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I've been messing with everyone by text

199 replies

Stiles · 02/02/2021 17:38

By not putting an X at the end of messages. Sometimes I go the full hog and put a full stop.

So far my dad wants to know if he's upset me and my teen came down to ask if he's in trouble. 😂

I usually chat online to mainly Americans and it's not the done thing with them so thought I'd drop it completely as it's a bit daft. British people are not ready for this. Grin

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SmoggieC · 03/02/2021 17:27

Eurgh, I'm not a fan of this putting an x at end of every fucking line.

DayswithDaisy8 · 03/02/2021 17:34

I was listening to the radio in the car last week, when the American being interviewed said “Period, hard stop”. Very odd actually saying that!

LindaEllen · 03/02/2021 17:42

@amusedbush

My brother was texting me and his fiancée at the same time and he ended a message to me with xxxxxxxx, then immediately texted xx* to correct the amount of love he gave me Grin
Haha my best friend does this when he's texting. I get 2, his girlfriend gets loads. He always apologies and retracts any accidental spare kisses I might get! I said don't apologise I always know what's happened when I get loads haha.
purplebunny2012 · 03/02/2021 18:40

I have never put an x at the end of any message. They belong in cards and that's it

Ifeelsuchafool · 03/02/2021 18:52

Since when was not punctuating at the end of a sentence a thing? And why on earth would you put an X at the end of any text that wasn't to your child, your partner, your close relative or close friend? I obviously missed the memo!

Plunger · 03/02/2021 19:29

A full stop means end of sentence. No more, no less. Stop reading something into it that isn't there. Grow up.

Seriously1996 · 03/02/2021 19:38

I always feel that i am being shouted at if someone sends me a text written all in capitals

winniestone37 · 03/02/2021 20:23

How funny, you sound awful! You’ve come here to let us know how superior you are and how silly anyone with a different perspective is. That isn’t noble, intelligent or superior it’s silly and narrow minded and lacking in perspective and empathy. You can end your texts however you choose but be a big enough person to accept other people might have different way of doing things and feel different things to you and they’re just as valid as your thoughts and feelings. If you can’t then the only fool here is you.

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Stiles · 03/02/2021 20:29

@winniestone37

How funny, you sound awful! You’ve come here to let us know how superior you are and how silly anyone with a different perspective is. That isn’t noble, intelligent or superior it’s silly and narrow minded and lacking in perspective and empathy. You can end your texts however you choose but be a big enough person to accept other people might have different way of doing things and feel different things to you and they’re just as valid as your thoughts and feelings. If you can’t then the only fool here is you.
You've seriously misread my post. Or are you on the wrong thread? Confused
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MinnieMountain · 03/02/2021 20:38

You obviously forgot to put “light hearted” OP. Tut tut.

Harmonypuss · 03/02/2021 20:44

Why on earth would/should anyone be offended by a bit of punctuation?

When we all went to school, we were taught that punctuation is necessary, it signifies breaks in sentences to take a breath, especially where not having a coma or full stop can comprehension change the context of the written article.

Also, having trained as a secretary/personal assistance back in the 80s, if I'd ever dared to miss off a full stop at the end of a sentence, firstly, my boss would have sent me back to the typewriter to correct my mistake and secondly, in exams, I'd have lost marks for it.

I know a full stop is only a tiny dot, so some people 'think' we can do without it but others feel it's needed.

At the end of the day, there's no point getting all het up about it, use it, or don't but don't think someone's having a go at you just because they chose to use correct punctuation. Full stop!

Harmonypuss · 03/02/2021 20:47

Aah bugger!

I did type 'comma' in that second paragraph but the flipping predictive text 'chose' to change it and I was being too idle to proofread before hitting the 'post' button.

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Stiles · 03/02/2021 20:58

@MinnieMountain

You obviously forgot to put “light hearted” OP. Tut tut.
I honestly though MN was past this phase but obviously not. Grin LIGHTHEARTED THREAD. NO CLAIMS OF SUPERIORITY ARE TO BE FOUND HERE. Who am I meant to be so much more noble than? The x'ers or the full stoppers? Perhaps I'm superior to you all? Yes, that must be it. ~nods wisely and nobly~

My messing by text was accidental (thought the original post made that clear but I can see that reading the title might seem different) and the ones accidentally messed with found it funny and interesting too how such a small change can make things be read differently. I did immediately explain, no family member was left upset.

