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I've been messing with everyone by text

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Stiles · 02/02/2021 17:38

By not putting an X at the end of messages. Sometimes I go the full hog and put a full stop.

So far my dad wants to know if he's upset me and my teen came down to ask if he's in trouble. 😂

I usually chat online to mainly Americans and it's not the done thing with them so thought I'd drop it completely as it's a bit daft. British people are not ready for this. Grin

OP posts:
GoddamReylos · 02/02/2021 17:44

It’s funny how hard we take it. I also have an American friend and he ends texts in full stops. I knew he wasn’t being shirty but it felt off...xxxxxxx Grin

12frogsincoats · 02/02/2021 17:45

Full stops deeply offend me

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Stiles · 02/02/2021 17:49

Who knew full stops held such power?! An x after a full stop is fine. No full stop is okayish but that missing x is still noticeable . Just a full stop and the sender must be filled with either rage or loathing to do such a thing. Grin

OP posts:
Love2cycle · 02/02/2021 17:51

OP, thats brilliant. I think im gonna try it too!
It is odd isn't it. We dont air kiss each other after each sentence when we chat IRL.
I thought somw of friends in Europe were offish with me, until one of them asked why I put an x at the end. I didnt realky know how to desribe it, its just something we do.
Ill let u know how it goes OP!!

Changedforthisyear · 02/02/2021 17:51

Agreed! I left Twitter within a week because there wasn’t enough space for kisses 😂xxxxx

picklemewalnuts · 02/02/2021 17:51

Worries me how many people I've offended, having never put an x at the end of a message ever. Well, except maybe birthday cards when I was wee.

dudsville · 02/02/2021 17:52

I'm cringing just reading this!

CherryCherries · 02/02/2021 17:52

My ex line manager used to put a x at the end of a text, then I upset her and it was just full stops from then on. Made it feel so hard and cold (which she became tbh)

Coralblimey · 02/02/2021 17:55

I don’t put x at the end of text messages but my friends already know I’m a git Grin

Love2cycle · 02/02/2021 17:55

OP, ive just messaged my best friend and left the xxx off. I feel so mean!!!!
Xx 😂

SlippersForFlippers · 02/02/2021 17:55

I used punctuation on IM at work and my new colleague asked if I was mad with her. I had no idea using punctuation meant I was angry or upset.

NoKingDingaLingTitsInAbsentia · 02/02/2021 17:55

I often manage to end mine with a 'c' thanks to clumsy fingers. I don't even bother to correct it anymore...zero x's given Grin

EBearhug · 02/02/2021 18:02

I have a reputation for punctuating things correctly and if anyone is offended by it, that's tough on them. I also don't end texts or mails with xxx, especially not at work.

However if you have always done it one way and then change, then I can see people would start asking questions. I would wonder what's up if someone changed their texting style with no warning. I don't know that I'd comment unless I saw other stuff going on, though.

Maskedminger · 02/02/2021 18:03

This is so funny. In our mum friendship group there’s a mix of nationalities (I’m in an ex pat community) us Brits just can’t help putting those kisses on, the others end sentences with full stops, I always feel like they're upset with me and they must think I’m totally overbearing/overfamiliar 🤣

BeMyCherryBest · 02/02/2021 18:05

Putting an x at the end of a message is cringe, childish and reminds me of those FB posts where someone is writing something really offensive but states they aren't being so and adds so xxx at the end, urgg.

Maybe I've just seen a certain type do it so that's why I'm put off.

Love2cycle · 02/02/2021 18:06

I hate it when i forget a question mark at end of message. The message looks rude without it, but if i follow up with a singke question mark it looks like im hassling for an answer

Shinyletsbebadguys · 02/02/2021 18:10

Grin I would try the experiment too but to be honest I only really put x's on the end of DP texts. Everyone else it's only really when it's something that it fits with. DP has had to fly to scotland this week for work so to do it this well would probably give the poor man a heart attack because we often discuss the concept of behaviour pattern changes being a warning sign something is wrong. He would be petitioning Sturgeon for a mercy flight in the next 15 minutes. Grin (Not literally for those who want to claim he is insecure or needy but he would be quite HmmConfused)

Oneearringlost · 02/02/2021 18:13

Oh, this is interesting

My DD (18) told me last night that to end a message with a full stop was considered by some to be an angry gesture. Does that mean that I can ameliorate my message tone if there is a full stop, by putting an X after it, then?

Oneearringlost · 02/02/2021 18:13

Is it a young people's thing?

SoupDragon · 02/02/2021 18:15

Putting full stops at the end of my texts to my children fills me with deep joy.

Andylion · 02/02/2021 18:16

@SlippersForFlippers

I used punctuation on IM at work and my new colleague asked if I was mad with her. I had no idea using punctuation meant I was angry or upset.
If I stopped using punctuation, even while texting, my friends would ask if everything was ok.
Tangledtresses · 02/02/2021 18:16

When texting my teen I've started to put a full stop it's working wonders 👍🏻

VettiyaIruken · 02/02/2021 18:17

Pooh. That's the modern equivalent of ending a letter with regards instead of warm/best regards.
It means fuck off and die, you wanker. 😁

Tangledtresses · 02/02/2021 18:17

@VettiyaIruken

Pooh. That's the modern equivalent of ending a letter with regards instead of warm/best regards. It means fuck off and die, you wanker. 😁
Mostly yes with his attitude 😂
DeeThree · 02/02/2021 18:18

@Oneearringlost

Oh, this is interesting

My DD (18) told me last night that to end a message with a full stop was considered by some to be an angry gesture. Does that mean that I can ameliorate my message tone if there is a full stop, by putting an X after it, then?

Interesting! I never knew this. I wonder how many people I have upset by ending my sentences with a full stop. I am slightly pedantic about grammar so it doesn't feel right not to use one. Ah well, old age had its advantages - I don't really care!