Poor, poor woman

[Mookie81]

Complete lack of support and nowhere to turn.
A terrible deed but I feel so sorry for her.
And where the fuck was her ex? Living in Spain while she was driven to despair.

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-9186243/Olga-Freemans-friends-reveal-agony-trapped-flat-son-loved-dearly.html

@CaramelCandle

Probably in the minority but no. I feel sorry for that poor boy killed by the one person he should have been able to trust.

Why shouldn’t he have been able to trust his father?

[quote WitchesNest]@HallowedGround I’ve not snapped and murdered my children. I’m trapped in a tiny flat with 3 of them, one who has additional needs and the other two who are every bit as demanding. I’ve no help or support from friends, family and have been through several of my own mental health crisis in the last 10 years. But I’ve still not murdered my children.[/quote]
You haven't snapped YET..!! Everyone has a breaking point, just pray you don't reach yours.

This covid situation is mentally destroying thousands of people. Don't judge because it might be you soon.

What happened to this poor boy is horrific, but the mother also deserves sympathy because she has been so badly let down by her family and this country and now her beautiful boy is dead.

Such a heartbreaking situation.

If I was her I would have been desperately worried anyway about what quality of life that poor boy would have as he gets older if his sight was going on top of everything else. It wouldn't have been hard to tip me over I suspect.

When the news first broke this was exactly the tragic background story I thought it would be.

In light of Katie's doc as well, fuck rich men who completely abandon their disabled sons. Obviously that didn't fit into his jet setting lifestyle

Jesus wept! Some of the comments here.

The poor boy. But also poor woman. It's entirely possible to pity both of them.

But it's OK, his dad has a tattoo and memories of art galleries...

Poor, poor Dylan.

Can anyone imagine how desperate she must have been?

This poor woman was failed by the state, who didn't provide support for those MOST in need.

She was failed by the father of her child for leaving her to manage their son alone.

She was failed by the woeful mental health provision in the U.K.

We should all feel sorry for them BOTH.

No one is making excuses, a humane approach is to understand the psychotic episode and severe MH deterioration the mum experienced. As a result of a mental health crisis and external stressors her actions were out of character and she killed her son.

Stress
Sleep deprivation
Psychotic episode
Disrupted routine
..All contributory factors that unfortunately co-aligned with catastrophic results

@CaramelCandle

Probably in the minority but no. I feel sorry for that poor boy killed by the one person he should have been able to trust.

A woman who was experiencing a severe psychotic episode at the time, with very little support for her severely disabled son, but hey, you feel free to stick the knife in to her. Both mother and son are victims of decisions made by this government.

@WitchesNest I hope you are receiving help for your feelings of suicide and that you are being listened to.
I'm in Ireland in another complete lockdown with a disabled child and no family support. No school, no respite, no therapies and no support. I can completely see how someone can break. That's not saying I agree with what she did but I have empathy enough to see how it got to this point. No doubt the council will wring their hands and say lessons have been learned and the absent father will get sympathy.

This is so unbelievably sad. How is out system such a horrific failure that these things can happen?

I don't agree with those blaming the father to be honest. Yes he left, but he can't be charged for doing that.

[quote WitchesNest]@HallowedGround I’ve not snapped and murdered my children. I’m trapped in a tiny flat with 3 of them, one who has additional needs and the other two who are every bit as demanding. I’ve no help or support from friends, family and have been through several of my own mental health crisis in the last 10 years. But I’ve still not murdered my children.[/quote]
In that case you're very lucky. Surely you can at least try to empathise with someone who has suffered from a severe psychosis?
No one should have to manage their disabled children with no support, not you, not anyone. I’m pleased that you're coping, not everyone can.

Very haunting story
Really upset me

@pumpkinsoups

What a nasty thread, do we have to be so horrible about another person ?

Hear hear

You're not suffering from psychosis @WitchesNest. There are different types of mental illness. She probably was not fully aware of her actions.

I thought the same where was his father.... ah yes fucked off to Spain leaving her to cope (or not) on her own. Terrible all round.

Poor woman, and her poor son.

This woman is clearly not any sort of psychopath or sociopath.

It’s simplistic and lazy to label others as ‘evil’ or ‘monsters’. It others them and allows us to think there is something different about them and we could never do something like that. We could- any of us could. Humans are complex and fallible.

Two adults were responsible for caring for this child. Both of them should be charged.

[quote LadyWhistledownthe1st]@GreenlandTheMovie I’m not aware they were. I have 2 disabled children and none of their support services have stopped since March 2020[/quote]
Many have though. My local special school closed in March and didn't reopen til September. Now only a very few children are in school there, most staff are WFH. The most severely disabled children are not in as they’re high risk.