Page 19 | ADs and the hardon colanders

LivinLaVidaLoki · 22/12/2020 07:43

@110APiccadilly

"don't do x, you and z or you could end up in hospital for a few days and then recover" isn't exactly the massive deterrent you would think....

If that were a deterrent, no one would have children.

😂 love it

MaudesMum · 22/12/2020 08:09

@Pleasedontdothat I do! Inherited it from my Mum who used it to summon my Dad in her later years when she was both frail and bad tempered. But, there's not a snowball's chance in hell that I'll be ringing it.

JamSarnie · 22/12/2020 08:13

It's pretty frightening on the 'other place'. So much anger and bonkers views from some people

Iheartmysmart · 22/12/2020 08:15

If anyone rings a bell anywhere near me I shall shove it up their arse sideways!

@Blobby10 you must be very proud of your son.

I’m not normally an anxious person but I seem to be waking up each morning at the moment feeling sick with a sense of impending doom. Ridiculous as I don’t know anyone who is ill and my job is relatively secure. Can only put it down to living life in a constant state of uncertainty.

JamSarnie · 22/12/2020 08:20

Can only put it down to living life in a constant state of uncertainty.

And a constant level of anxiety and stress is really bad for health. God knows what the long term effects of this will be. Maybe we need a new name like 'long-non-covid' for it to be looked at seriously.

EternalOptimist7 · 22/12/2020 08:20

Haven’t read the previous thread or the whole of this one but must admit to being amused by “ hardon colanders” lol 🤣

ProfessorRadcliffeEmerson · 22/12/2020 08:26

@Iheartmysmart

If anyone rings a bell anywhere near me I shall shove it up their arse sideways!

@Blobby10 you must be very proud of your son.

I’m not normally an anxious person but I seem to be waking up each morning at the moment feeling sick with a sense of impending doom. Ridiculous as I don’t know anyone who is ill and my job is relatively secure. Can only put it down to living life in a constant state of uncertainty.

Me too. I’m not normally anxious either but I am a planner in ordinary times - I hate being forced int choosing between planning things, knowing they might be snatched away by a rule change, and planning nothing and having endless bleak nothingness ahead.

Iheartmysmart · 22/12/2020 08:28

I think you’re right Jam. Don’t want to sound like a drama queen but I’m not sure that I will return to the person I was for quite a while after all this is over. Particularly when there are people clamouring for an annual lockdown and mask wearing over winter.

There are going to be mental health implications emerging from this for years to come.

mightbealittlebitmad · 22/12/2020 08:33

I'm also living in almost permanent angst at the moment. There is way too much uncertainty at the minute, I don't know when my workplace can open, I fear schools and nurseries will be closing in January, I can't plan anything and no idea when I'll be able to see my parents legally.

I'm constantly short tempered with the kids and I've lost all desire to do anything. If I didn't have them I wouldn't bother getting out of bed. This year has totally turned my life upside down and left me very confused about everything.

I'm worried that this is the way of life now and I don't know how I'll be able to live like this long term.

SufferingFromLongLockdown · 22/12/2020 08:52

Yep. The effects of the first lockdown left me claustrophobic. I was just starting to feel like I was recovering then they started with the constant threats of local lockdown, firebreaks and leaked details.
That's when I started waking in the night in the middle of panic attacks. I'd never had a panic attack in my life before!
The tier system was a relief because at least I knew what was the worst we could possibly get and again I started to feel better, but now we have tier 4. More lockdown and all bets are off. The effects of LongLockdown are just as insidious as LongCovid and I think will affect far more people across all ages. The poor teenagers around me after suffering horribly..

TabbyStar · 22/12/2020 09:00

I'm struggling to keep up with what's right and not with the data, but this made me laugh.

TabbyStar · 22/12/2020 09:04

I've got two weeks off, but I have very little work in the first three months of the year, so I'm thinking I need to plan some marketing to tie in with new year. I've done so much unpaid work this year to try to pivot my business and only had one full week off so far. This on top of caring for my DM and coping with my DD dropping out of college because of her mental health.

