What's the worst advice you've had from MN?

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I have personally received some good advice from this site, however with all the LTB! and other extreme reactions I want to know if anyone has had some truly awful advice from MN?
Or did you follow advice but it turned out to be the wrong decision?
Or did you really LTB but regretted it?

You cannot go to A&E unless your head falls off!

Oh God the “it’s neither an accident nor an emergency” brigade drive me mad. Unless you’re in cardiac arrest or have amputated your leg (and even then surely a neighbour could drive you) then HOW DARE YOU CONSIDER CALLING 999 / GOING TO A&E.

That any man who has separated from ex wife / partner who has children with should never, ever, have another relationship.

These posters always pop up in the step parenting threads. Oozing bitterness with every word.

People move on (well except these posters clearly) and build happy lives for themselves.

If I'd listened to MN I would never have got together with DP and had DD.

@MrsCrosbyNRTB

Oh God the “it’s neither an accident nor an emergency” brigade drive me mad. Unless you’re in cardiac arrest or have amputated your leg (and even then surely a neighbour could drive you) then HOW DARE YOU CONSIDER CALLING 999 / GOING TO A&E.

Or when the OP’s doctor/111 has suggested they go to A+E but they’re still not sure if they should (not sure why that isn’t enough to convince OP!) and there will always be a handful of commentators saying ‘hmm I think A+E is a bit extreme...’ despite the fact it’s the medical advice they’ve received.

@SirGawain

Show him/her this thread.

Yes do that! They’ll be over the moon that you are telling strangers, even anonymously, about your private life together.

Allegedly this happened about 2 weeks ago. The DH accused of BU logged on and fought back!

Ah yes but the woman,s allowed to move on of course and be happy but the man has to give all of his wages to the ex and live off bread and water in a single room at his parents and be great ful for any bit of access to his kids his ex allows him on her terms naturally

There was a thread a few months back in which OP saw two work colleagues, the man married, having dinner together at an out of town hotel. She had met the wife once or twice ages before, didn't know her in any significant sense, barely knew husband and the person who was, to be fair, almost certainly the OW.

Could just about understand people urging her to tell the wife, though I didn't agree. But the ones telling her to phone the hotel posing as the woman to try to get evidence by asking for a receipt or pretending she'd lost an earring like a mad person...

@x2boys

For some reason the courts don't agree with the mumsnet narrative. Wonder why 😂.

3 years ago I was told to put fabric conditioner in the rug doctor. The carpet is still slightly damp and sticky to this day

@GeordieGreigsButtButtZoom

There was a thread a few months back in which OP saw two work colleagues, the man married, having dinner together at an out of town hotel. She had met the wife once or twice ages before, didn't know her in any significant sense, barely knew husband and the person who was, to be fair, almost certainly the OW.

Could just about understand people urging her to tell the wife, though I didn't agree. But the ones telling her to phone the hotel posing as the woman to try to get evidence by asking for a receipt or pretending she'd lost an earring like a mad person...

I remember that one. It was batshit. I was in the tiny minority who told her to mind her own business.

Loads, but I am a stepmum so it it's part of the course 😂

I asked whether people preferred integrated or free standing ovens and had a poster give me free marital advice instead...

I never did find out which oven people liked best...

The "my child's a bit plump, this is what they eat" threads always make me boggle.

The DC has plan yogurt and four blueberries for breakfast, half a sandwich with carrot and celery sticks for lunch with plain yogurt and another three blueberries for dessert. Followed by vegan stir-fry for dinner and a rice cake if hungry before bed, and only drink water."

Advice : I'd drop the blueberries if I were you, seven is an awful lot of sugar.

I wonder what they would make of my skinny arse DCs who live on chicken nuggets, chips, chocolate and squash?

On any thread about nightmare neighbours there will be loads of replies along the lines of "Just move", like there couldn't be 101 reasons why the OP can't move. (And why bloody should they)?

