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ADs and the hardon colanders

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CruCru · 19/12/2020 17:54

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AcornAutumn · 23/12/2020 11:20

@MoltenLasagne

We were told after the weekend announcements that we're not allowed my 94 year old Gran for Christmas despite self isolating for 2 weeks. She's essentially a prisoner in her care home now. Well, she has been for 9 months but it now feels official.

We visited through a window last night and she is so upset and angry. Said they'd best get her vaccinated or euthanized quickly because there's no point just existing like this.

But legally you are

Is this something to do with the care home?

AcornAutumn · 23/12/2020 11:21

iheartmysmart goodness, that’s not even uncharitable. I can’t say what I think because I’d get banned.

ISaySteadyOn · 23/12/2020 11:24

@Iheartmysmart, let the punishment fit the crime. If those are your uncharitable thoughts, then you are not alone. I feel the same.

MoltenLasagne · 23/12/2020 11:26

Yes the absurdly expensive care home have said if we take her we can't bring her back. We have a downstairs loo that works for visits but couldn't have her long term- we don't have a downstairs bed for one.

Its absolutely infuriating- she's been so happy in the Home and until this year they've been great but they have implemented the strictest of rules. They had an outbreak in the Home earlier in the year from carers bringing it in too. We're looking at alternatives but there aren't really any plus its (literally and rather morbidly) a case of dead man's shoes.

They know she won't want to move to lower quality homes and lose her friends so we basically have no leverage.

Iheartmysmart · 23/12/2020 11:26

Phew thanks! I was getting a bit worried that all this had turned me into some sort of psychopath.

Now is it too early for wine....

AcornAutumn · 23/12/2020 11:40

Molten that’s dreadful.

The care home aspect is one of the worst here.

I try to just crack on with stuff but at some point in the day I have a surge of utter disbelief that this is the world.

NannyGythaOgg · 23/12/2020 11:42

@MoltenLasagne

As you are legally allowed to have her visit I would threaten with deprivation of liberty and demand an immediate best interest meeting. This is torture pure and simple.

MoltenLasagne · 23/12/2020 12:00

Thanks both, we will try phoning again tonight to see if we can make any progress. Their argument is she's free to leave but not return.

NannyGythaOgg · 23/12/2020 12:13

I have a friend who does adult elf on the shelf, adult as in not child centred rather than rude.

Today's offering has elf surrounded by colanders and sieves and the note says 'Elf is worried a new strain is taking over'.

She is brilliant, there is a new one every day.

We've had
'Elf has missed being on a plane' (picture of elf surrounded by carpenters' planes)
'Elf has to keep on going' (surrounded by loo rolls)
'Elf has an underlying elf condition (Laid on another elf)
'Elf thinks drinking milk will help her get herd immunity' (with a glass of milk.
'Elf is a designated key worker but didn't appreciate getting the clap' (surrounded by house and car keys)
Elf in lockdown - all chained up
Elf says sanitiser is not improving her sanity

etc etc - there is a new one every day - She's brilliant

AcornAutumn · 23/12/2020 12:15

Here’s a really “uncharitable feeling” story which I’d like to share so I can do the appropriate fake sympathy

If you want a slight distraction from things, this might not be too boring

My mum is friends with a family I’m not too keen on. The father spends huge amounts of money on everything, designer everything, and had money trouble as a result. I couldn’t muster up any sympathy because he had it, he just squandered it.

At one point he dropped hints to my dad about giving him a loan (which in reality he’d never pay back). At dad’s funeral, he was dramatically “too upset” to speak to any of us properly. I appreciate funerals are upsetting but....something didn’t sit right with me, attention seeking maybe.

Anyway, he’s refused to go back to his office for several months now, insisting it’s too risky and he can do everything from home. He’s now managed to leave some Brexit paperwork to the last minute and I have a feeling he might get fired.

He’s been on the phone to mum in tears, but I’ve been puzzling all summer how he got away with never going into the office. Their requests were clear, he refused every time “because covid”. I don’t understand how he thought this was going to go....

If he loses his job he’ll be asking mum for money.

BogRollBOGOF · 23/12/2020 12:37

Acorn, nothing uncharitable about no sympathy there. Some people are architects of their own misfortune and not looking after what they had then wanting others to bear the responsibility.

MaudesMum · 23/12/2020 12:42

Cases are definitely going up in my South-West town - both according to the ONS reports and also anecdotally - I know of two positive tests and one waiting for results, amongst my fairly small social circle over the last few days. It does get to you slightly - I woke up this morning with a bit of a snuffle, and started to think should I get a test? I then reminded myself I'd had 3 glasses of red wine the previous night and that always makes me a bit snuffly...

Iheartmysmart · 23/12/2020 13:10

Nothing uncharitable about that Acorn.

I’m feeling a bit uncharitable towards a poster on another thread. Probably my fault, apparently I was patronising because I suggested to a certain rather hysterical poster (or troll) that perhaps they should get some help for their anxiety. Cue a “I have anxiety and I can’t leave the house” post. I didn’t mean to offend but I can’t work out how anxiety trumps other issues such as people losing their homes, poverty and hunger at the moment.

