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When the fuck did I learn how to ‘mum dance’?

125 replies

Dearymesheila · 13/02/2021 21:50

Im devastated. Just watched a video that the kids took of me dancing Sad

I was a proper raver in the 90s, glow sticks and all night raves. WTF happened. I was never a swayer. I was doing this weird thing with my arms arms. Feet rooted to the spot.

Very ageing Sad

I’m only 41. This year has been the pitts!

OP posts:
notacooldad · 14/02/2021 09:24

At least you were swaying.
Everything we go on 'do's (there's an old mother word) both of my sons get tipsy and want me to dance to songs like ' jump around ' I stand there being awkward, son has his arm around me is ...... jumping around! I just smile and jiggle my shoulders!

BewareTheBeardedDragon · 14/02/2021 09:27

I'm fairly sure I've always been a mum dancer... BlushBlushBlush

grey12 · 14/02/2021 09:28

My idea of mum dancing is my mum constantly with her mouth open (why???!!!) and dancing out of rhythm Confused That mum dancing video was good dancing!! Albeit with the mouth open. Why is that?!

Eviebeans · 14/02/2021 09:30

I'm distressed - I've just realised I've taught my 4 yo grandson to do the fat granny version of the mum dance 🤣 I Daren't even start with twerking I think something would fall out

Spudlet · 14/02/2021 09:30

I’ve never been able to dance, not ever. I’ve always been far too self conscious unless I was absolutely off my head (which did nothing for my rhythm or grace, frankly). So at least you guys got a brief period of grace before being struck by the mum dancing bug...💃

Daisy829 · 14/02/2021 09:34

You need shots! I dance like a loon when I’m out jumping up and down as though I’m back in the hacienda. I don’t care what I look like I bloody love it. Can’t wait to do it again.

Ughmaybenot · 14/02/2021 09:37

@Labobo

I just looked up mum dancing on youtube and found this fabulous woman. I am horrified that I tick every move.
Aw she dances just like my mum! Mum loves loves loves to dance and I always just think she looks so joyful. I don’t think people would look at judge, she seems to just bring energy and fun to the room, which is the same goal I have really; I’m an appalling dancer but I love doing it, and I think that’s what people really notice, whether you’re having fun. I couldn’t dance at all, until I was about 19, chronically held back by wanting to look ‘cool’ 🥱 and then it was like a switch had been flipped. At 26 I still can’t dance for shit but I’ll be first up now 😂
Namechanger0800 · 14/02/2021 09:39

Nah I don't believe in mum or dad dancing - the real truth is we all looked like tits back in the 90s (or whenever our era was)- it's just we were young and arrogant enough to carry it off

Soboredofcorona · 14/02/2021 09:39

Watching that video, I fear I’ve always mum danced and I don’t even have kids!

Squiffany · 14/02/2021 09:40

@PralineFowler

My teen DD cringes when I dance and thinks I’m a terrible ‘mum’ dancer.

I used to get paid to dance up on the podium in the 90s raving days. I did dance GCSE. I got a scholarship to a prestigious ballet school that I didn’t take up to pursue academic studies.

She thinks tiktok dances are cool, though, so what does she know? Grin

The rest of us (mere mortals) obviously stand no chance then!

My DH laughs at my mum dancing, but I don’t give a fuck. I think dancing in clubs is difficult because the music is usually shite. God, I even sound like my Mother now!

DoctorYang · 14/02/2021 09:45

I mum dance, but I also enthusiastically mime along to the words too. Usually with a little head shake and some hand signs.

M0rT · 14/02/2021 09:49

I don't think it's just "Mums" I've no kids and would be lucky to give it as much welly as the YouTube Mum dancer.
I just can't move as easily as I used to and if I let myself go and just go with the music I'll end up pulling something and crippled for a few days.
Still love to dance though and the advantage of middle age is that I don't care what other people think anymore. Grin

MissFlite · 14/02/2021 09:53

Just checked the video on YouTube, it appears the mum-dance lady is Dawn O'Porter? Have I got that right? If so I didn't recognise her

OhioOhioOhio · 14/02/2021 09:54

I thought that she was trendy?

Bicnod · 14/02/2021 09:58

I had this issue. What you need to do (and it is important to do this in front of your kids) is put Kate Bush Wuthering Heights on really bloody loudly and then just let it all go... I mean properly let it all go (watch the video first for tips if you've never seen it) so you're red faced and sweaty by the end...

You can't mum dance to Kate Bush, it's impossible. I mean, you look like a total lunatic and freak your kids out massively, but at least you're not mum dancing.

I actually think it's parent dancing, not just mum dancing, btw. It's just that women are, as usual, harder on ourselves. DH thinks he still dances like he's 20 but he really really doesn't 😂

notacooldad · 14/02/2021 10:09

Back in the day ( about 30 years ago) me and my mate used to go to a night club in town after we'd been around the pubs. At this point we were clearly off our heads! At the nightclub we would be up dancing thinking we were the best thing ever.
One night, for whatever reason we didn't go out until late so went straight to the club -sober.
We were absolutely mortified to find that the club video the dance floor and play it the following week on loads of screens around the club. Wed never noticed before.
There we were, seeing what we looked like. It was like being trapped in some horror film confronted with all these horrific images of yourself!😂😂

OhioOhioOhio · 14/02/2021 10:13

That's a terrifying idea.

Cauterize · 14/02/2021 10:29

This Mum has the right idea

Stillfunny · 14/02/2021 11:05

I used to be a club kid back in the 80s even. Used to be known as a good dancer. Problem now is that, in my head , I still have all the moves , but they dont translate to the body I have now. It is hard to swing an extra 3 stone around . Tried to do it , feet are OK still , but ended up winded and had to sit down . Also afraid that I would pee myself now.

Janaih · 14/02/2021 11:16

@Namechanger0800 I'm willing to concede you may have a point

Grin
Ughmaybenot · 14/02/2021 11:32

@notacooldad 😂

evilharpy · 14/02/2021 11:37

Someone has made a business out of mum dancing!

In my mind I'm still clubbing in the late 90s. I would not like to see a video of myself in an actual club these days.

dementedma · 14/02/2021 11:45

The You Tube mum dancer is a better dancer than I've ever been. And yeah, she needs firmer thighs Hmm

UnicornMadeOfPinkGlitter · 14/02/2021 11:58

Hello all you fellow ex ravers. I thought I was so cool clubbing in Leeds in the mid 90’s. Bet if I was now watching my younger self I’d probably see a shit dancer who was off her tits thinking she was the bees knees.

So glad that the drug scene is not quite so prevalent now. Have a 23 and a 19 yr old sons and they say that the drugs are for losers now. Although they probably always were.

Littlefluffyclouds13 · 14/02/2021 12:47

@UnicornMadeOfPinkGlitter

Hello all you fellow ex ravers. I thought I was so cool clubbing in Leeds in the mid 90’s. Bet if I was now watching my younger self I’d probably see a shit dancer who was off her tits thinking she was the bees knees.

So glad that the drug scene is not quite so prevalent now. Have a 23 and a 19 yr old sons and they say that the drugs are for losers now. Although they probably always were.

I hate to say it but that's exactly what I used to say to my mum (I was doing loads of drugs!) Drugs are more readily available than ever, they are cheaper and according to my pc bil - literally everywhere, particularly amongst teens.

Slight derailment but yes, I too used to think I looked great but wonder know if I was just mum dancing while high as a kite and oblivious

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