Almost invariably topped off by someone posting " Well that's why we built our own house on 10 acres of land with no neighbours for 50 miles in any direction". Yeah, like that's a solution for someone on stuck in a crappy flat they can barely afford the rent on their minimum wage.

I posted on here about a surgical procedure that dp was feeling pressurised into undergoing. He felt that certain other options hadn't been explored and the potential side effects were really serious. I was basically told to stop whining, it was only a minor procedure (it wasn't) and that I was being ridiculous. The poster claimed to be a medical professional but had a horrible bedside manner. Sure enough, on getting a second opinion, it turned out to be a totally inappropriate course of treatment that could have been really damaging. Thank god we didn't take their advice.

@BobbinAround

There was one a while back when the poster was supposed to be going on holiday but had just realised that DC's passport had expired.

The advice "Do you have a nephew that looks a bit like them or is a similar age? Maybe you could borrow their passport as I doubt anyone would check that closely."

This made me laugh. I did this as a teenager. My aunt worked for an airline so her and her immediate family got free airline tickets. I went as one of my cousins who was 5 years older then me and I didnt really look that much like her. But hey no one stopped me. While this was a few years ago it was post 9 11 so I'm incredibly surprised we got away with this and she didnt lose her job.

@ GeordieGreigsButtButtZoom I remember that thread. Totally mental.

And then there was the one from the OP who wanted to take her child to a theme park on his 3rd birthday only the ticket price went up to an adult price when they turned 3 so she was thinking of telling them he was still 2. OMG the responses, everything from telling her that it was theft to predicting that he would end up with a juvenile record when he was older and was heading for a life of serious crime.

I often wonder if the “go NC” brigade realise the irony of what they’re saying. After all, if they advise people to go NC with parents so readily, their own children might well be posting here in years to come and be told to “go NC.”

@PegasusReturns

I posted (under another name) regarding a work decision almost ten years ago.

After a number of years as a SAHM I’d been offered two roles one a straight forward part time admin plus sort of role, the second a more “advanced” role using my qualifications but full on and with some travel.

To a person everyone said I should take the more straight forward role, my DC were young and I could always ramp up at a later date.

I ignored that advice and took the other role and it transformed my life. After a short time I was headhunted into another job earning more than I could imagine. I travelled to over 50 countries, had experiences I couldn’t dream of. I then set up my own company which was very successful and sold it a few years later.

My day to day life bears no resemblance to the one I was living 10 years ago.

It was very well meaning advice but I’m glad I ignored it

Well done glad you followed your gut! Very intrigued to know what jobs it was between!

@icecreamgirl94 I’ve been following your thread! My heart went out to you and your sister so much but by the time I read it there were so many utterly batshit (and in many cases, horrifying) replies I thought you would probably have given up reading them. Fwiw any woman who sacrifices her own health and well-being to give life to another is a freaking hero in my book 💐

I rarely post on mumsnet for advice; I’m basically here with popcorn 😁

The first post I made on here, several years ago. My ds had just started proper swimming lessons aged almost 4. He'd been silly in the lesson and not listened and I asked for advice on whether he was just too young and should we leave it for six months.
One poster started with "why the fuck weren't you in the water with him?"
And, despite me explaining several times that it was a lesson where the swim teachers asked parents to sit in the viewing gallery this was the whole point of the thread, maybe he wasn't ready for that type of lesson. Insisted over several posts that I was neglectful because I hadn't got in the water and should at least have sat on the steps with him.
I still see that username around now and the "why the fuck didn't you....?" Type "advice" is still going strong

@ChristmasinJune crikey, independent lessons start at 3 in my area, you're not allowed anywhere near the pool edge!

[quote user86386427]@ChristmasinJune crikey, independent lessons start at 3 in my area, you're not allowed anywhere near the pool edge![/quote]
Yes, this exactly!!
He loved the lessons after that and swims like a fish now by the way

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