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My fucking neighbours

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CindersCatsSister · 31/01/2021 21:10

We have just finished a kitchen extension. 6 month build with all the attendant stresses. Older neighbours (late 60s) next door have for the hump because we raised the floor meaning that now they can see into our kitchen. We can’t see into their house at all. They’ve been on at us throughout the build to have the window frosted over, I’ve said no, I’m putting in plain glass and if needs be I’ll put some film over it.
Build finished 5 mins ago, I’ve been up to my ears in fucking homeschooling and working and life and all the bullshit and she sends her husband over to shout at us because there’s no film on the window and ‘I don’t want to see you in your kitchen, it’s like a shop window’. Said window is 135 x 50cm. Also, it’s facing onto their garden which is about 20 metres from the window. So it’s not in their face. I don’t necessarily think they’re wrong, if it’s pissing them off it’s pissing them off and ITS ON MY FUCKING LIST but just FUCK OFF YOU CUNTS WHY DOES IT MATTER??
Many thanks, I feel better now.

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Grasses · 01/02/2021 07:59

Don't frost it, our front window has frosting film over as it faces the street and it feels like a wall. The window has always been there so don't do anything.

Roasteros · 01/02/2021 08:05

@oakleaffy thanks for sharing the film. Beautiful.

Mrgrinch · 01/02/2021 08:08

Not a chance I'd be frosting that window now. Why on earth would you let them win once they've threatened you?! It will only make them feel more powerful. You're setting yourself up for more trouble.

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CindersCatsSister · 01/02/2021 08:09

@BasiliskStare you are sweet, thank you. I’m fine, but perhaps a bit overdone. It’s the contrast, I think - I’m a nurse and dealing with some major COVID shit as we all are in the NHS and kids at home and I’m probably a bit defensive about the build as it only happened because my Mum does and left me some money so it’s emotional there too and overall I just don’t quite have it in me to deal with TwattyMcCuntface banging on the window and shouting the odds about a window that yes I will sort out but it’s been a for 2 weeks give me a break dude AAAARGH

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CindersCatsSister · 01/02/2021 08:13

And this is the window sticker I have chosen in case anyone is interested!! There will be 3 of these covering the entire window. It won’t do exactly what they want it to do but between this and the plants it will be enough of a screen to be a reasonable compromise. Nothing I do will please them so I may as well go with something I mind less.

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HettieMillia · 01/02/2021 08:14

Is your window directly overlooking their driveway / property on the boundary? So your kitchen view is their property?

ineedaholidaynow · 01/02/2021 08:17

Do you have another window in the extension!

HettieMillia · 01/02/2021 08:18

Ah, I see that it is. I wouldn't like that of I was the neighbour tbh. I think film is a fair compromise. I guess if my neighbor did that and refused to put film up I'd just solve the problem my side with a fence up against the boundary.

5zeds · 01/02/2021 08:19

It’s pretty OP. Surely they could just park a car there if it’s a problem for them?

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CindersCatsSister · 01/02/2021 08:22

The view from my window in shit diagram form:

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CindersCatsSister · 01/02/2021 08:24

I have looked again this morning and we are easily 15m away from each other, if not more.

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stairgates · 01/02/2021 08:24

That window film is lovely! Didnt know they did them :)

VettiyaIruken · 01/02/2021 08:25

Get all concerned.
Are you telling me you like to watch me and need my help to stop you? That must be very difficult. Have you sought help for that? When did you start watching me...

AmIAWeed · 01/02/2021 08:28

If I were your neighbour and didnt like it, I'd stick a fence up so it blocks your window totally...if you were being particularly mean I'd make sure you got a really ugly side and mine was clad in something lovely. Afterall, they can do what they like on their driveway....!

It works both ways, stop being a knob and put the film up as they've asked multiple times

StillGoingToWork · 01/02/2021 08:31

I think you have through all that and finally! you have a nice new kitchen with new windows 🥰 and the f*ckers next door want to ruin the aesthetic of this gorgeous new part of your house by sticking frosted bits on them. I'd be livid.

NoGoodPunsLeft · 01/02/2021 08:35

@AmIAWeed

If I were your neighbour and didnt like it, I'd stick a fence up so it blocks your window totally...if you were being particularly mean I'd make sure you got a really ugly side and mine was clad in something lovely. Afterall, they can do what they like on their driveway....!

It works both ways, stop being a knob and put the film up as they've asked multiple times

The OP posted about 5 posts before yours saying she's ordered the film helpfully including a picture Hmm
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CindersCatsSister · 01/02/2021 08:37

The window is almost a ceiling height and isn’t the main window, btw. You can only see their house as you walk into the kitchen, there’s a step down and then the window is over my head. I think because they are higher up they can look down into it. IF THEY CHOOSE.

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AmIAWeed · 01/02/2021 08:38

@NoGoodPunsLeft does the neighbour know this? She's too busy slagging them off and calling them names on here has she actually communicated what she's doing to rectify the situation?

The neighbours should have put their concerns forward at the planning stage, but at the end of the day they can do what they want if they don't like the end results so the OP should actually be trying to work with them

girlofnow · 01/02/2021 08:41

We had similar (sadly not our lovely extension!) and both us and neighbours put film up. It takes a few minutes, dead easy. They are being dicks but I would just sort it.

Kona84 · 01/02/2021 08:42

Hang a mirror facing outward then they’ll just have to look at themselves

HettieMillia · 01/02/2021 08:45

Looks like the neighbours did put their concerns forward at the planning stage. And through the build.

Hugoslavia · 01/02/2021 08:48

I would have gone for solid Window film with two little eye holes in, so it looked like you could still snoop on them.

user68901 · 01/02/2021 08:50

If I were the neighbours I would have already put up nice trellising between my pergola and table and my driveway regardless of what the neighbours house set up was. Very odd to have outdoor table right next to parked cars.

teenytrees · 01/02/2021 08:51

Putting up with six months building work during lockdown won't have been much fun (and I'm speaking from experience). The neighbours' annoyance will be a delayed response to that (is my guess).
Being able to see into your kitchen shouldn't be a problem if they're not overlooked.
What had their age got to do with it? Or is it just another bit of nasty MN ageism?
I'd take some flowers around, apologise for the disruption of the last 6 months and stick the bloody film up. Why make it more of a drama and cause a dispute you'd need to declare if you move?

LaBellina · 01/02/2021 08:53

I would be having sex on the countertop tonight (with all the lights on ) 😂😂😂.