My nearly 5 year old told me he didn't love me and it has broken me

[Pathetic32]

And please don't pile on me because I know I am pathetic and I know he is only 4 and they all say stuff like that sometimes. Logically I know that. But it just broke me today. I try so hard. I work but my job is freelance and can be done in the evenings so during the day I am pretty much totally with ds (dh wfh but no flexibility really, standard office hours- he takes over at 5pm and does dinner and bath etc). I thought we were getting on quite well, he seems to enjoy homeschool such as it is, haven't really had any strops etc. I had PND when he was a baby and felt so guilty and him just casually spouting out that he loves daddy more than me and if I didn't live there he and daddy would have fun and wouldn't miss me. Just made me feel shit. I knew I was going to cry and didn't want him to see so I said something very generally like that isn't a kind thing to say DS and took myself off to the bathroom. Just feel shit.

They can be very cutting can't they? OP, I get how you feel totally, both DCs are the result of a long IVF road and when DS said he wished he had a different Muma when he was 3 I was properly upset, I had to absent myself upstairs to 'put the washing away' [ball my eyes out] DH, like yours, told him that was very unkind to say and he has never said it since. He does however have some very dramatic turns of phrase now though at 6 to say what he doesn't like and DD is picking it up too. My current favourite is 'You're making me so sad Muma, I can't feel my brain!'

Also, people writing their own stories about OP's DS repeating stuff from DH need to fuck the fuck off. Why do people do that on this site? Peevish clairvoyance abounds...

How are you feeling today? I had a lovely day with my nearly 4 year old DS yesterday. DP gets home from work and DS immediately announces that Daddy is his favourite, he only loves Daddy and doesn't love Mummy

I remember being very young and sitting in the back of the car with my younger brother who was about 4. My mum was driving. All very quiet in the car - stopped at traffic lights, out of nowhere my brother says 'mum, I'm going to kill you when I'm older.' he then turned back to look out the window as if he hadn't said anything 😳😬
My poor mum said replied 'oh, ok then.' ......
She still reminds us of it now and tells all the family if she ever disappears we know who to investigate first 🤣

My DM remembers looking up at her mother and auntie as they came in through the door and exclaiming in a disappointed voice: Are you back already? We've been having such fun!!!

They had been to attend their mother's funeral.

God they break your heart don't they? Ds is three and when hes been told off a couple of times he's come out with 'no, I no like you now!' Or similar. I just say 'oh well that's a shame, I love you lots and lots, now put your shoes on' or whatever it is he's refusing to do. It does sting a bit sometimes though. And yes, it's always me he comes to when he wakes up in the night or feels unwell. He knows I love him endlessly, and that's how it should be.

@Pookythebear

Oh OP, I’ve been there. We were on holiday with my two boys (7 & 3 at the time) and we put some coins in a wishing well. Out of nowhere my 7 year old said ‘I wish I had another mummy’. It was awful! My husband told him off straight away but I couldn’t stop my eyes welling up (thankfully had big sunglasses on 😂) but had nowhere to hide - the tears just kept coming and going! Needless to say it’s long forgotten by him and just the other day he announce in his PHSE class that I was his ‘most special thing’. They’re complicated wee beasts, op!

Your dh told your 7 year old off for wishing for another mummy?

His second wish would have no doubt been another daddy