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My friend reckons your allure goes once you are in your 40s

87 replies

orientalknife · 10/02/2021 17:47

I was pissed off with this sweeping assumption and wondered if she was projecting her own insecurity

Of course youth has a certain prettiness and appeal but I think older women can be very beautiful and attractive

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Bangable · 10/02/2021 17:49

Is your friend Stevie from 'Miranda'?

Anyway, nope, just checked and relieved to say my allure still firmly in place at 46

DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult · 10/02/2021 17:51

I'm 41 and have some allure around here somewhere. Probably in the cupboard of doom, or the drawer of shit. I definitely still have it though.

wendyleen · 10/02/2021 17:53

She might as well crack on with the blue rinse and nylon mac then.....

Melodiouschimes · 10/02/2021 17:54

I lost my allure decades ago at around 25....

HideTanner · 10/02/2021 17:57

It sounds like the strapline from one of those magazine ads from the 1920s.

'Worried your allure has gone and your husband will take up with young Edith from the typing pool? If so revive yourself with a Marcel wave. Fresh from Paris'

CoronaIsWatching · 10/02/2021 17:58

I think a lot of the problem comes when some women decide to cut all their hair off as soon as they hit 40 like Susan Kennedy did in Neighbours. Long locks soften the face and add to the allure

DrinkRefilled · 10/02/2021 18:01

I’m 37 and feel like my sparkle has gone. It’s something do with my eye area. My whites don’t seem so white and the skin area is dropping a bit.
I look washed out.

vodkaredbullgirl · 10/02/2021 18:02

Lol I was thinking Miranda.

rorosemary · 10/02/2021 18:03

I reckon that the allure is temporarily gone when someone has a baby, regardless of their age. Sleep deprivation is not a good look. Thankfully it is just a phase.

JustAnotherBrick · 10/02/2021 18:05

I don’t think so, I still get chatted up a lot in my fifties.

Admittedly it’s by 70 year olds.....

LunaHeather · 10/02/2021 18:06

@Bangable

Is your friend Stevie from 'Miranda'?

Anyway, nope, just checked and relieved to say my allure still firmly in place at 46

I was thinking the same!

I think "allure" - which I can only hear as spoken by Miranda and Stevie - is not age related.

DianaT1969 · 10/02/2021 18:08

Allure? Do today's porn-addicted, emotionally unavailable men who frequent online dating sites even know what allure looks like?

Eckhart · 10/02/2021 18:09

I don't know what will happen for anybody else, but I can guarantee that your friend's allure will go once she's in her 40s.

AndreaMartelsCoat · 10/02/2021 18:10

My allure is taking a sabbatical at the moment whilst I'm furloughed, sat in the house all day troughing everything in sight and wearing some dubious outfits. I'm in my 50s btw.

RJnomore1 · 10/02/2021 18:10

I think I’m at the end of my current bottle to be fair but I’ll be replacing shortly.

NotExactlyMrsCurrentAffairs · 10/02/2021 18:12

It has its advantages. I went out with a female friend of mine, pre covid for food then we went for drinks after. It was nice that we could enjoy ourselves without being ogled or chatted up, the men were leeching over the younger women and leaving us alone. It was great

RandomDent · 10/02/2021 18:14

I don’t think I ever had any.

YouokHun · 10/02/2021 18:16

I can think of friends of mine who are far more attractive now in their 50s than 30 years ago. It depends what you call “allure”. To me it’s confidence and someone who looks after themselves and has purpose and interests and doesn’t worry about their allure going out of the door at 40 . I’m not sure any of that is an age related thing.

How was your friend defining it and how old is she @orientalknife? I’ll hazard a guess - not yet 40.

RJnomore1 · 10/02/2021 18:17

We are talking chanel aren’t we?

DrCoconut · 10/02/2021 18:18

Mine packed its bags and left years ago. I'm ok with being single luckily.

BeyondMyWits · 10/02/2021 18:20

I'm 57 slightly overweight, even a bit "plain" but am told I still have allure... more a sparkle than a physical trait. I am apparently enchanting and captivating with a glint in my eye that even I don't know is there sometimes...

Still... it gets me a seat on the tube...

orchidsonabudget · 10/02/2021 18:21

My sparkle has gone but that's because I have put on a stone thanks to covid and have lost the capacity to care about my appearance

withmycoffee · 10/02/2021 18:21

I've been getting more attention than ever and I am mid 50s. Not being boasty but I have generally attracted a reasonable amount of male attention. It waned in my 40s. I was feeling rubbish. Perimenopausal, gained some weight, felt puffy. Generally exhausted, hormonal and a bit shit. Now I am in my 50s, I am genuinely getting as much attention as ever and most bizarrely, from men of all ages, including in their 20s. I dress fairly casually but nicely. I think it is baffling and a bit hilarious tbh but seriously, no lack of allure here by the looks of things

Echobelly · 10/02/2021 18:24

I haven't felt that, but then I never seem to garner any male attention in the first place! Something about which, given what I've heard from a lot of women, I'm frankly pretty glad.

Morten · 10/02/2021 18:24

"Allure" lol

Of course women are attractive when they're older. Why wouldn't they be?

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