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TinselTinsel · 03/02/2021 23:14

I find that xx on texts are mostly pretty insincere and unnecessary. I have a friend who puts kisses on argument texts fgs! An example of one her texts is " You are an F Ct and and i will hate you til the day I die you F** waste of oxygen xxxxxxx "

My son gets a x on the end of a text and (on the rare occasion I have one) my partner. Maybe that's why I single Grin

DaddyCool60 · 03/02/2021 23:19

My daughter informed me of this full stop bollocks. If anyone wants to take offence they can get fucked. Their loss. As for kisses ate the end? Yes to family but tricky beyond, especially as a man to a female friend. Not sure it’s generally accepted with wives and girlfriends but if I’m out of touch then maybe modern married women are just fine with husband ending emails and texts with an x or two. From post in MN I doubt it somehow. Confused

BessMarvin · 03/02/2021 23:34

I really don't like it and refuse to do it. I think I have very occasionally and deliberately when it seemed appropriate.

What I want to know is, how on earth did it start? Someone did it and it was copied and just spread? Why?

Whiskeylover45 · 04/02/2021 04:28

This is making me laugh and think about my own. I have Protocol when it comes to x's. If it's a colleague or a friend's partner husband then they get non. Neither situation is appropriate, unless they are good friends in their own right so may be get 1 X. People I know as an aquatence, say a friend of a friend and we're discussing a direct topic relating to friend may get one x. People I like but aren't friends with get 2. Me and DH's ex do this when talking about DSD. Then people I love/close friends get between three and five. DH gets a line of them. I've also noticed when messaging people copy what you do, like it's now become a way to relate to that person. Its like society has evolved online. It is weird though, and I do put a full stop at the end of a sentence because grammatically it's correct but I always follow it up with kisses (see exceptions above). Just reading this has made me realise how weird it is 🤣 I would take lack of kisses to mean if upset someone, as British people in the main are not abrupt, and a full stop and no kisses to me would mean they are being abrupt, which would mean they are upset. Whereas a kiss would soften it. Dear God, as if I'm thinking deeply about this.

Whiskeylover45 · 04/02/2021 04:47

What about the single question mark? Feels like a pointed question. Two feels like they are being dramatic, three passive agressive and demanding an answer. Or finishing with a single exclamation mark. The later I will stare at and re read to try and guage their meaning. Are they being funny? Sarcastic? Annoyed? Just getting the point across? Two is like calm down love. Three...woah! Shits hitting the fan. Anyway thanks for the laugh OP, here you go! xx

Longdistance · 04/02/2021 05:18

If dh puts one small x I’m offended, it’s like a kiss off. If it’s a large X or xx I’m much happier. Sometimes he gets over excited he sends a 😘 emoji.

wooo69 · 04/02/2021 05:34

I have never put an x at the end of a text and don’t know anyone who does, I didn’t even know it was a thing. Maybe it’s a regional thing?

Onlinedilema · 04/02/2021 07:20

Wow so much I was unaware of. I had no idea about the full stop. I use kisses. I also use emojis, especially to my dh and dcs. I also sign off work emails with Kind regards. I'm guilty of the auto correct too and often send strange messages to my dcs.

Onlinedilema · 04/02/2021 07:27

Yes I send more kisses to dh and dcs than anyone else plus dh and I always put love heart emojis at the end of texts. Then a few less kisses to other family members and good friends. I even put kisses to work colleagues but we have a separate chat so not during work conversations.
I do notice if a friend doesn't put kisses, one of my friends doesn't and I always think it looks rather blunt. I always put kisses on cards.

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 04/02/2021 07:33

Is this why I have no friends? (Well, hardly any). I don't send kisses in messages and use punctuation.

I dislike all the hugging and kissing with acquaintances too.

Onlinedilema · 04/02/2021 07:36

I suppose it's because a text message is so abrupt. When you communicate face to face the majority of communication is through body language. Texting removes that so the emotion is lost. When you communicate face to face you don't actually have to say anything to get your message across. I suppose putting kisses replaces smiling during conversation and warm body language.

janj2301 · 04/02/2021 09:14

I NEVER but a X and always a full stop. I'm sooo old I always use correct punctuation and no abbreviations in texts, noone has said anything to me.