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My fucking neighbours

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CindersCatsSister · 31/01/2021 21:10

We have just finished a kitchen extension. 6 month build with all the attendant stresses. Older neighbours (late 60s) next door have for the hump because we raised the floor meaning that now they can see into our kitchen. We can’t see into their house at all. They’ve been on at us throughout the build to have the window frosted over, I’ve said no, I’m putting in plain glass and if needs be I’ll put some film over it.
Build finished 5 mins ago, I’ve been up to my ears in fucking homeschooling and working and life and all the bullshit and she sends her husband over to shout at us because there’s no film on the window and ‘I don’t want to see you in your kitchen, it’s like a shop window’. Said window is 135 x 50cm. Also, it’s facing onto their garden which is about 20 metres from the window. So it’s not in their face. I don’t necessarily think they’re wrong, if it’s pissing them off it’s pissing them off and ITS ON MY FUCKING LIST but just FUCK OFF YOU CUNTS WHY DOES IT MATTER??
Many thanks, I feel better now.

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AdobeWanKenobi · 01/02/2021 11:03

Tread carefully OP. As has been rightly pointed out above if you piss them off too much they are perfectly within their rights to erect a boundary.

Unless you want a view like this?

www.thesun.co.uk/news/5072701/couple-live-shadows-neighbours-fence-covers-window/

My fucking neighbours
Confusedandshaken · 01/02/2021 11:04

We live at the end of a road and are pretty much surrounded by trees so although we get traffic noise and neighbour noise, it's very private. Normally I love it but atm I am so starved for company (other than DH who shuts himself in the dining room and works 12 hours a day) I would love to be able to stare into someone's kitchen and see real live people.

Seriously, if it's worse at nights, why not put up a roller blind that you only pull down at night? You can get powered ones that roll into a cassette so they are unobtrusive and you don't have an annoying cord dangling down.

HettieMillia · 01/02/2021 11:13

He can frost his own windows/put up curtains/whatever

Why would he do that rather than just put a fence across the offending window? No one would frost the view to their own garden would they. Hmm

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StanfordPines · 01/02/2021 11:15

I cannot fathom how some people think you are the one being unreasonable.

If this window looked directly into their house then they would have a point.
However they want you to compromise your view and light by putting up a film so they don’t look into your window.
They don’t have to look. They don’t spend all day staring out of that window anyway I’m sure. Do they knock on people’s doors telling them to draw their curtains?

SquirtleSquad · 01/02/2021 11:22

I still can't believe this isn't even a new window, it was there all along it's just because you've raised the floor and changed the rooms use Grin they're nuts!

PeterPandemic · 01/02/2021 11:23

[quote AdobeWanKenobi]Tread carefully OP. As has been rightly pointed out above if you piss them off too much they are perfectly within their rights to erect a boundary.

Unless you want a view like this?

www.thesun.co.uk/news/5072701/couple-live-shadows-neighbours-fence-covers-window/[/quote]
My grandparents opposite neighbours did that - but it was at first floor height. One house had a new side extension over the garage with a window on the boundary right opposite their neighbour's bathroom. This was early 1980s so possibly different places being rules. Anyway the neighbours weren't fond of the new window and it was their boundary so they put what looked like a fence panel on stilts so it sat just outside the new window.

SheeshazAZ09 · 01/02/2021 11:25

I'd just tell them not to look then. Don't frost your window, it's not a great look unless you absolutely have to.

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CindersCatsSister · 01/02/2021 11:26

@SushiSoozie

She seems a bit unhinged

Take a look in a mirror petal, you're missing a few hinges yourself.

You sound like a nightmare neighbour

Oh behave, I'm lovely (to their faces), they haven't got a clue that I can't stand them. I take their bins out, listen to his health problems, invite them for xmas /summer drinks (outside of lockdown). I apologise when the kids are noisy, I didn't go mental when they fed the birds so much that we all got rats in our gardens...
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islockdownoveryet · 01/02/2021 11:26

Can you not get blinds or something?.
I get why your pissed off when we had our extension we moved out for a bit and soon as it was liveable but not finished we moved back in . There was still loads to but we had heating / kitchen and hot water so we got back in .
NDn was practically banging on my door within 30 seconds that my guttering was not done causing her garden to flood . Partly true but she has shit guttering anyway . I told her it was being sorted which it was . Anyway a few days later she kicked off that it still wasn’t done . It was fucking winter so not so she was going in her bloody garden and I’d had trouble with my builder. In the end I got someone the next few days which she was happy about and we apologised not that I meant it but with the stress of the build pissing off the neighbours was what we didn’t need .

bendmeoverbackwards · 01/02/2021 11:28

I cannot fathom how some people think you are the one being unreasonable

It's not about who is 'right' or 'wrong'. It's about living peacefully with your neighbours. Just find a way to deal with it amicably.

