My fucking neighbours

[CindersCatsSister]

We have just finished a kitchen extension. 6 month build with all the attendant stresses. Older neighbours (late 60s) next door have for the hump because we raised the floor meaning that now they can see into our kitchen. We can’t see into their house at all. They’ve been on at us throughout the build to have the window frosted over, I’ve said no, I’m putting in plain glass and if needs be I’ll put some film over it.
Build finished 5 mins ago, I’ve been up to my ears in fucking homeschooling and working and life and all the bullshit and she sends her husband over to shout at us because there’s no film on the window and ‘I don’t want to see you in your kitchen, it’s like a shop window’. Said window is 135 x 50cm. Also, it’s facing onto their garden which is about 20 metres from the window. So it’s not in their face. I don’t necessarily think they’re wrong, if it’s pissing them off it’s pissing them off and ITS ON MY FUCKING LIST but just FUCK OFF YOU CUNTS WHY DOES IT MATTER??
Many thanks, I feel better now.

No fence, our kitchen wall goes straight into their driveway. The driveway takes 4 cars so not small. Then there’s the pergola, then their patio then their house.

@CindersCatsSister

I told my friend earlier and he said ‘make sure you scramble your eggs with your tits out tomorrow morning then’

Brilliant!!!

OP You and your friends sound absolutely horrible.

@wewereliars are you the unhinged neighbour?

Are you sure it’s 20 metres away and not 20 feet? If there’s a drive then pergola the patio, 20 metres is a long way

I’m generally a nice person and I’ve always been really friendly with neighbours etc. but I absolutely wouldn’t be putting frosting over my lovely new kitchen window to appease my neighbours 20 metres away. So you’re a better person than me, OP!

Yes, they’ve put up with 6 months of work during lockdown. Such is life. I lived with major works happening on both sides of a terraced house during lockdown in March and was still nice even though it was horrendous for me for months and months on end.

I’d be saying no, sorry that doesn’t work for me. I’ve been happy to put lots of nice plants in the window sill and come spring you won’t be able to see for the greenery.

Pity thats all they have to worry about during this crazy time isnt it OP?!Top marks too for diagram! My solution to your problem .."Sit down Clive and Betty and calm yourselves its in hand."..then ignore!

@LondonStone

I’m generally a nice person and I’ve always been really friendly with neighbours etc. but I absolutely wouldn’t be putting frosting over my lovely new kitchen window to appease my neighbours 20 metres away. So you’re a better person than me, OP!

Yes, they’ve put up with 6 months of work during lockdown. Such is life. I lived with major works happening on both sides of a terraced house during lockdown in March and was still nice even though it was horrendous for me for months and months on end.

I’d be saying no, sorry that doesn’t work for me. I’ve been happy to put lots of nice plants in the window sill and come spring you won’t be able to see for the greenery.

You do realise they’re perfectly within their rights to put a fence over the window??

@wewereliars

OP You and your friends sound absolutely horrible.

What friends, sorry?

Frankly I'd stop pandering to them. Don't frost your window and put whatever you want on your windowsill.

Looking at the diagram they've no grounds for complaint.

If they don't want to see your kitchen then it's incumbent on them to resolve the issue by putting up garden fencing/trellis/planting.

It's been passed by planing and on that basis is "passed" the test of their privacy being invaded.

You can't reason with unreasonable people so there is no point trying. All that happens is it gives them a green light to make more silly demands.

If they bring it up again tell them they have to option to resolve the issue by the means mentioned above should they wish to do so.

So your window overlooks straight into their garden. Is there anything to stop them putting a fence right in front of your window?

Please stick up a picture of a massive pair of porno tits. With flashing lights.

Fuck knows what he meant when he said ‘ I’ll take matters into my own hands’, and I don’t want to find out!! My other neighbour told me mad neighbour once tried to punch her husband over something to do with the driveway so the film is definitely the wisest option!

@P999

Please stick up a picture of a massive pair of porno tits. With flashing lights.

Okay? I’m really not sure what this means. The neighbour is within their rights to put a fence over OP’s window? Or over their own window?

I’m not trying to be antagonistic and there are nice ways to word things but I still wouldn’t be covering my window for neighbours 20 meters away past a driveway, a pergola, and a patio.

Tell them to social distance from you forever! Who do they think they are telling you what to do? I’m angry now too!

If you look at the diagram a driveway separates the kitchen window from the neighbours garden.

If they put a fence up directly outside the window the OP would have good grounds to have it removed for blocking light to window that has passed planning permission.

They could reasonably put up fencing/trellis/planting on their garden side of the drive and if the issues bothered me as much as it does them, that's what I'd do.

Why are they looking?
I really don't understand how they can complain about seeing in another person's window. They shouldn't be looking.

Can I make a request OP...I genuinely think that every time you do the washing up you open the window and have the neighbours theme tune playing! You know to make em feel special!!!

@LondonStone

Okay? I’m really not sure what this means. The neighbour is within their rights to put a fence over OP’s window? Or over their own window?

I’m not trying to be antagonistic and there are nice ways to word things but I still wouldn’t be covering my window for neighbours 20 meters away past a driveway, a pergola, and a patio.

The window is on their boundary, if they don’t want next door looking into their garden they can erect a fence on their boundary, or plants or a shed whatever they want thus blocking the window. It’s unusual to put glass, especially clear glass right on your boundary as you have no control of what’s on the other side of it. Houses are generally build with a gap between the window and boundary or with a solid wall on the boundary for this reason

@DeRigueurMortis

If you look at the diagram a driveway separates the kitchen window from the neighbours garden.

If they put a fence up directly outside the window the OP would have good grounds to have it removed for blocking light to window that has passed planning permission.

They could reasonably put up fencing/trellis/planting on their garden side of the drive and if the issues bothered me as much as it does them, that's what I'd do.

No they wouldn’t, right to light doesn’t kick in for 20 years and in most modern houses the deeds say you don’t have any right to light

If the issue is that they can see you but you can't see them why don't they put film on their bloody windows

Tbf I would be a bit fed up too if the window on your extension meant i had a loss of privacy ,which from your diagram it looks like it overlooks their seating area. However, assuming it was built within planning regs then if I was the neighbour I'd be putting up trellis, climbing plants, hedging etc to regain my privacy. Its not up to you to put frosted windows up unless specified by planning department.

You've subjected them to a 6 month build during lockdown. They hate you OP.

Probably!

A neighbour opposite side a complete refurb from Feb - Nov. Obvs they lived elsewhere but the noise & disruption was mindblowing largely because everyone was wfh. Neighbours on one side of them ending up fleeing & renting their house out. Neighbours on other side hate them, actually most of the street do.

But yes if they don't like the view their issue.

Could they put up a fence?