What do you silently judge people for?

[Shandan35]

I would say
Talking on public transport , wish they would be quiet.

@ginghamstarfish

Let's face it, don't we all silently judge others?

It's one thing silently judging. Fleeting thoughts can be difficult to control.

It's another thing vocalising those thoughts on a thread so everyone knows how mean spirited they are. It's called having a social filter and reigning it in, keeping it under control.

Rudeness on roads, particularly drivers on wrong side of the road not saying thanks when you give way to them

@MessAllOver

Judging others and tut-tutting. I think, "haven't you got anything else going on in your life?"

Then I remember that judging others might be the one thing that's giving them the sense of fulfilment and superiority they need to get through their day... and I feel guilty for judging them. We all need to get our highs somehow. I prefer chocolate myself.

Ohhh just a teensy bit of judging pleeease, can we at least have ‘Live Love Laugh’ to hate 😊

I don’t know why but people go down in my estimation if they have a poor grasp of geography.

Long garish painted nails

It's called having a social filter and reigning it in, keeping it under control.

That’s why people don’t really voice it irl though - saying it on an anonymous forum is harmless. And quite a few of these judgements apply to me! If we didn’t vent sometimes we’d explode!

Michael Kors handbags

@AiryFairyMum

Chair covers at weddings.

THIS ! I hate it. It looks just so "faux" posh - the sort of thing that someone expects in a "classy" wedding

Though, all of that said, I do wonder if people hiring wedding venues out do it to save on constantly replacing food/wine/beer/coffee stained chair upholstery.

People who post their life (or the fake life they want to present to they world) on Facebook all the time

@MellowYellow101 no definitely not, I did for a couple of months 2 years ago but didn’t stick with it, my DM did though and is still going and I promise she doesn’t say anything to anyone. Some vegans are so hardcore though, I got told I supported animal abuse on this very forum because I said I’d let my kids bash a piniata!

The word hubby
Any parent that calls their child bestie

Those who think coconut oil is the answer to all of life's problems. As in
'. Bad eczema- cover yourself in coconut oil'
'Want healthy gums- swish coconut oil in there'
'Want to dump butter- use coconut oil instead'
' you have acne?' Wash and moisturise your face with coconut oil'
The list goes on and on....

Boss girls on Instagram who don't even work

People with dogs using foodbanks.
They could buy food for the family if they didn't buy dog food.
Or, kill 2 birds with one stone......

Anyone who uses the word “myself” unnecessarily.

Even my dc’s amazing teacher did it today. Am I fighting a losing battle? I feel like everyone does it now, and I’m getting ever so judgy.

Adults who read Harry Potter and will talk about it as though it's a sophisticated choice of intelligent literature that's aimed at them. I will happily enjoy a bit of Enid Blyton or similar from time to time, but I acknowledge that it's a bit of lighthearted nostalgia on my part and don't expect other adults to be impressed by my lofty literary levels.

People who swear as punctuation. There's nothing wrong with a well-chosen strong word or two to make your point in appropriate company and circumstances, but it makes you sound really stupid when every second word that comes out of your mouth in standard everyday speech is a nonsensical sweary 'adjective' and you don't even realise that you're doing it. I feel similar about people who do it with the word 'like', but at least that's just irritating and not an offensive word in itself.

People who think it clever and hilarious to regularly drink so much alcohol - even plan to do so in advance - that they're unable to remain continent or remember anything of what happened the following morning and are essentially relying on friends, strangers, emergency services or whoever to get them home to bed and keep them alive. Even more so the ones who do this and boast about it all week, waiting for people to be impressed by their inability to understand the effects of alcohol and to consume it sensibly.

Parents who don't control their small children in shops/supermarkets etc, and let them rush up and down, picking sweets and chocs and junk food off the shelves, and even opening a packet, and eating something before purchased.

Brand names on clothing. Why do you wish to announce to the world that you're an insecure, unpaid walking advertisement for Superdry?

People who allow their kids to run around, continually bang cutlery on the table, or otherwise piss everyone else off in restaurants.

People who don't turn off the television when they have visitors.

Lockdown puppy and kitten buyers. See you in the vets with your sick, badly bred pet, or at the unwanted animal shelter in a couple of months guys.

People who clap the NHS. This constituency voted in a Tory for the first time ever last year. Applying the law of averages some of the clappers must have voted for the party which has consistently starved the health service of funds. Hypocritical fucking Tory performing seals!

People who hammer on the front door despite there being a completely visible, perfectly operative doorbell upon said door. It seems to be a 'thing' where I now live. One day I'm going to act all out of character, open the door and scream "Use the poxy bell next time, you twat"!
Until then I'll continue to judge, silently. And seethe. Lots.

@NobodyPuttsBabyinCorner

Everything

I can usually nail someone's persona and interests by way they present themselves. It makes everything impossible to avoid judging!

But if you want specifics, people who:

Drive an SUV
Own a hot tub
Think they've 'visited' a country despite never leaving an all-inclusive resort
Gin drinkers
Display even the tiniest interest in reality tv
People with zero knowledge of the world, history, science etc
Brexit voters
Conservatives
Posting endless updates on Fb of all the 'must be seen' places they've been
Thinking 'gardening' is paving over the entire garden with slabs/astro turf
Mongrel (sorry 'pedigree') owners of cockapoos, labradoodles etc
Anyone with a Live Laugh Love type motif in their home
Like football

Basically.... feckless, uneducated, closed minded, narcissistic show offs

Will you be my best friend?

@Sparrowfeeder what exactly is the proper way to bring up children?

daisychain01

ginghamstarfish
Let's face it, don't we all silently judge others?
It's one thing silently judging. Fleeting thoughts can be difficult to control.

It's another thing vocalising those thoughts on a thread so everyone knows how mean spirited they are. It's called having a social filter and reigning it in, keeping it under control

Is a social filter necessary on an anonymous forum?

If it's not for you, it's not for you. My sister in law has been vegan for years and her 3 kids are too. Her husband isn't and she still cooks meat for him every so often. We've gone out for meals where she eats what she wants and we eat what we want, no problem. She loves it and it makes her happy, but like your mum she doesn't feel the need to lecture us. Sometimes she may say a vegan diet is better for your body and thats as far as it goes. End of conversation! I think it was the nandos incident that did it for me, literally walking out and having dead animal photos shoved in my face as well as my young kids. It was awful and I personally don't see the need for it, they had costumes of dead animals on show in the middle of the day in rhe middle of town (I'm live in a town with a premier league team and they did it on a big match day knowing there would be more footfall). Another time we went on a mini Uk break and they were protesting with massive poster etc. Quite loud so got the attention of all the little ones on their family day out. Its not nice at all, I believe there are better ways to share your passion for what you believe in.

Babies in child care.
Smoking while pregnant.
Smoking in the house around kids.
Leggings and short tops.
Spitting in public.
Adults on skateboards.

Seeing little ones in buggies eating a huge Greggs pasty, or drinking a bottle of Coke. Parents bellowing at their kids in public, particularly if they swear at them (shocking). Pregnant women smoking.

@mumnowformerrockstar

Those who think coconut oil is the answer to all of life's problems. As in '. Bad eczema- cover yourself in coconut oil' 'Want healthy gums- swish coconut oil in there' 'Want to dump butter- use coconut oil instead' ' you have acne?' Wash and moisturise your face with coconut oil' The list goes on and on....

It makes a great lube... just saying 😉