I know I should take a break for my own wellbeing, but it's difficult when I'm worried about no income for either me or DD in the new year.

BogRollBOGOF · 22/12/2020 09:41

@mightbealittlebitmad

I'm also living in almost permanent angst at the moment. There is way too much uncertainty at the minute, I don't know when my workplace can open, I fear schools and nurseries will be closing in January, I can't plan anything and no idea when I'll be able to see my parents legally.

I'm constantly short tempered with the kids and I've lost all desire to do anything. If I didn't have them I wouldn't bother getting out of bed. This year has totally turned my life upside down and left me very confused about everything.

I'm worried that this is the way of life now and I don't know how I'll be able to live like this long term.

Similar here. Took the DCs swimming last night and can't confidently say that we'll be be back after 2 weeks... I really, really hope that primary school continues regardless. Home learning and having no respite from each other was tortuous. Now there's so little daylight, the weather and ground conditions are poor, it's hard to get out constantly. I'm an outdoorsy person, I'm not afraid of mud and weather, but to do that daily to the kids as their only way to get out of the house is too far.

I'm struggling to wake up at present. My dreams are too vivid. I have just had the excitement of saving a whale, so that was way more exciting than RL

Pleasedontdothat · 22/12/2020 09:44

One of my sisters was quite dementory at first (teacher) but over the months (and months) she’s become less anxious and more pragmatic. Originally she and her family (four adults in total) were going to come over for Boxing Day and then we got shoved into tier 4 ... this morning she called to ask if we’d still be happy for them to come round. We were weighing up the likelihood of one of my neighbours snitching on us when we suddenly realised that if anyone had told us we’d be having this conversation a year ago we’d have thought they were completely bonkers ...

MargosKaftan · 22/12/2020 09:59

I just ventured on the "close the schools!" thread. Firstly, most are shut now for a fortnight and then secondary schools will home learning for the first week, so 3 week break. Secondly, the numbers being angry that children aren't isolated from the rest of the household is astounding, my kids currently share a bedroom, they need cuddles and attention, my youngest needs help to brush her teeth and brush her hair, eldest still needs help hair washing to get all the shampoo out, we don't have a huge house with multiple sitting rooms to spread out in - so how do you isolate your child from the rest of your household without being neglectful?

DominaShantotto · 22/12/2020 10:06

I’m at my mums. At least I’m away from any Christmas Eve bell ringing (the clap for carers was awful where we live) and we were going to leave the kids here into the new year so me and dh could have a break.

If schools close I’m playing the maternal mental health card and pushing for mine to get back into keyworker provision ASAP. I can’t do March again

Iheartmysmart · 22/12/2020 10:09

@MargosKaftan I think a lot of the problem is that many mumsnetters don’t inhabit the real world and can’t comprehend the fact that if schools aren’t open then many people can’t work. Couple that with a number of vocal teachers on here clamouring for school closures and the made up mumsnet roolz of Covid it all gets a bit ridiculous.

DS is older and working but if he was ill there is no way I’d isolate him. Not that it would be possible in a small two bed flat anyway.

RobinHobb · 22/12/2020 10:10

Thanks everyone
I am taking a break from all news and everything but here! I don't do any other social media anyway.
I think I can deal with anything but schools being shut. I think like a pp said that the constant state of "not knowing" is what's making me feel really off balance and kilter all the time.

My 3 year old is a very social child and she had just settled into her pre-school, and I don't want her disrupted. My 5 year old is going well but I feel like she's ok to deal with a month at home and no school.

As for me: my post graduate degree is a shitshow anyway, the exams replaced with "exams" that are EXACTLY the same as previous years but they are open book and have a 24 hour window to complete online. I confess I am a sad person and I love to study and sit exams and I find the whole non exam but exam thing really demotivating. I felt proud of 90% average but now everyone will have the same grade with non of the work. Plus this is my "career changing" degree I didn't want it to be crap. But I've accepted this, my degree has no value - but I can still learn from the material. This kept me grounded until now I realise the kids will be home again in January.

