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The saga continues to continue with more sequels than a trilogy of trilogies...

@Pleasedontdothat so sorry, what awful news

So sorry @Pleasedontdothat that’s terrible news. I worry so much for my lovely students.

@TrustTheGeneGenie

Come on now there's no need to be mean. I'd never even heard of the man before this kicked off let alone researched his qualifications. And let's face it, this government has a bad habit of employing people to do jobs they have 0 experience in, so it's not a far reach, really.

I’m not being mean. A quick 5 second google search easily shows he’s a consultant physician, that’s hardly researching his qualifications! Just a bit surprised that 10 months into things that the question was asked.

Anyway, apologies, as I know I said I wouldn’t post here again. Only popped back as I’d had notifications that I’d been tagged in a couple of posts. To those that tagged me, thank you, it’s appreciated. But I think it’s clear that, although I’m not a “D”, my views and frustrations are not “in-line” enough to be welcomed on here. That probably sounds snippy - it’s not meant to be, just can’t think of a better way to word it atm.

@DrDiva

So sorry *@Pleasedontdothat* that’s terrible news. I worry so much for my lovely students.

Yeah - horrid news and one reason I pushed uni to get at least a holding/you're not forgotten mail out before the weekend as our course lot had moved back to student digs and had had complete radio silence from the department. Didn't want them sat alone in their rooms over the weekend fretting away on it.

It was mean. Lots of things are googleable, questions aren't banned here.

I'm not telling you to go, and it's got nothing to do with your views being "in line" whatever the fuck that means (we aren't a hive mind we all have different opinions on lots of things) I was simply saying that comment came across as mean, and tbh there is enough shit going on without people having snidey comments directed at them as well.

@Pleasedontdothat I am really sorry to hear of your niece's friends suicide, that is really sad. Lockdowns really are awful and enforced isolation is hard.
With regards to Chris Whitty, until this pandemic happened I would probably never have heard of him as I am not involved in medical matters. I don't always agree with everything that has been decided or prescribed by the government/the scientists but I do recognize that he has an incredibly hard job to do and is far, far more qualified than I am. He was apparently working his rounds on a Covid ward at Christmas and I recently read a doctor state that he called Whitty whilst doing his rounds in the middle of the night and Whitty answered all of his questions kindly before eventually revealing that he wasn't actually the person on call that night.

@TrustTheGeneGenie

It was mean. Lots of things are googleable, questions aren't banned here.

I'm not telling you to go, and it's got nothing to do with your views being "in line" whatever the fuck that means (we aren't a hive mind we all have different opinions on lots of things) I was simply saying that comment came across as mean, and tbh there is enough shit going on without people having snidey comments directed at them as well.

Fair enough. Funny how I’ve seen a fair number of collective “mean” posts talking about people on other threads - yet none of them are pulled up on it. Anyway, I won’t derail any further.

@Pleasedontdothat I'm so sorry to hear that.

Be as mean about posters on other threads as you want, I don't care about them. If they come here wanting support, that's different. We aren't mean to eachother. Respectfully disagreeing is fine, offering a different opinion or perspective is fine. It's not hard to do that in a respectful way.

Name change but I’ve been here a while...

Having a really bad day today. I’m just tired. Tired of all this shit and watching poor DS take the brunt. He has slid under the radar in everything since birth - he was very prem but not ill, just struggling, he had a speech delay but not a language delay, he had sensory issues but doesn’t present as ASD so they don’t matter, and now, again, he doesn’t matter. No one is going to help him, no one is going to bubble for his sake, no one is going to contact him for fun, no one cares about his education. He’s an only child (not by choice) and hasn’t had a single social interaction outside school with anyone for the last 10 months. As a PP said on the last thread, if we’d murdered him on 23 March last year, I doubt anyone would still know. And DH has been on-off unwell/stressed/depressed for DS’s whole life so it’s pretty much fallen on me for 8 years. This just feels like an extension of what it’s been for so long. Just me. And I’ve run out. Work is emotionally draining and I don’t know how to get up tomorrow and face my classes.

It’s all compounded by the fact that I spent all my childhood in a religious family that wouldn’t let us go anywhere or do anything because it was all too evil. So I feel like I’ve spent most of my life in lockdown and I just can’t do it any more.

