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BogRollBOGOF · 17/01/2021 13:02

Here we are again, gaining sequels even more rapidly than the Fast and the Furious...

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ElizabethG81 · 26/01/2021 17:55

@justasking111

One headteacher has been frank in a polite way shared on Facebook
How rude, and it should be pointed out to her that not all of those meetings with family, friends and neighbours will have been "against the law" and some will have been in perfectly legal situations. I'd be fuming if this was sent from my children's school.
letsgomaths · 26/01/2021 18:08

At least some other headmistresses have the right idea. I'm doing a job of tutoring pupils who god behind because of lockdown: and in November, I was doing this actually in the school (now online). At my interview, I asked if there were restrictions imposed by the school on my own activities, as well as government guidance: the head told me no, none at all; I can do anything that is within government guidance.

That headmistress's email will have a very unfortunate side-effect: parents whispering to children "don't talk at school about what we do at home".

chocolatesweets · 26/01/2021 18:14

"We sympathise and feel for you." Hmm , debatable.

ElizabethG81 · 26/01/2021 18:18

@chocolatesweets

"We sympathise and feel for you." Hmm , debatable.
"But we don't want your germ ridden children here."
110APiccadilly · 26/01/2021 18:34

Even in Wales, there are a few situations where you are allowed to see another human. (Thankfully, they've finally, if begrudgingly, put something in the guidance about parents of newborns being able to have support.) So unless the school want to try unpicking each individual situation (and if they've got time for that, they're not doing enough teaching!) they're going to find themselves in trouble.

NannyGythaOgg · 26/01/2021 18:42

Someone wants to write back about kids telling parents about her staff not social distancing with each other in school (as we all know teachers pass it between each other more than they catch if from the kids) or seeing teachers out and about with other people. No names and then there can be no - 'prove it'. And I am damn sure some do.

CruCru · 26/01/2021 18:56

Re people using “@“ to get you to come back - change your settings so you don’t get an email notification when someone does that. I am happy to go on MN but if I am busy doing something else, I don’t want to be summoned back by someone wanting a fight.

110APiccadilly · 26/01/2021 19:39

Also, is it just me that gets slightly Nazi Germany/ North Korea vibes from the idea of your children reporting you to their teachers?

ISaySteadyOn · 26/01/2021 19:42

Not just you.

smallandimperfectlyformed · 26/01/2021 19:58

I have just read the saddest thing ever - children under 15 in the Philippines haven't been allowed outside for 10 months! They were supposed to be letting 10-14 year olds out from Friday but the new variant means that they are going to have to stay home and watch TV instead (it's on the BBC website, don't know how to link). Shocking- I don't know anyone Filipino and I don't normally check the Asian news but I was just looking up about Boris Johnson's speech. Those poor, poor children (and considering it is quite a poor country in parts I doubt they are getting the online schooling that the kids in the West are). I know I can't do anything about it but my heart breaks- how is that ever justifiable?

ISaySteadyOn · 26/01/2021 20:09

It isn't. That is absolutely appalling. No virus is worth that and I would stake my life on it.

ElizabethG81 · 26/01/2021 20:18

Was it on this thread or another one today where I read the phrase "we're not saving lives, we're trading lives"? I think it's so true, you can't save lives in a pandemic, you can only trade them. The government's fixated on the number of Covid deaths as it's the most measurable outcome, and they'll just try to fudge everything else.

Curlygirl06 · 26/01/2021 20:22

@TrustTheGeneGenie any joy with shaking your ds awake?

Haleliwia · 26/01/2021 20:29

@110APiccadilly

Also, is it just me that gets slightly Nazi Germany/ North Korea vibes from the idea of your children reporting you to their teachers?
That's exactly what my fiancé said when I told him about the post.
BogRollBOGOF · 26/01/2021 20:35

@smallandimperfectlyformed

I have just read the saddest thing ever - children under 15 in the Philippines haven't been allowed outside for 10 months! They were supposed to be letting 10-14 year olds out from Friday but the new variant means that they are going to have to stay home and watch TV instead (it's on the BBC website, don't know how to link). Shocking- I don't know anyone Filipino and I don't normally check the Asian news but I was just looking up about Boris Johnson's speech. Those poor, poor children (and considering it is quite a poor country in parts I doubt they are getting the online schooling that the kids in the West are). I know I can't do anything about it but my heart breaks- how is that ever justifiable?
Good grief Sad
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110APiccadilly · 26/01/2021 20:35

I see the NEU are engaged in a massive act of virtue signalling...

wanderings · 26/01/2021 20:43

@ElizabethG81 You're so right. It's not saving lives. It's trading lives. Making the lives of tens of millions of people extremely miserable, to save mostly those who have lived for a long time, and to massage figures.

I knew they would make massive mileage of the number 100,000. How many people is it that die in an average year, 670,000? And how many of those 100,000 are part of the extremely deliberate "once a Covid, always a Covid" (for 28 days anyway)? This statistic is being used as a distraction from the 55,000,000 who are now living an extremely miserable existence, thanks to Saint Boris's lockdown.

