When the fuck did I learn how to ‘mum dance’?

[Dearymesheila]

Im devastated. Just watched a video that the kids took of me dancing

I was a proper raver in the 90s, glow sticks and all night raves. WTF happened. I was never a swayer. I was doing this weird thing with my arms arms. Feet rooted to the spot.

Very ageing

I’m only 41. This year has been the pitts!

My hips and back hurt too much these days to do anything but mum dance 😫 im only 43

I strongly suspect I have always done the Mum Dance, even pre-dc. My question is though, how should I be dancing? How can I learn some slightly more credible moves?

I'm really conscious that some time in the post lockdown future I'll have a big family wedding to attend. Would love to work on my dancing now before embarrassing myself in front of everyone!

@Labobo crying laughing at that 🤣

Honestly, it’s practice. I live in a sort of boho middle-class suburb of a northern city which is packed with ex-ravers and I love the fact that they never seem to retire - there’s various local club nights for oldies/parents which start early and kick out at 1am. It might be the lack of young people to compare with, but I used to love seeing people 5-10 years older than me (the second summer of love generation) still looking relatively cool and knowing I had more fun to come.

Needless to say, after a year of sitting in my arse getting fat on sourdough and only dancing to Gangnam Style/Baby Shark/Life is a Highway with my kids, I caught sight of myself doing a sort of flat-bottomed sway in the kitchen window and died.

I really need to go out

On reflection I think my core/arse muscles have withered badly during lockdown, and they are pretty essential (or at least they are if you dance like a hussy like me )
Time to get squatting I suppose (uuuurgh)

I can still dance however, the waving your arms about thing a friend of mine said that it was the secret to looking as if you are good at dancing!

I love dancing and seeing people dance!

Hello my people. It's true CryMeALiver ex-ravers never retire! I myself spent most of my late teens and twenties on a podium, but am a champion mum-dancer now. I do think it's the extra weight. Now when I try and do the butterfly various cheeks go in several different directions at once...I don't care though and I still crank it up. My own dear son complained about the loud music today. He said "turn it down Mum, I can't hear myself think"
Own your Mum tunes and your Mum moves!

I don't ever remember pointing featuring so large when younger but now all it takes is the intro to Losing My Religion and my index fingers are drawn uncontrollably skywards Dr Strangelove-like as if tracing the trajectory of my disappearing dignity

I've posted this on another thread but it is appropriate here!
No mum dancing from Josephine Jkbert ( and Ralph Little- watch it all!)
vm.tiktok.com/ZMe8KtW4L/

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Typo alert on previous meant Jobert!

OMG I have the opposite problem. I'm 53 and after a drink I let lose, I worry that I should really calm it down now.

I've just read more of this thread, in my mind I'm still raving. Maybe I'm not, aw shite, not going to watch any videos and remain blissfully ignorant.

We were so lucky to have that madness without worrying we would end up on SM.

So much this. We probably always looked like this, just maybe slightly thinner/ more energetic/ more pissed versions. The confident ones just danced, the shyer ones always shuffled. But rarely would it be seen again.

Now, 'youths' practice, practice, practice before you make your tiktok. So much angst-ing in front of the mirror, and then waiting for comments or likes. Awful. And they probably cant freestyle or do Big Fish Little Fish.

I don't have children so I do the 'Not-A-Mum dancing' which comes without the disapproving looks of children....
I'm in lockdown alone so can get quite inhibited.
I tend to dance to stuff from the 80s - a bit goth, a bit indie - shoe gazing - jigging about, plus 80s pop like Duran Duran. Generally looking a bit of a muppet.
I try to groove around the kitchen when I'm making my dinner as it always lifts my spirits.
So all those Mum-Dancers & Not-A-Mum dancers?? Get your dancing shoes on & give it some welly!

This is me now, it's like I don't know what to do with my limbs

You need TikTok @Dearymesheila

Next dancing opportunity just go for it. Big style. Embrace the sway and the mum dance. Before you know it, you'll find you way into Big Expressive Dancing and that's the gateway to dancefloor nirvana. Forget anyone else is there unless you need to ensnare a dance partner. Let your limbs move to their own beat. Sing incorrect lyrics to songs you half know. Live!

I have never been able to dance in an acceptable way. I couldn't really give much of a rat's behind. The dancefloor was my kingdom and all fellow dancers take their chances. Either join in with my epic moves or beware.

My ambition is to dance like a gang of aunties i saw dancing at a wedding. to Single Ladies. They cleared the dance floor but were absolutely spot on.

I definitely think “gang” is the collective noun for Aunties.

It's probably because when you were dancing back in the 90s, you had absolutely NO idea how stupid you looked because you were high as a kite. At least, that's my excuse!

And the young Mum Twerkers on Tik Tok are ageing fast too!

I have the opposite problem

I dance like I'm still at a rave and I'm 45 this week

I thought this was the main mum dance video?

Actually part 2 is better

I'm the thread killer

I don’t know what happened to my coordination. I used to think I was. A decent dancer, I used to do ballroom and Latin when I was younger fgs. I now “mum dance” or ABBA dance as Dh calls it

@BlessedBeTheFruitCake

I don’t know what happened to my coordination. I used to think I was. A decent dancer, I used to do ballroom and Latin when I was younger fgs. I now “mum dance” or ABBA dance as Dh calls it

I never had co-ordination!

I would love to go to Zumba or something but I've tried and I'm 5 moves behind everyone else.