Cases going up where I am in the SW as well but I still only know 4 people who have tested positive since March.

justasking111 · 23/12/2020 13:25

cases up in my region in n wales, but caveat, they missed so many tests they are drip feeding them back in.

justasking111 · 23/12/2020 13:27

@AcornAutumn

Here’s a really “uncharitable feeling” story which I’d like to share so I can do the appropriate fake sympathy

If you want a slight distraction from things, this might not be too boring

My mum is friends with a family I’m not too keen on. The father spends huge amounts of money on everything, designer everything, and had money trouble as a result. I couldn’t muster up any sympathy because he had it, he just squandered it.

At one point he dropped hints to my dad about giving him a loan (which in reality he’d never pay back). At dad’s funeral, he was dramatically “too upset” to speak to any of us properly. I appreciate funerals are upsetting but....something didn’t sit right with me, attention seeking maybe.

Anyway, he’s refused to go back to his office for several months now, insisting it’s too risky and he can do everything from home. He’s now managed to leave some Brexit paperwork to the last minute and I have a feeling he might get fired.

He’s been on the phone to mum in tears, but I’ve been puzzling all summer how he got away with never going into the office. Their requests were clear, he refused every time “because covid”. I don’t understand how he thought this was going to go....

If he loses his job he’ll be asking mum for money.

So he is not a relative but will still hit on your mum, jesus christ.
AcornAutumn · 23/12/2020 14:06

just I don’t know that he’ll actually do it, I should hang fire I suppose

But he did try it on with dad after getting into debt.

Ironically, the reason my parents are friends with him is that they knew his parents. When my parents were early 70s, his parents were late 80s and my parents helped his parents with things.

Sometimes I understood it because my parents were retired but then his parents said quite bluntly “we don’t want to rely on him for anything because he’ll let us down”. So when the mother had a hip replacement- the father had dementia so had a carer himself - it was my parents who drove them around, ensured carers, even stayed at the hospital to be emergency contacts etc when the operation was done.

When they had problems with things like the boiler going wrong, it would be my parents who would go and deal with engineers and loan spare heaters etc.

I think that kind of friendship is wonderful. But I don’t want to feel obliged to the feckless son of the friend. I do feel sorry for his children but his wife also spends money like you wouldn’t believe. They both find me a bit odd for being a saver. My sister doesn’t live in London so hasn’t had to see them much.

The guy actually said to my dad “you don’t have to worry about your daughters, they don’t spend much do they?”

As if his lifestyle should be supported by others, it’s very weird.

LivinLaVidaLoki · 23/12/2020 14:24

Apparently wanksock is on TV at 3.
The kids haven't lost enough this year, so let's take their cartoons away at Christmas too so he can strut about like Billy Big bollocks on TV.

Unless he's going to resign I ain't interested.

BogRollBOGOF · 23/12/2020 14:24

Wasn't there a character like that in Bleak House?

Plibber · 23/12/2020 14:24

Well today sucks.

Our boiler is on its last legs, will be replaced in Jan, and our plumber thought it should be OK until then.

But no, today it's completely kaput.

Luckily we have a couple of oil filled radiators...

We're tier 4, but I can pick up another one from Argos in a local Sainsbury's today, apparently - so

Plibber · 23/12/2020 14:25

Argh, pressed post too soon.

So we shouldn't die of hypothermia.

However, no hot water...

If only the gyms were open, we could go and shower there. But we're tier 4, so we can't. Excellent.

thenightsky · 23/12/2020 14:26

Elf says sanitiser is not improving her sanity

Oh wish that was the case. I'd be drinking the damn stuff. Grin

justasking111 · 23/12/2020 14:31

@Plibber

Argh, pressed post too soon.

So we shouldn't die of hypothermia.

However, no hot water...

If only the gyms were open, we could go and shower there. But we're tier 4, so we can't. Excellent.

Phone plumber they may be able to tickle it on until after xmas. Book a new one as an incentive, bats eyelashes.....
justasking111 · 23/12/2020 14:32

@LivinLaVidaLoki

Apparently wanksock is on TV at 3. The kids haven't lost enough this year, so let's take their cartoons away at Christmas too so he can strut about like Billy Big bollocks on TV.

Unless he's going to resign I ain't interested.

Were they not two hours late for one big announcement which must be irritating for tv scheduling.
AcornAutumn · 23/12/2020 14:32

@BogRollBOGOF

Wasn't there a character like that in Bleak House?
A character like Matt Hancock?

I have a Pavlovian response of panic when Hancock appears, which is probably planned.

LivinLaVidaLoki · 23/12/2020 14:33

Also what the fuck is wrong with people on here? Soon as the pressers are announced, thread after thread of "must be a lockdown".

They stated at the last one they'd have more information about the new variant in amatter of days so maybe that? And tier 4 expansion?

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