ADs may have buggered boilers but we haven't got the clap

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The saga continues to continue with more sequels than a trilogy of trilogies...

Sorry, meant to add: ...so it includes everyone: the 'normal' deaths, COVID deaths, plus the lockdown deaths, missed and delayed diagnoses and treatment.

I am not in a happy mood this morning, school closures mean I constantly have my 5 year old. I had arranged to go view a house today which I sorted last Monday when schools were still open. When they closed I sorted childcare but they've cancelled so I can't go view it.

They won't let me take it unseen and I can't go view it until Wednesday at the earliest. Rentals seem to fly off the market almost immediately so I'm not holding out much hope of it being available for much longer.

Lockdown can do one.

Can't you take your DC with you to view?

No there are 2 of them so no way can I keep them under control and expect it not to get back to my husband.

@mightbealittlebitmad

No there are 2 of them so no way can I keep them under control and expect it not to get back to my husband.

I suppose anything out of routine like "emergency childcare" with a sympathetic friend runs the risk of little people telling too

I hope this week is a better week for all

@mightbealittlebitmad. I wish I could help you.

I am feeling hopeless again. And do you know what? I think the four horsemen are mean. I think they hate people acting like people and I think they are relishing every turn of the screw despite the words of regret. The regret is a lie. But we are now stuck and we will never get out.

@ISaySteadyOn

*@mightbealittlebitmad*. I wish I could help you.

I am feeling hopeless again. And do you know what? I think the four horsemen are mean. I think they hate people acting like people and I think they are relishing every turn of the screw despite the words of regret. The regret is a lie. But we are now stuck and we will never get out.

I feel like that too but everyone tells me I'm being ridiculous. I mean this way of life surely isn't sustainable but...

Well, we can be ridiculous together then

I'm struggling today, I feel like I'm getting no support from anyone. Maybe it's me that is expecting too much, maybe I should put up with being tracked and pestered into putting out. Apparently men have needs and women don't, I've been told to make an effort and maybe I'll enjoy it, get dressed up in something skimpy to please him.

I think I know it's not the right thing to do but when so many people are saying these things I start to wonder if it's me.

I'm going to have to deal with the fallout of my marriage breaking down and feeling like a massive failure, having to take the kids away from their home, their toys, their local friends and for what? I don't love him anymore or want to do anything? Maybe I need to just pretend for the greater good.

No Might, you are seeing clearly. You should not be treated like that. I know we're not much help for logistics, but we are here emotionally for you.
Children move.
Items are items.
Freedom is a himan right.

Children also know when their parents are unhappy and it matters more to resolve that when you have the opportunity.

What she said

I'm struggling today, I feel like I'm getting no support from anyone. Maybe it's me that is expecting too much, maybe I should put up with being tracked and pestered into putting out. Apparently men have needs and women don't, I've been told to make an effort and maybe I'll enjoy it, get dressed up in something skimpy to please him.

Nope. Don't do this. I had my boundaries constantly trampled on in a relationship, started bit by bit and it constantly wears you down. Now I look back and think it ended up in horrific sexual abuse and I've no idea why I tolerated it. He can go and have a wank with his "needs".

@TabbyStar

I'm struggling today, I feel like I'm getting no support from anyone. Maybe it's me that is expecting too much, maybe I should put up with being tracked and pestered into putting out. Apparently men have needs and women don't, I've been told to make an effort and maybe I'll enjoy it, get dressed up in something skimpy to please him.

Nope. Don't do this. I had my boundaries constantly trampled on in a relationship, started bit by bit and it constantly wears you down. Now I look back and think it ended up in horrific sexual abuse and I've no idea why I tolerated it. He can go and have a wank with his "needs".

He does but then he lays next to me and insists on touching me because otherwise it's not intimate. He complains that he has to do it himself, I told him to go pay someone but he's offended that I want him to go with someone else.

I haven't seen it myself but according to the people on the good news thread on the Corona board, Chris Whitty himself has said life will go back to normal. Apparently he said something along the lines of these are the hardest times and in a few months restrictions will be lifted in stages and we will return to normality. He said that is what we all want and as we all know he is very cautious so if he says that I trust it. It was said on the BBC, I hope that provides you with some reassurance.

No. They keep saying those things and they never come true. We now live in a health tyranny and the sooner I can get to grips with that the better. Thank you for trying though.

I do actually have respect for Chris Whitty. He's in a tough position but I think he's pretty sensible and believe him on timescales for lifting restrictions unlike most of our elected representatives.

A bit of a "friend of a friend" story I admit, but my parents have a friend who has worked with him, and they said he acts with integrity and has a brain the size of a house.

He does but then he lays next to me and insists on touching me because otherwise it's not intimate. He complains that he has to do it himself, I told him to go pay someone but he's offended that I want him to go with someone else.

Sounds dreadful. He's not a toddler, I'm sure he can manage these urges, he has no right to you, it's abuse, but I know how difficult it is to resist because of the sulking or "disappointment" or whatever other manipulative behaviour they throw at you

I honestly don't feel human anymore.

This is a good article from the BMJ about the narrative of people "flouting" the lockdown blogs.bmj.com/bmj/2021/01/07/pandemic-fatigue-how-adherence-to-covid-19-regulations-has-been-misrepresented-and-why-it-matters/

Thing is, every time I have hope, it gets snatched away so it is better to be hopeless and believe this will never end. And if I didn't have my family, well, I would be a statistic. but it wouldn't count because it wouldn't be a sadly death.

Oh Might, you know those boundaries are totally in the wrong place. But you can see that, and you can't unsee it now. I wish we could do something to help. You will get there. Just thinking about viewing a property is a massive step.

@mightbealittlebitmad, I too wish we could help more but you will get there.

Uni this morning is such a slog - no one wants to engage, the connection is shit, and from such an engaged sparky chatty bunch - we're all just broken.

checking in. Am in a god awful mood today. Dp has massively annoyed me, i need to crack on with re arranging the wedding for a second time, and now we are venueless and obviously cant go see anything, and ive just been told that one of our neighbours has died. UGH.

Whilst driving to work this morning i was genuinely like what if i just crash the car. I dont think ive ever felt quite that bad before.

I'm sitting here frustrated that so many of my 'anonymous friends' on here are suffering in different ways.

I wish I could help. I can't, other than to hear you and acknowledge your messages. But know that this anonymous internet stranger with the archaic Victoria Wood username is thinking of you.