple ambulance crews going her cpr on our driveway.

I don't even know where to start, how to keep myself together, to look after my dad, to live without her.

I just needed to write it down, I'm still in shock

OP posts:
sandybeaches74 · 26/02/2021 23:50

I'm so sorry. No words. Sending you a massive hug x

TheUnquestionedAnswer · 26/02/2021 23:52

So sorry to hear your news. It's something none of us ever want to happen x

grapewine · 26/02/2021 23:52

I'm so, so sorry. How horrible.

HunkyPunk · 27/02/2021 00:01

So sorry to hear that, op. What an awful shock.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 27/02/2021 00:02

Im so sorry. Of course you're in shock. It certainly proves you never know the minute.
. Its not just your dad who needs looking after, though.. Please don't forget about yourself. Do you have family support.

Bati · 27/02/2021 00:03

I am so sorry to hear about your mum x

tyboi · 27/02/2021 00:06

I’m so so sorry Flowers

Codswallop20 · 27/02/2021 00:08

I'm so sorry. I really care. I lost my dad very suddenly and my world was broken for a while.

Be kind to yourself, try and rest where you can. It will always be sad but you will learn to live with it, but not yet. Right now just be near your loved ones and do whatever you need to do xxx

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 27/02/2021 00:08

Also no one is or should be expecting you to keep yourself together.
You've just unexpectedly lost your mum. You're entitled to go to pieces.
By you're user name am I right in thinking that gives us an inclination to your age. If so that's extremely young.

NoSquirrels · 27/02/2021 00:10

Flowers I’m so sorry.

Would you like to tell us about her?

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 27/02/2021 00:11

You do learn to live with it, but It doesn't get easier. People with the best intentions and kindness lie to you.

Fireflygal · 27/02/2021 00:12

I'm so very sorry. She was too young to pass. I hope you can find some support. You will be in shock, try to eat and sleep when you can.

mrsmacmc · 27/02/2021 00:15

💐

WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants · 27/02/2021 00:16

I'm SO sorry. I lost my Dad suddenly when I was older than you (40) & he was 65. It was such a shock, it's hard to take in . I'm now your mums age & still miss him loads. I won't lie, it was a terrible terrible time, but although I miss him a lot, you fo learn to live alongside the grief. My mum really misses him too, but she's learnt to live alongside the grief as well.

I'm so very sorry you're going through it.

(((Hug)))

Do you know what happened yet? My Dad had a massive heart attack.

AuraofDora · 27/02/2021 00:17

Heartbreaking news, what an awful shock for you all. Stick together, remember the good times. Am so sorry for your loss Flowers

Original poster
tigerbread20 · 27/02/2021 00:17

I've had to deal with the police, confirm her identity and all the awful 'admin' with a sudden death so feel like I have to keep it together so no one else has to do these bits.

I'm

OP posts:
Alfiemoon1 · 27/02/2021 00:18

So sorry for you loss x

babycakes1010 · 27/02/2021 00:20

I'm so sorry for your loss xx

wewillmeetagain · 27/02/2021 00:23

Im so sorry for your loss op xx

Happymum12345 · 27/02/2021 00:32

I am so sorry for your loss. Flowers

endlesswicker · 27/02/2021 00:33

I'm so very sorry, what a terrible thing to happen. Flowers

ajandjjmum · 27/02/2021 00:34

I'm so sorry tiger - that's absolutely awful for you and your family. Please look after yourself and your little one - you know that's what she would want.

helpingmyself · 27/02/2021 00:35

I am so so sorry for ur loss .. u will be in shock just now .. there is no right or wrong way how to deal with it .. u will be up & down for a while .. just take it one day at a time & be kind to yourself Thanksx

FeckinCat · 27/02/2021 00:38

I'm so sorry, tigerbread20. Flowers

Sittingonabench · 27/02/2021 00:38

Aw honey, there’s no denying you’re in for a rough ride but things will get better. Just take it one thing at a time as it comes. Take care of yourself first so you’re better able to help your father. Offload tasks to extended family, they are hopefully willing and happy to take pressure off. This is definitely one of those times where asking for help/ support is fine x keep going xx