ADs and their pampered poodles

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Here we are again, gaining sequels even more rapidly than the Fast and the Furious...

99% is certainly not worrying of its own accord. There's many ways that you can feel like crap though!

I suppose I'd better try and inflict some English upon my feral beasties...

@110APiccadilly

I also don't object to people having an oxymeter! Just didn't think many people would - but I may well be hugely out of touch in these matters.

Used to have one on my phone... I only bought a thermometer at the start of covid so I could check the kids weren't going to get turned away from school

Have just had the most humiliating time. Had to chase DS down the street in my dressing gown.

After which he kicked me and pulled my hair. Consequence is deletion of Pokémon Go off my phone

It all sucks

Sorry ISaySteadyOn that does suck. Are you safe - is he going to hurt you some more? I hope that he doesn't attack you anymore and I hope if any neighbours saw it they were sympathetic. I would be if I had seen that. I really hope today improves a lot for you

He's 6 so I am fine. Just mortified. And the kicking was at least inside so no one saw that.

And he has calmed down.

@ISaySteadyOn nothing but sympathy here.

I just want to cry. And I keep thinking I must be a terrible mother if he wants to run away. But I am parenting with nothing. And they're all fed and living which is the best I can do.

@ISaySteadyOn I am sorry . If I witnessed that I would have nothing but sympathy and would want to invite you in for a cuppa. Will you be able to have a more reasonable chat with him when he calms down?

Someone told me once almost all children either run away or threaten or plan to at some point. It certainly doesn't mean you're a bad mum.

You are NOT a bad mum. I had wonderful parents and I packed a bag and "ran away" to the local woods when I was about 8! I think I came back once I'd eaten the apples I'd brought with me and got bored of sitting on the ground.

Everything is crap at the moment. That is NOT your fault and it's certainly not down to your parenting.

Can you get any extra support from school? I contacted my dd's primary about her yesterday and got a lot of support back. She's six too - they are hard work sometimes.

@ISaySteadyOn I used to run away from home on a practically daily basis at that age. Usually for the most ridiculous reasons, one memorable one where my mum refused to let me put caterpillars in the fridge when I thought it was too hot for them in the garden. An hour or so sat on my own in the coal shed was about as far as I got.

You’d have got nothing but sympathy from me either.

@ISaySteadyOn

I just want to cry. And I keep thinking I must be a terrible mother if he wants to run away. But I am parenting with nothing. And they're all fed and living which is the best I can do.

I'm so sorry for you, that would have absolutely been me and my ds. We has enough battles over homework in ordinary times. I know it's awful now, but when he's grown up you will be able to laugh with him and tell his kids you had to chase the little sod down the street in you dressing gown. I've saved ds school report that says if he put as much effort into Geography as being the class clown he would be top of the class

My middle DS packed a rucksack with tinned food and ran away I followed him from a safe distance, when he turned around so did I. He walked in the door and asked for a tin opener. I had to keep a straight face.

We have always kept a thermometer here. One night DIL phoned in a panic did I have one, yep so took it round. Bought another one. She phoned again months later had lost it did I have one, yep so took it round. Am now on my third waiting for the phone to ring again lol

Thanks. We all calmed down and we made our own traditional afternoon tea complete with cucumber sandwiches.

He is a good lad really. And he has a sweet little song that he sings to me when he is in a good mood. I am in a playground with them and he is conversing with his sisters.

Thank you for the stories and reassurance. I will definitely hold it in reserve.

Try not to feel bad. I have the best parents* in the world and I was always planning or running away. I think it’s a normal childhood behaviour regardless of parenting.

• sorry to everyone that thinks they have the best parents. It is me, I drew the golden ticket. They are mine. I feel so sorry for everyone that has to give a fake ‘best mum’ or ‘best dad’ card knowing that wgc from mumsnet actually is that person who actually does have the best parents in the world.

I spent over an hour this morning sorting out herb and spice racks, OH has a habit of rebuying stuff we already have, so I checked dates, washed, sniffed for freshness, two big herb/spice racks near to cooker so get greasy. Three cinnamon bottles, so AIBU to demand OH makes some of his fabulous cinnamon scones????

Have name changed but regular. Sorry for everyone struggling today it's crap. I'm doing Uni work waiting for NS to drop the axe on school closures again 😢

Ps the Facebook group? Has it gone I went to post and can't find it.

@ISaySteadyOn I like the sound of the cucumber sandwiches, how vair, vair civilised

I ran away when I was seven because my new teacher had a big beard and I was afraid of beards, and one morning I tried to 'escape' before my parents could take me to school.

YANBU. He had better.

@justasking111

I spent over an hour this morning sorting out herb and spice racks, OH has a habit of rebuying stuff we already have, so I checked dates, washed, sniffed for freshness, two big herb/spice racks near to cooker so get greasy. Three cinnamon bottles, so AIBU to demand OH makes some of his fabulous cinnamon scones????

You are totally U, unless of course you send some to the Vimes household. Then it's fine.

ISaySteadyOn as a mum of 2 boys, the best bit of advice I was ever given was----never stop hugging them. However much they pull away just envelope them in the tightest hug you can and tell them you love them. My eldest was a non-hugger but i persisted and it really did help to reason with him - the phrase " I love you dearly and always will but they way you are behaving right now makes me not like you very much" may or may not have been said on more than one occasion. He's 25 this year and actually comes to me for hugs sometimes!!!

Isaysteady on, try not to be too self critical.
On speaking to my friends, all of us have at least one child we're worried about and most of us are in the new position of having concerns about them all at the same time.

Hugs are always good. There are plenty of hugs in our family. Lots going on now in fact 🙂