SquirtleSquad · 01/02/2021 11:29

They could frost their windows on the inside, or get blinds as they are the ones with the problem. Which of their rooms is it they can see you from?

RosyPrimroseDoll · 01/02/2021 11:31

@Franklyfrost

Have you thought about getting a goat for the back garden?
Grin excellent
tootiredtospeak · 01/02/2021 11:32

I can beat that us and our neighbour had extensions on our flat roof garages but part of the garage remains. They re roofed leaving a 2cm strip rather than come right up to our building and say that is our border so cant come over it. We have a shared garage wall and now this strip is causing water to come on as it's not flashed properly. It needs lead flashing we have said we will do it and pay for it but they dont like lead flashing and it would have to go from our wall to their roof. Building inspectors say lead flashing is needed but cant enforce as separate issue to build. So basically my neighbours are happy to let water come into my property simply because they dont like the look of the flashing. Only way to resolve is through a solicitor.

CountessDracula · 01/02/2021 11:36

As their issue is being able to see in to your kitchen, why not get a magic screen roller blind. You can see out but they can't see in

www.blinds-2go.co.uk/roller-blinds/19436/oculus-bright-white.html

MacDuffsMuff · 01/02/2021 11:46

My neighbours built an extension with a window that I can see from our bedroom. I put a voile up in my window. Didn't even cross my mind to ask them to put something over their window! Don't frost yours, if they're that worried, they can do theirs.

Cyberattack · 01/02/2021 11:49

Does your window overlook their garden? It seems to from your drawing.

TrimmedMyBush · 01/02/2021 11:50

@Theunamedcat

Put a blind up put an image behind it of a pair of eyes facing them
Yes do this 😃
bendmeoverbackwards · 01/02/2021 11:54

Wow those blinds look brilliant @CountessDracula

littlejalapeno · 01/02/2021 11:55

How bright are your new lights, and how close to the new window? Probably that that is bothering them. Lockdown has been stressful and they probably feel quite out of control and it’s making it seem bigger. Perhaps if you make sure your lights aren’t affecting them they’ll calm down and there would be no need for the film.

DinnaeFashSassenach · 01/02/2021 12:11

Seems like they're more than far enough away to not have had to suffer terribly with building works? Surely someone having work done in a house at the bottom of your garden and over a driveway isn't that much of a disturbance compared to an actual neighbour right next door.
OP, what are we talking here distance wise? Surely they can only see into your kitchen clearly from the bottom of their garden?
Personally I would come back with a very simple, "Well don't look then" I'm afraid.

ForGoodnessCake · 01/02/2021 12:23

I'm never putting their bins out again 😂😂😂

I think it's easier to put the film up - you don't want the animosity! Probably nothing better to do! Just started our Reno 🤦🏼‍♀️

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CindersCatsSister · 01/02/2021 13:01

[quote AdobeWanKenobi]Tread carefully OP. As has been rightly pointed out above if you piss them off too much they are perfectly within their rights to erect a boundary.

Unless you want a view like this?

www.thesun.co.uk/news/5072701/couple-live-shadows-neighbours-fence-covers-window/[/quote]
Oh, he would SO do this. He is exactly the type.

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wheretonow123 · 01/02/2021 13:17

[quote AdobeWanKenobi]Tread carefully OP. As has been rightly pointed out above if you piss them off too much they are perfectly within their rights to erect a boundary.

Unless you want a view like this?

www.thesun.co.uk/news/5072701/couple-live-shadows-neighbours-fence-covers-window/[/quote]
Wow, that's awful.

Anyone know what the outcome of this was? Some people are so nasty.

The online report was in December 2017.

IntermittentParps · 01/02/2021 13:20

The bit that confuses me is that come Spring the greenery will grow over their pergola and they won’t be able to see us anyway??
Well, exactly. Ignore them. And I wouldn't bother with the film. They need to get lives.

I'd just say 'You don't have to look in' and leave it at that and scramble my eggs with my tits out

wheretonow123 · 01/02/2021 13:20

@CindersCatsSister

And this is the window sticker I have chosen in case anyone is interested!! There will be 3 of these covering the entire window. It won’t do exactly what they want it to do but between this and the plants it will be enough of a screen to be a reasonable compromise. Nothing I do will please them so I may as well go with something I mind less.
Personally, I don't think that you needed to this but that if you think it will appease the situation then maybe it is your best option.