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BogRollBOGOF · 2021-01-28T22:10:34+00:00

Welcome in ADs. Snuggle up hygge-style 'cause there ain't much going on out there for a while... except rain. I haven't got a pussy of my own for gratuitous showing off, so I shall pretend to be Dr Evil with Mr Biggleswade [grin] Link to previous thread: [[https://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/4138531-ADs-and-their-pampered-poodles?pg=40]]

Bollss · 06/02/2021 22:45

@mightbealittlebitmad

Is anybody else kind of forgetting how life used to be? It feels like so long ago that I was able to do simple things like go to the gym or for a drink with a friend. I don't want this life to begin to feel normal!

Yep :(

DWPmisery1972 · 06/02/2021 23:15

My bubble is coming to stay with me week after next as I need some help after my injury - if we are stopped in the car I’m going to go positively ape shit. Will Carry my discharge notes with me to prove. Also I am so annoyed that people don’t get that there isn’t a distance restriction on how far your bubble can be. I’m a single parent but my bubble lives 100 miles away. I have no parents and no grandparents so my bubble is... my bubble. I need help as I can’t keep it up doing all this on my own forever, and also we have the court case for the assault against me by my husband and my bubble is a witness in the trial so 🤷🏻‍♀️

DWPmisery1972 · 06/02/2021 23:18

Someone should have warned us that you can catch covid driving next to other cars on the motorway 🤨

DWPmisery1972 · 06/02/2021 23:22

Sorry, I’m just in such a bad mood. Their rules are bullshit. A nurse even said to me when I explained my bubble ‘well that’s not really lockdown Is it?’ Well acrually it is because I’m a single parent with no family and no friends so my partner is my only source of help and I’m unsble to fucking walk so shut up you daft mare. THERE IS NO DISTANCE RESTRICTIONS ON YOUR BUBBLE,ONLY GUIDANCE.
phew. Feel better now.

justasking111 · 06/02/2021 23:25

Nurses can be as stupidly uninformed as the general population I worked out over the years. @DWPmisery1972

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BogRollBOGOF · 06/02/2021 23:29

Human contact is so important.
If you're in a car, the distance of a bubble makes no difference.

I just want to know what the weather id plotting sonI can make palns for the DC's social sanity. We're in a borderline place for snow. 3 miles north or 3 miles sourh and the weather can be very different.
Numerous times. DH has surprised colleagues with the amount of snow on the car... he lives 3 miles away from the office!

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DWPmisery1972 · 06/02/2021 23:30

just it ended with me having a panic attack In the middle of the waiting room becuase she was shouting at me that ‘we have genuinely sick people in here’ and I was i agony not even being able to sit so I just crouched down and panicked and cried and she just walked off. It was awful.

The hospital I was treated at in the end, the nurses and HCAs were honestly amazing and I could cry and how brilliant they were and how they looked after me. I am so grateful. I have sent a letter to the ward to say thank you

DWPmisery1972 · 06/02/2021 23:30

If you're in a car, the distance of a bubble makes no difference

^^ precisely.

DWPmisery1972 · 06/02/2021 23:32

Bog I feel so guilty not Being able to take the kids out- they are bursting with energy but I can’t walk more than a few feet at the moment :( I feel awful. Poor kids.

NeedWineNow · 06/02/2021 23:34

We went to see my mum today and we are her bubble. We've not seen her since before Christmas and it was so lovely to just sit and chat. We were itching for an over officious policeman to stop us but we didn't see any on the road. No doubt some people would be frothing at the mouth to us having the temerity to leave our village but c'est last vie..

We've just sat and binge watched the last 3 episodes of It's a Sin. Tears from us both - we feel absolutely drained now.

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BogRollBOGOF · 07/02/2021 00:26

@DWPmisery1972

Bog I feel so guilty not Being able to take the kids out- they are bursting with energy but I can’t walk more than a few feet at the moment :( I feel awful. Poor kids.

Any friends able to get them out?

I've started claiming DS1's friend to take them into the park. At 9 & 10 they're fine to charge around with a light eye on them so I think it's fair to claim it's exercise with a friend and i keep an eye on them. It's good to get them out seperately anyway.

Obviously harder if they're younger and need a much closer eye.

Sounds like a sensible support need to me anyway.

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chocolatesweets · 07/02/2021 08:23

I've been angry up until about 2 weeks ago. Debating whether or not lockdown was essential.

I've accepted it now and I just feel deeply hurt.

Part of me is trying to solve the problem. I look back on my life and I try and work out what went wrong.

We're on 1 income and although we aren't on universal credit - some of my friends are well off and have well paying jobs. It makes me feel like a loser and I feel guilty. My kids deserve better. My friends don't have kids and have been able to profit from this lockdown. Save money, do the house up, work from home.

DWPmisery1972 · 07/02/2021 08:28

Any friends able to get them out?

I have no one close by hence bubble coming down

They’re 4 and 5 and the 4 year old is a runner, and I wouldn’t even be able to sit on a park bench so I need someone that can actually go around with them IYSWIM

It’s only a week, they’ll survive. And they’re going to their dads invetween time so they’ll get run arounds with him.