Although of course I will. I will get up tomorrow and do it all and no one (including DH) will know just how hard I am working not to spiral back into self harm and other shit. But right now, when poor DS is begging me to play with him because I am his only option, today I can’t. I’m tired of being sole playmate to a little boy. I’m tired of being the only thing between him and constant screens, but at the same time realising that screens are the only way he sees other people. I want to be his mum, not his child friend.

Ok. Now I’m ok. I’ve said it and now I can ignore it all!

@TrustTheGeneGenie

Be as mean about posters on other threads as you want, I don't care about them. If they come here wanting support, that's different. We aren't mean to eachother. Respectfully disagreeing is fine, offering a different opinion or perspective is fine. It's not hard to do that in a respectful way.

Wow - that sums up why I’m not suited for this thread. So, it’s fine for anyone here to group together and be mean about people on other threads, but a tacit agreement that you won’t pull up anyone on here. Message received loud and bloody clear.

Well yes, are all posters on mn nice to you? Because they're certainly not to me. I have every right to moan about other people who are being heartless shit heads. Nobody on this thread is being horrible, so why do you feel the need to be mean to them? I'll say it again, it's not hard to be respectful. That's all we ask.

In other news, we got a PS5 for Christmas and my husband gave me Assassins Creed Valhalla. I’m enjoying wandering around England in 873AD and have got very good at killing people with axes.

It suits my mood.

Handel that sounds really tough, it feels more difficult to bear injustices to our DCs, and it's so sad that kids aren't able to make their way in the world and so much harder when it builds upon other things. I feel a bit like that myself around extension of other shit, traumatic childhood in many ways, mental health issues, abusive relationships including having to flee with DD when she was younger, and I've never really had any help from anyone, I've pulled myself out of it, I had a business that was successful, but now it's all precarious, no Govt support, and it's dragging me back to past trauma, and DD now has no college and no job, possibly has ADHD, but there's no one to help. It's surprised me because I thought I'd never feel some of those things again, yet here we are. Hang on in there, and there's generally someone to chat here.

I could get behind killing people with axes - maybe I should get that too! DD has a Nintendo Switch, I could probably play on there.

Hi everyone,

Sorry I've not been too much around this last week but have been reading and thinking of you all. for anyone who is struggling atm.

@Jourdain11

Hi everyone,

Sorry I've not been too much around this last week but have been reading and thinking of you all. for anyone who is struggling atm.

How are you Jordain?

Yep, Handeltohendix that sounds very hard. I’m not particularly good at playing with my children. I do (ordinarily) do lots of things with them just not playing.

@DrRamsesEmerson

I could get behind killing people with axes - maybe I should get that too! DD has a Nintendo Switch, I could probably play on there.

Yes! Get it! I love Assassins Creed and am now reading a biography of Saladin (who got mentioned in the first AC).

How are you Jourdain?

I’m another one who’s not good at playing. Fortunately DD is old enough to stay in touch with friends online.

That sounds incredibly tough, @Handeltohendrix. You’ve done an amazing job to get this far. I know your DH has his own issues, but is there any way he could take some of this off your shoulders, even for a short time?

And hope you’re doing OK, Jourdain. Are you feeling a bit stronger?

Whitty - from wikipaedia

Whitty is a practising National Health Service (NHS) consultant physician at University College London Hospitals (UCLH) and the Hospital for Tropical Diseases, and Gresham Professor of Physic at Gresham College, a post dating back to 1597.[9] Until becoming CMO he was Professor of Public and International Health at the London School of Hygiene & Tropical Medicine (LSHTM).[10] He worked as a physician and researcher into infectious diseases in the UK, Africa and Asia. In 2008, the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation awarded the LSHTM £31 million for malaria research in Africa. At the time, Whitty was the principal investigator for the ACT Consortium, which conducted the research programme.[5][11]

and

It was reported that during the Christmas weekend of 2020, Whitty was spotted treating coronavirus patients in London. It was said he "worked the shifts in his capacity as a practising doctor [as] a consultant physician at University College London Hospitals Trust... on the north London hospital's respiratory ward over the weekend and bank holiday Monday".[25]

I'm not sure how the last para makes me feel. I think he believes he is doing the right things but, being a product of public boarding school, families are a total mystery to him - and of course women in general are around to look after children and make life easier for men.

I'm doing okay, thank you! Everyone is a bit fed up at home, surprise surprise. DH stroppy with online teaching, DC feeling a bit cooped up. I've been feeling a bit sick and tired, and sick and tired of feeling sick and tired, but better the last few days. So, can't complain overall!