Saint Boris is "deeply sorry for those 100,000 deaths, and takes full responsibility for the government's handling of the pandemic". Like hell he does. He won't take responsibility for the tens of millions of people living - he'll resign before it's time to think about them.

CoffeeWithCheese · 26/01/2021 20:44

@110APiccadilly

Also, is it just me that gets slightly Nazi Germany/ North Korea vibes from the idea of your children reporting you to their teachers?
I would be fucked with DD1 - the child has no filter between brain and gob so everyone always knows my business.
BogRollBOGOF · 26/01/2021 20:54

@ElizabethG81

Was it on this thread or another one today where I read the phrase "we're not saving lives, we're trading lives"? I think it's so true, you can't save lives in a pandemic, you can only trade them. The government's fixated on the number of Covid deaths as it's the most measurable outcome, and they'll just try to fudge everything else.
It was on another. I remember making a similar point probably last summer when I had more fight in me for debate, and described it as trading off young lives for older lives. There were fewer ranges of opinion avaliable at that point...

It's like anything involving time travel, tweak one thing, and events will unfold differently. In the spring a teenager was killed riding his bike on a main road (while they were still very quiet). He was probably there at that moment because of lockdown.
Some accidental deaths won't have occured.
Less random people wounded or killed in street fights.
But that's countered by aggravated domestic abuse, declines in mental health (and associated physical health)
It's all just moving pieces around on the game of life.

What I would love to know is what percentage of "Covid deaths" were highly likely in the short term. How many were highly suceptible to the next unpleasant infection? We don't balk at flu deaths, and the usual winter peak about now. ONS data shows massive plummets in the usual categories of death.

We're also currently struggling with a backlog of hospital care that built up in the spring and summer and has now reached the point that people are being admitted to hospital with conditions that could have been treated or at least monitored at an earlier stage. (My dad went into denial about the state of his heart, despite his history, finally gave in to DM about going to the doctors,, saw the GP, downplayed and died in the street 8 hours later of heart faliure- many years ago, but some people really don't need much excuse!)

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BogRollBOGOF · 26/01/2021 20:56

@110APiccadilly

I see the NEU are engaged in a massive act of virtue signalling...
I'm not putting my hands in my pocket to the union that I would not pay subs to, to bail them out on a PR stunt for a problem that they have aggravated!
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DWPmisery1972 · 26/01/2021 21:02

I’m embarrassed to say that ‘lockdown’ (sorry hate that word) has brought back my eating disorder(S). Ana, Mia, and laxative abuse. The last 3 months I’ve dropped so much weight and people are commenting and it’s giving me extreme anxiety. It’s a vicious cycle of anxiety that people are looking at my body, so I don’t eat, or vomit, or use laxatives, and then the cycle repeats. I’m so embarrassed; I’m a parent, I hold down a job in the community but I feel like I’m losing control over it as I did years ago.

I finally plucked up the courage to speak to my GP today and all they could tell me was ‘there’s not much we can do for an eating disorder’ and so I just give up. I will deal with it myself. Sorry for the vent, I’m just exhausted and frightened (and anxious) and just don’t know where to turn. The cruel irony is that the local eating disorder organisation requires a referral from GP and she refused to give me one, so I’m basically screwed. Oh well.

Sorry for going on. Seeing ‘we won’t be back to normal until autumn’ and all the other scaremongering is just making me feel worse, I just want to crawl up into a ball.

DWPmisery1972 · 26/01/2021 21:04

Bog

What I would love to know is what percentage of "Covid deaths" were highly likely in the short term. How many were highly suceptible to the next unpleasant infection? We don't balk at flu deaths, and the usual winter peak about now. ONS data shows massive plummets in the usual categories of death.

This is the question that rolls round and round in my head. No one has a National outcry over flu or cancer deaths... but this? Horrendous! Lock everyone away!

smallandimperfectlyformed · 26/01/2021 21:10

DWPmisery1972 I am so sorry that you are not receiving adequate support. I have very very little knowledge or understanding of eating disorders but I know that they are hard things to go through. You don't have to apologise for going on, if you are struggling then talk here. We may not be able to do very much other than listen but I hope knowing that a faceless stranger tapping away at her phone screen genuinely cares that you are struggling helps a little bit. Flowers

DWPmisery1972 · 26/01/2021 21:15

Honestly just getting it out makes me feel better. I have no family (my mother and father are alive but we’re abusive to me as a child so I have nothing to do with them), no extended family that I speak to or that I’m close to, no friends close by, just me and my children. I have a boyfriend but he lives 130 miles away- I do drive to see him (and the other way round) as we consider ourselves a bubble despite living so far apart. Thank you for listening, really. Brew

DWPmisery1972 · 26/01/2021 21:16

(To clarify my children were with my STBEXH, so he loves to cause me trouble wherever he can also.)

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