I love my children but I was desperate to go back to work this year, I hate being a sahm as it is but just about managed it with all the things that are open to us, play dates and soft plays and parks.... but this: inside a house the whole day with two kids under 5, makes me genuinely really fearful.

I am one of the mn so called "privileged" as it is: husband wfh in well paid job, sahm, big house and garden. I know I don't have it so bad and I am trying to be grateful and cope with it, but I find I can cope with it all, infinite house arrest even but not with school closures.

That was long, but therapeutic. Thanks all for making this a safe place to say all this.

SatanClaus · 22/12/2020 10:20

I’m going into town with DD later (Tier 3). I’m going to have a wander around the shops, grab a Christmas hot chocolate and do something as close to normal as we can whilst we can.

DominaShantotto · 22/12/2020 10:42

I have no idea where the kids are - I assume my stepfather's taken them out to his office to draw pictures and drink hot chocolate while he does zoom calls.

ISaySteadyOn · 22/12/2020 10:44

@RobinHobb

Thanks everyone I am taking a break from all news and everything but here! I don't do any other social media anyway. I think I can deal with anything but schools being shut. I think like a pp said that the constant state of "not knowing" is what's making me feel really off balance and kilter all the time.

My 3 year old is a very social child and she had just settled into her pre-school, and I don't want her disrupted. My 5 year old is going well but I feel like she's ok to deal with a month at home and no school.

As for me: my post graduate degree is a shitshow anyway, the exams replaced with "exams" that are EXACTLY the same as previous years but they are open book and have a 24 hour window to complete online. I confess I am a sad person and I love to study and sit exams and I find the whole non exam but exam thing really demotivating. I felt proud of 90% average but now everyone will have the same grade with non of the work. Plus this is my "career changing" degree I didn't want it to be crap. But I've accepted this, my degree has no value - but I can still learn from the material. This kept me grounded until now I realise the kids will be home again in January.

I love my children but I was desperate to go back to work this year, I hate being a sahm as it is but just about managed it with all the things that are open to us, play dates and soft plays and parks.... but this: inside a house the whole day with two kids under 5, makes me genuinely really fearful.

I am one of the mn so called "privileged" as it is: husband wfh in well paid job, sahm, big house and garden. I know I don't have it so bad and I am trying to be grateful and cope with it, but I find I can cope with it all, infinite house arrest even but not with school closures.

That was long, but therapeutic. Thanks all for making this a safe place to say all this.

I'm in a similar position. DH is WFH in a good job and we are very very lucky. I know this. But all my winter resources are gone. The worst is no access to libraries to browse in or go to Lego Club in.

Honestly, I could handle all this better if I could go to the library. But no, libraries are forbidden. And I think that's sinister, actually.

Recycledblonde · 22/12/2020 10:47

We didn’t isolate at all when we had it, kids are all adults but I still cooked, we ate together, hugged each other and watched TV together. The kids didn’t catch it.

BogRollBOGOF · 22/12/2020 10:55

RobinHobb, a gilded cage is still a cage.

I know I could have it so much worse. I can't change others' circumstances, but I can listen, validate and speak up for them.
Everyone's feelings and emotions are valid. That's why these threads have been so valuable.

I found with open book assessments that you still needed a good grasp so you could pin point the information that you needed for accuracy.. People who blunder in and have to browse for the information still don't do as well.

I always thought that it was an injustice that I could take my A-level English lit texts in to the exam, but had to memorise the French lit quotes, especially the archaic Molliere!

AcornAutumn · 22/12/2020 10:57

The CPAP woman puzzled me from the start. Hospitalised with pneumonia, for me or anyone else I know, has not been a situation where posting on a forum would even enter your head, never mind be feasible.

Worldgonecrazy · 22/12/2020 10:58

Just because some of us are lucky enough to be ‘privileged’ (garden, job, food) it doesn’t mean we can’t feel angry, anxious or generally shit about things. This isn’t a race to the bottom.

We are allowed to be empathic towards those who may be struggling more than us, and we are allowed to hate those wankers who are doing this to us.