I never made friends and I have no mum or dad or grandparents so I’m a bit stuck help wise, hence the bubble rant yesterday 😂🧡😂

DWPmisery1972 · 07/02/2021 08:29

We moved when we had kids. It’s my fault really. And my ex was abusive so I wasn’t allowed out anyway. I’m quite alone here apart from the really lovely help from the people from my church for practical bits. Oh I don’t know.

LivinLaVidaLoki · 07/02/2021 08:45

The worry I have is that when this ends and infections go up these people will panic and demand more lockdown. However, the vaccination stops it becoming a serious illness, so does it matter if 20k people a day are getting it then, if they're not getting ill? Does that make sense?

DWPmisery1972 · 07/02/2021 08:48

I agree livin, surely it will have to be treated like any other seasonal flu

I see death numbers are slowly going down, good news, looks like we could be out of the worst of it. Case numbers are back to roughly October levels which looks good too.

TooManyPlatesInMotion · 07/02/2021 08:50

I agree Nanny young people, especially students, are being demonised at a time when their lives and futures are being destroyed. It is genuinely hateful.

My DS (10) is going to see his friend today. We tend to walk them round parks and they kick a ball around. Not today. They have both had tearful weeks of remote learning, they are struggling. We have agreed they can meet at his friend's flat for some hot choc and a film. I haven't seen him this excited and grateful for months. I could cry. A 10 year old boy should not feel grateful for the chance to see a friend. I am bloody glad we are doing it.

DWPmisery1972 · 07/02/2021 08:52

Plates I hope he has fun- you know what it’s been nearly a year and sod this crap- youve obviously done your due diligence here and I hope he has a lovely time 🧡

Bollss · 07/02/2021 09:01

@LivinLaVidaLoki

The worry I have is that when this ends and infections go up these people will panic and demand more lockdown. However, the vaccination stops it becoming a serious illness, so does it matter if 20k people a day are getting it then, if they're not getting ill? Does that make sense?

Yep I've asked this a few times "over there" and nobody has ever answered me, because it doesn't matter does it!

mightbealittlebitmad · 07/02/2021 09:02

I'm sick and tired of this life now. I barely have any help with the kids anymore since my husband moved out. He can't have them at his friends so he has to come here and I have to go out. I just want to spend a day alone in bed with nothing else to do, nobody to feed, no crying children because they can't play nicely.

He's still piling on the emotional pressure, making me feel guilty and that if he just moved back in I could have his help with the kids.

It's still at least 4 weeks until the schools reopen, another 4 weeks of groundhog day where I face yet another day of a moody 5 year old.

I'm living in this stupid limbo until I find out if my application for UC is successful because if he moves out into a proper rental I can't afford the mortgage. No idea when I find out, I only applied a week ago.

I'm just sick of it all now, I will end up having a breakdown soon.

TooManyPlatesInMotion · 07/02/2021 09:06

@DWPmisery1972 thank you, he is so excited. Keeps calculating how many min utes to go! Yes, both my DS and his friend will only see each other f2f and indoors, it isn't an arrangement that I or his friend's mum will duplicate with other kids too. I guess they will be their own support bubble.

For all the technology, zooming, calls etc, kids need to see children their own age f2f.

He was crying and hugging me with relief and gratitude (v uncommon!!) and keeps telling me what a great mum I am (also v uncommon). It makes me feel a bit sick. He shouldn't have to feel grateful for social contact.

DrRamsesEmerson · 07/02/2021 09:20

@TooManyPlatesInMotion, well done for giving your DS what he needs. I would do likewise for DD but her friends’ parents are all very dementory, so I daren’t suggest it.

I bitterly regret having DD. If I could possibly have known that I wouldn’t be able to give her basic necessities like the company of other children and a proper education, I never would have had her, and then this lockdown would have been boring and lonely and miserable but at least I wouldn’t have the guilt of knowing it’s fucking her up for life. And if I didn’t have her at least I would have the option of suicide if it turns out this is going to be life forever now.

TooManyPlatesInMotion · 07/02/2021 09:24

@drramsesemerson it is hard to predict how another parent will respond to the idea. I know this mum pretty well and we can kind of asking each other some fairly leading questions before I took the plunge. Her response was one of total relief!

This won't last forever. It won't. You and your DD will get through this. We all will. And in the interim, at least we get to come here!

110APiccadilly · 07/02/2021 09:53

@DWPmisery1972

We moved when we had kids. It’s my fault really. And my ex was abusive so I wasn’t allowed out anyway. I’m quite alone here apart from the really lovely help from the people from my church for practical bits. Oh I don’t know.

Don't suppose there's anyone from your church who could take the kids out for a bit? I'd do that if someone from church asked. And I think it's legal - two over fives and one under five!

DWPmisery1972 · 07/02/2021 10:12

11 the church are being really strict as we have had quite a few deaths in the congregation so they haven’t opened up since March- ive has no contact with anyone from the church other than on my doorstep :/ it would be lovely though.

Dr please don’t feel guilty- none of this is your fault; and it will end. I’m so sorry you feel that way, lots of hugs for you. If you lived near me I’d gladly break the rules and let our kids play outside together for a bit (although I’d have to stand for the entire affair 😂) - she will get through this and so will you. Kids have been forgotten through this and I don’t even think the government will have to own up to their failures re our kids generation. It’s a disgrace. and it’s is NOT your fault my love. X